Should a sahm do dh ironing?

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I have 2 small children and one due in October and I hate ironing.
I haven't ironed dh shirts in about a year since I told him I was not going to do it.
The ironing pile has grown over the past year and dh is complaining he has no clothes and he keeps asking for them to be ironed and nothings been ironed in a year.
It's all his T-shirts I don't iron my clothes and I don't iron the children's unless it's a particular item that needs it.
I am a sahm at the moment but I really don't like ironing and nor does he am I right to refuse as he wears it, he irons it or is this just part of my role as a sahm?

Perhaps OP is at home for the benefit of her children rather than because it is the arrangement that makes her happiest. That is why I stayed at home when my children were young. It certainly wasn't so I could be a skivvy for DH.

So what if she did choose to do all of that? Doesnt mean that the hits she is taking in order to save the family a lot of money and further her husbands career at the expense of her own, arent important. And I would say that those hits more than even up the fact that he has to iron his own fucking t shirts!

If ever you wondered what 1950s MN would have looked like. Then just read some of this thread.

What times and what situation? We'd leave our babies outside, outside shops etc. When I was a child from the age of about eight you could knock on someone's door and take the baby for a walk. Then there was the extended family of SAH women and neighbours. We also parent completely different, benign neglect was a parenting expectation. A lot of my neighbours had their Mum's doing stuff like that.
OP it depends on why he says he can't do his own. My DH used to take the toddlers out on a Saturday and I was left with just the bf baby. But he'd also take them all and I'd watch a soap on the ominbus showing while ironing. My DH didn't get much time with our children because of working hours. But if working hours aren't the issue, then he could just do his own.

I don't have kids, so genuine question here... Kids supposedly sleep a lot, so isn't there more than enough time to do general housework, etc during those times? We have a cleaner who does everything we need within 2-3 hours, so even if they only sleep a few hours between DH's work hours, it sounds like there's plenty of free time.

Did you miss the bit where OP has two kids and one on the way? She's not sitting on her arse twiddling her thumbs. Shame on you.

Hahahahaha.

I wonder where all these stupid posts are comng from?🤔

When I was a SAHP, I did iron my DH shirts - that is shirts for work.
I never iron T shirts.

My DC went to bed quite early but only slept in the day when they were babies.

There is people on here are ridiculous whenever iv been on maternity leave so at home all day iv found it really boring as when your at home everyday your able to keep on top of everything so there isn't that much to do. Young children nap older children are in nursery or school.

Yeah and that thinking is why you will get very funny threads about what women thought they would do on maternity leave v reality. Clue: no you wont have time to write a book.

I have a 2 year old and am pregnant (so more tired than usual). My 2 year old sleeps the exact same hours as I do overnight and I have done every wake up since birth. She doesn't nap in the day.

When she did nap she would only nap in my arms for the first year which made it impossible to get anything done since my arms were never free.

There was a glorious year or so, ages 1-2, where I got a break during her nap time to do housework and make food.

Neither of us are stay at home but we iron as & when something needs it (rare). I absolutely swear by crease release spray which you literally give a little spray & item looks ironed.

If your older children are in nursery or school while you have been on maternity leave then you are not in the same situation as OP.

When I was a sahm, I didn’t find it that onerous tbh. It was far harder commuting, working long hours and getting home exhausted. I quit after my second-but in the nineties, life was more affordable on one salary. I used to have a tidy house with dinner prepared when dh came home-the children always ate with us and found it far more relaxing than rushing home, stressed about what to eat, collecting fractious kids on the way. They went to bed about 8 when they were young and we spent the rest of the evening relaxing after dh cleared the kitchen. I thought I had plenty of time to get things done and also time to go to parks, play dates etc.

Depends on how little/demanding the kids are. If I had a spare moment I would iron, but tbh there are other priorities.

My DP irons his own shirts but then again he only needs a shirt on the rare occasion we get a babysitter to go out for dinner, and he will often iron my outfit at the same time.

As a household, we don't iron anything else. I think with very young children your DP should be doing his own ironing, or pay an ironing service.

If I was out the house 12/13 hours a day and my husband was home with the children I would absolutely expect him to keep on top of everything in the home. Most families have 2 working parents or a working single parent and still manage to do these things

My first baby napped during the day so I got lots done when she was small. She stopped at 18 months. But I also had PND.

Baby two didn't nap during the day. She also breastfed every hour (literally every hour) till she was 6 months old. And then I had a 6 month old and a nearly 3 year old at home so hahahahahaha about getting jobs done during the day.

Baby three slept a bit during the day, but I had two other children at home. SEN meant DD1 didn't go to nursery. I had home help for a bit (hooray, PND and physical issues) and sent out the ironing, and then we got a cleaner.

I'm still at home with the children because I home educate. I DO iron for DH. But he walks the dog instead.

If you go back through the women in your family do you think the last SAHM did the ironing for her husband?

Which is why I said when their younger then 2/3 and in no form of childcare then they will likely have naps

Wow, I'm a SAHM mum and we don't even own an iron. The shame!

If my husband needed work shirts or whatever I would probably share the task sometimes do it and sometimes he would. But it would never be expected of me to do it and if a pile built up with the expectation that I did I would be seething and refuse to do it on principle.

There is people on here are ridiculous whenever iv been on maternity leave so at home all day iv found it really boring as when your at home everyday your able to keep on top of everything so there isn't that much to do. Young children nap older children are in nursery or school.

My children both stopped napping age 18 months (much to my horror), and obviously don't go to nursery as I'm a SAHM. In any case, I don't understand comments like this - does anyone really spend maternity leave at home all day every day? Or even most days?! I'm a SAHM and barely ever at home, the children and I are out and about having fun 99% of the time. I'm home maybe an extra hour or two compared to my husband, in which time I'm likely doing food prep/cooking and the important housework - not bloody ironing!! I don't know any mum friend who spends all their time at home.

It really depends on the individual situation. We had twins and they napped a lot at first. But not always at the same time... And I guess I did do more housework during that time than I do now when at home alone with the kids but some days I also just wanted to sit and have a break while they napped because I was tired especially when they went down to one nap a day which only lasted an hour. Then they went to nursery at 2 years old a couple of days a week but then we had another baby who also napped a lot. But I either had the twins at home with her or again, I needed a break myself during her nap time. Like her siblings, she never had big long naps except at the very young baby stage. Then she stopped napping completely at 18 months anyway. She's now 2 and will be going to nursery 2 days a week and the twins just started school yesterday. But I've spent the past 4 months at home with all 3 because we moved to a new house too far away from the old nursery. And I've done nothing in terms of housework when at home with them. I certainly couldn't iron. Now I'll have 2 days at home without any kids, I might consider running a duster round. Oh but I'm also 6 months pregnant so that might not last 😂 I have a lovely partner who is very much equal in terms of housework and parenting so we tackle most of it together. We try to do most stuff after the kids go to bed but we're often tired.

I’m a SAHM and yes I do his ironing.