Should a sahm do dh ironing?

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I have 2 small children and one due in October and I hate ironing.
I haven't ironed dh shirts in about a year since I told him I was not going to do it.
The ironing pile has grown over the past year and dh is complaining he has no clothes and he keeps asking for them to be ironed and nothings been ironed in a year.
It's all his T-shirts I don't iron my clothes and I don't iron the children's unless it's a particular item that needs it.
I am a sahm at the moment but I really don't like ironing and nor does he am I right to refuse as he wears it, he irons it or is this just part of my role as a sahm?

The idea that you are responsible for another adults clothing is bizarre to me! No way would I iron for anyone else other than a small child maybe… TBH I’m not even sure where our iron is!

Why are we calling taking care of kids at home a luxury?
So odd.

My kids are all well rounded individuals and top of their classes. I work full time, get them to hockey, ballet, horse riding, band and gym. This morning I threw veg and beef in the slow cooker so they have a home cooked meal when we get home and their uniforms are ironed without fail. So 🙄. I do have a clue actually.

Firstly, I said it hasn't been the job of women to do men's ironing since the 50s not that no women ever does it. Just because someone does something it doesn't mean it is their job and that they have to do it! I see it as a favour if I iron something for DH just as it is a favour if he irons something of mine. Secondly, being at home with two small children, and doing all the housework while being pregnant is not a "luxury".

Because only having one income is something that many people can’t afford?

How isn’t it a luxury? Especially these days.

Some people act like men are going off to war when they go to work, they're just doing what most of them would be doing even if they were single ffs.

And they normally benefit from coming home to most of the chores being done and a meal and knowing that their kids were looked after all day.

And even that's not enough, if his lordship wants his shirt ironed then she better iron his shirts for him seeing as she owes him absolutely everything as he's keeping her in complete luxury🙄

So when he gets back from a 13 hr day should he also cook his own dinner, do his own laundry, clean the house top to bottom. What is the wife doing all day during this

Same here, always been like this. I think it’s simply impossible for some people to even fathom, so they become angry instead.

Ah yes cos they all conveniently nap well at the same time when there is 3 of them..
Plus there's other house work that needs doing I'm sure that's more important than ironing.
Does she get no breaks? I'm sure he does at work.

Nope a sahm means you are responsible for the children....he's not your child

I work 2 days, him 5. Only thing that gets ironed in our house is his work shirts and he does it. I hate ironing and don't see the point for most things!

Where on earth do you get that I spend 2 hrs a day with my children and then put my feet up from

While the Queen at home is complaining about doing anything else than sitting at home because it’s so very hard work to look after two children.

Childcare costs so much it barely makes a difference unless you're a high earner.
Some people are willing to scrape by in order to have a parent stay home because it's important for them. It's not a luxury

And your not his so pay your own bills or work as a team and actually do things for each other

No, people are angry because of the appalling comments and old fashioned attitudes.

The attitude towards SAHPs here really is quite breath taking! The OP isn’t saying she won’t take on the lions share of the domestic tasks, she is simply saying this one task he could manage.

Oh she does the life admin, remember? It takes a very long time, to do life admin AND look after your children.

These kids are all at school.. that's completely incomparable to preschoolers and babies. obviously.
Also if it's so easy to do these things while working full time then why can't he iron his shirts hmm?

Full time work often doesn't cover the cost of full time childcare so it is often more economical to stay at home for a couple of years when the children are small.

Nope, I am sure that she does plenty and more than her fair share at home. She just doesn't want to iron and her DH is well capable of doing his own ironing.

If you've got 2 Los there is plenty to do opportunities for messy play, puzzles, reading, building fine and gross motor skills....basically everything they get at nursery there nap and short periods are for chores and if your lucky lunch.

My mum did it. I do it. It’s really not hard.

They cannot fathom how we possibly do it all so they resort to name calling or criticising our parenting

Not really. Where I am there are basically no SAHP. People can manage very well anyway. It’s weird how so many in the UK can’t.

No! As my husband used to say, you're staying home to look after the kids, not do housework.