Should a sahm do dh ironing?

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I have 2 small children and one due in October and I hate ironing.
I haven't ironed dh shirts in about a year since I told him I was not going to do it.
The ironing pile has grown over the past year and dh is complaining he has no clothes and he keeps asking for them to be ironed and nothings been ironed in a year.
It's all his T-shirts I don't iron my clothes and I don't iron the children's unless it's a particular item that needs it.
I am a sahm at the moment but I really don't like ironing and nor does he am I right to refuse as he wears it, he irons it or is this just part of my role as a sahm?

Lots wrong with tablet time for preschoolers and a massive educational impact on its over use including fine and gross motor skills, imagination and being able to self occupy

Tbh I work full time and do all the ironing. In the same way he does all the gardening and puts the bins out. I just do it I don't really give it another thought

Under fives should not be given tablets so mum can do housework.

I have never ironed anyone else's stuff. Even DCs did their
own once they needed to at secondary, even when SAHM. If you don't like it, don't do it. And who are all these people who think you should......are we in the 1950s?

My 2 year old uses a tablet for some games and to watch some kids TV she likes.

Her motor skills are way beyond where they should be for her age. As is her speech, imagination, memory etc. She's also brilliant at self occupying.

Balance is absolutely fine. Using it as a babysitter is not.

I do ironing now that I'm retired (DH still working) but when I worked we paid someone else to do it.

But if you weren't ironing, and he was asking for it specially, would you do it?

Or to put it another way, if he was suddenly insisting you start weeding alongside everything else you do. Because that's the equivalent for OP. She's not currently ironing so he's asking her to start adding another task because he wants t-shirts ironing.

No, he is a grown adult with 2 arms and hands I’m assuming?? He can do it himself.

Why don't you swap with your DH then?! No-one's stopping you. You have every chance to go out and be the breadwinner!

But you won't.

No SAHM will stop places with their WORKING DH. As I said, SAHM is the best life, and no woman will swap with her DH and go to work full time while DH stays at home.

LOL as if! 😂

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Yeah he can do his ironing himself, and then when the OP wants a tyre changing on her car, or the grass cutting, or some furniture building, he can tell her to do that herself. Because ya know, she's a GROWN ADULT with 2 hands and 2 arms I'm assuming?

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I'm quite capable of doing all those things.

I build furniture myself because yes I have two arms and hands!! It’s not difficult. And yes can also mow the lawn. These are not “women’s jobs” and “men’s jobs”
However these are HIS clothes. If he wants them ironing he can iron them.

There really is no simple answer here without working put exactly how much leisure time you each get without work, chores or kids. I totally understand a lot of people need or want to be very smart for work but we get non-iron shirts and only iron things if attending an interview, wedding or if one particular garment looks creased (we buy carefully and hand stuff out to dry carefully so that doesn't usually happen). This has been the case in all situations from me being on mat leave, working PT or FT. I would resent ironing DH's shirts personally.

Yeah most of these SAHMs won't go back to work though will they? They know they've got it made being able to stay at home.

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Ignoring the several posters (including myself) who have said they absolutely would be the breadwinner, are you? Just responding to the ones you think are lying?

Lots of folk manage to work raise children and iron a few shirts. What is wrong with people.

Good for you! 👏

It shouldn't cost much to hire someone to do it tbh.

Why can't her DH manage then?

The sexism on you is unreal.

If you were a SAHM and all kids in school so you had the time to do it, I’d say yes. But two little ones plus being heavily pregnant! No way.

T-Shirts if hung/aired properly when drying shouldn’t need an iron. Shirts do but, just iron and go or outsource. (So iron the one shirt needed the night before - he can do this) if you’re doing most of the other work you’ve got enough on your plate! Life’s too short to spend hours ironing!

God what a fuss over nothing. Do what you want OP.

I’ve been a SAHM for 20 years. Just send ironing out. Or give damp things a bit of a spin in the tumble drier and be done with it.

When it is over used, yes. Used occasionally so mum can eat, have a break or clean? Non issue.

Of course you should.

Why?