Should a sahm do dh ironing?

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I have 2 small children and one due in October and I hate ironing.
I haven't ironed dh shirts in about a year since I told him I was not going to do it.
The ironing pile has grown over the past year and dh is complaining he has no clothes and he keeps asking for them to be ironed and nothings been ironed in a year.
It's all his T-shirts I don't iron my clothes and I don't iron the children's unless it's a particular item that needs it.
I am a sahm at the moment but I really don't like ironing and nor does he am I right to refuse as he wears it, he irons it or is this just part of my role as a sahm?

I know it's slightly off on a tangent, but how do people who say they never iron manage to look smart? With the exception of a handful of crinkle skirts and tops, I don't possess anything that doesn't need ironing after it's been washed, and neither does my husband. I can't wear man made fabrics next to my skin, and no matter what I do with fabrics like linen, cotton, and silk, if they're not ironed, I look like I've slept in them.

I work 34hpw and do all the ironing. DH does other stuff.

You said "Going to the park, soft play, play date is 2 hrs max so what you doing with the rest of your time .. "

You're the one criticising.

oh but working and having no responsibility out of that is just sooooo difficult and if you work a full time job you couldn't possibly ever lift a finger at home.

Now magically you'd manage it if you didn't have a partner but if there's a partner at home then all you need to do is go to work and then rest and get a full nights sleep and then work and rest and get a full nights sleep and repeat because that's all you're capable of.

I do wonder how nursery teachers can take care of so many children, feed them, tidy up and do everything else around it. Must be magic.

With respect people have different opinions on what is good and bare minimum in childcare eye contact and attention is important or you might as well be plugging them into devices.

I hate it as well. I actually got the ironing board out a few weeks ago and did a pile. It gave me the absolute rage. I'll probably just go back to iron what needs it as I go again. I don't iron husbands shit. He knows where it's kept

It's your job to run the house. It's not your job to pick up after another adult and the ironing is included in that. He's lucky you wash and dry his clothes.

With respect, children do not be personally entertained by a parent 24/7.

Not trying to look smart.
I wouldn't wear those fabrics except cotton and if it's tumble dried it's flat enough and if you fold it/hang it it won't be crinkled. Yes I imagine linen would be.
As soon as you wear a piece of clothing it gets crinkled. After an hour everyone looks the same anyway. I don't clock who does and doesn't iron.
Why can't you wear fabric mixes?

I don't think nursery teachers iron or do other housework while looking after the children.

So you knows it's not 1 teacher to 30 kids right?
Plus they don't clean at all. Plus it's a full time job! You're literally downplaying paid work now! The irony.

They need quite a lot of entertainment when they are very young. Mine did anyway.

Nope, absolutely no reason for you to iron his shirts. If he wants the, ironed he can do it himself.

I thought "us, millenials" had abolished ironing from Society! I have, in my house! lol who has the time for it nowadays? (Admitedly, nobody in the household wears shirts, if my DH wore shirts, i wouldnt be ironing, but also I work FT not a SAHM)
Kids Summer uniform is Polo shirts and their winter shirts don't get ironed, I buy anti-crease ones, they go underneath a jumper anyway, and in y1 and reception, they will be a whole mess before lunch time anyway, ironed shirts or not!!!)
Any other votes for abolishing ironing as a society? Or am I a slob? (Maybe I know I am a bit...)

Sorry this is astounding me you made this comment. Nurseries have cleaners, chefs, administrators. The nursery nurses do the childcare and they have small numbers of kids per person

I don't iron mine or DC's stuff, but always ironed my ex's stuff when he needed to look smart as a) he was crap at ironing and b) it felt like a nice thing to do for him.

So you think after being out for 2 hrs a day with my children I just come home and let them fend for themselves and sit and put my feet up. Or do you think maybe I spend the rest of the day sorting the house, doing errands, cooking and playing and feeding the kids ect like everyone should be doing. If I was a sahm and my partner was working 12/13 hr days I wouldn't play with my kids for 13hrs as things need to be done and they also need to learn to occupy themselves. Unfortunately I don't have the privilege of being a sahm so I have to do all these things around a job aswell

I wouldn’t do it!

Being a SAHM doesn’t mean you have to do all the housework, particularly when you are pregnant and have two young children.

I asked one of these poor men who have to go out to work to fund the luxurious lifestyles the stay at home mothers of their children have. I know on Mumsnet it's extremely frowned upon by some people to bother the men folk at work or even have any communication with your partner while you're apart because it's SO clingy and weird. Anyway I just wanted to clarify in case I was getting it wrong and he had never told me 😂 (I had to blur out his initial answer because it was highly inappropriate🙈)

YANBU don't waste your life ironing, t shirts don't even need ironing. The odd item if needed is fair enough but other than that nah

And childcare, cooking the dinner, etc. most think SAHM is a do everything 18 plus hours 7 days a week whilst GOD (0h) sits back after his gruelling 8 hours and full lunch break without wiping arses changing nappies mid sandwich

Well aren't you and the people in your country/culture so amazing? Well done. Does it make you feel happy and proud of yourself to observe something that people struggle with and then berate and ridicule them for it?

What's weird is women telling other women in 2024 that they should be doing absolutely everything in the home and criticise women if they can't/don't run a home to their husbands (or your) standards.

Get over yourself!

Once again there’s no indication of what OP’s DH does for a living or what hours he works. If he can support a SAHM and three kids it must be a decent job.

When I was a SAHM we paid someone to do DH's shirts and I didn't bother ironing anything else.