Page 3 | In Hospital and left alone

Lemia · 09/08/2024 23:52

I hope you feel better soon op. Ask the hospital for paper knickers and clean gowns - they will provide these for you.

i can understand people also being worried about your daughter having a tummy bug- it’s not nice and will be difficult for you dh to look after her if he has a tummy bug too. No doubt you’re also worried about how they’re doing too.

I hope you get the bottom of your health issues soon and you’re on the mend soon. You really do need to drink the water even if you don’t much like the taste though

CountessWindyBottom · 09/08/2024 23:54

Feeling very upset that people around me are more bothered about my DD than the fact that I'm hospital with no clean clothes, and no end in sight to getting better.

@Petesdragoness. What a bizarre thing to say. I understand that you're probably feeling a little miserable but you are an adult. Ask some of the staff to help you with clean clothes and bottled water, it's not that difficult.

You seem resentful that your three year old daughter has stolen the attention away from you. I get that it's not ideal but to be 'upset' that she seems to be the priority is just........strange and extremely childish.

Demonhunter · 10/08/2024 00:03

CountessWindyBottom · 09/08/2024 23:54

Feeling very upset that people around me are more bothered about my DD than the fact that I'm hospital with no clean clothes, and no end in sight to getting better.

@Petesdragoness. What a bizarre thing to say. I understand that you're probably feeling a little miserable but you are an adult. Ask some of the staff to help you with clean clothes and bottled water, it's not that difficult.

You seem resentful that your three year old daughter has stolen the attention away from you. I get that it's not ideal but to be 'upset' that she seems to be the priority is just........strange and extremely childish.

Genuinely thought I was the only one thinking this.

OhNoNotThisOne · 10/08/2024 00:06

I’ve found hospitals to be horrible places. And I can fully understand how hopeless you feel right now.

If someone I knew, who wasn't a close friend, ( but I would help them out too 😊) asked me to take them stuff into hospital I would do it. They might have to wait until I finished work, but I would get them what they needed, as quickly as I was able to.

Any FB friends who you could appeal to ?

CalicoPusscat · 10/08/2024 00:09

It seems like hospitals really vary. I was expecting to be in for one night so packed lounge pants, slippers, face wash etc.

When I was kept in for much longer my jeans, top and jacket were washed, I switched to hospital pyjamas and I was given sachets of shampoo, a little comb and net knickers which you put pads into. Water seemed fine. Food was really good actually and after tea you could choose a little snack for later.

I think you need to talk to staff @Petesdragoness about what will see you through.

Gorgeousfeet · 10/08/2024 00:10

Demonhunter · 10/08/2024 00:03

Genuinely thought I was the only one thinking this.

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Me too.

ichifanny · 10/08/2024 00:17

confused why you aren’t more worried your 3 year old is ill with an illness that has hospitalised you and left you unable to drink water ?

VeganStar · 10/08/2024 00:20

@Petesdragoness when I was in hospital earlier in the year having half of my pancreas removed I had so many drains , tubes and cannulas in me that it was impossible to get pyjamas or a nightie on so the hospital provided me with a clean gown daily.

I was the same with you about the water and when I had run out of my own squash the nurses would get some from their kitchen to put in my jug of water.

As others have said they’ll have paper knickers on the ward.you only have to ask.

I hope they find out what’s wrong with you and sort you out soon. All the best.

Isittimeformynapyet · 10/08/2024 00:23

CountessWindyBottom · 09/08/2024 23:54

Feeling very upset that people around me are more bothered about my DD than the fact that I'm hospital with no clean clothes, and no end in sight to getting better.

@Petesdragoness. What a bizarre thing to say. I understand that you're probably feeling a little miserable but you are an adult. Ask some of the staff to help you with clean clothes and bottled water, it's not that difficult.

You seem resentful that your three year old daughter has stolen the attention away from you. I get that it's not ideal but to be 'upset' that she seems to be the priority is just........strange and extremely childish.

Thanks for saying what several of us were thinking.

I often wonder why when people say they have "no friends".

DoubleCoatedDogs · 10/08/2024 00:27

@Demonhunter @CountessWindyBottom I noticed exactly the same thing. A very strange thing to say, OP sounded quite resentful.

Clafoutie · 10/08/2024 00:27

Nadeed · 09/08/2024 23:17

You need to drink the water even if you don not like the taste. Getting dehydrated may make you ill.
If you have no one else at all who can help, sorry you need to manage with dirty clothes. But if there is anyone at all who can help, ask them

Not sure the comment on managing with dirty clothes was very kind or helpful😕
I’m sorry you’re having a rough time OP. I hope you are home soon, or that someone will be able to step in and bring you what you need.

Clafoutie · 10/08/2024 00:33

Isittimeformynapyet · 10/08/2024 00:23

Thanks for saying what several of us were thinking.

I often wonder why when people say they have "no friends".

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Wow, that’s a low blow. We know nothing about the OP other than that they are probably feeling pretty miserable, which seems perfectly understandable, and also perfectly normal to feel a bit sorry for oneself. I’m amazed people think it is ok to put the boot in and make insinuations about the OP’s likeability as a person. 🙁

claretblue79 · 10/08/2024 00:37

Yes, it's the usual keyboard warriors who have had a compassion and empathy bypass. OP, please concentrate on the constructive replies here and hope you are feeling better soon.

Stichintime · 10/08/2024 00:41

Hi OP, if you're able to come back to the thread, let us know where you are. I know there's many on here who would help.

AndThatsItReally · 10/08/2024 00:42

Tap water is fine - it won't make you dehydrated!!! It may not taste as nice as expensive bottled water but it's fine. And your DH is looking after a sick 3 year old - and has a job - and has been visiting. If she's 3 and sick and her mummy is in hospital it'd be DD I'd be worried about rather than whether I had clean knickers or bottled water.
Plenty of good suggestions here. The hospital has shops, someone will be able to get you stuff. Volunteers will help. Yes it's miserable but just something to be got through until you're well again and back home with your family.

Crazycatlady79 · 10/08/2024 01:16

I hope your little girl gets better soon. Tummy bugs are horrid for young children, bless her.

Nightowl1234 · 10/08/2024 01:17

Gorgeousfeet · 10/08/2024 00:10

Me too.

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Me three. I get she’s ill but she sounds a bit unpleasant in her responses. There’s loads of solutions to her situation as advised by other posters, but she seems determined to wallow. Anyway - hope she gets better soon.

BobbyBiscuits · 10/08/2024 01:40

You poor thing. I know what it's like to be trapped in the ward. I do hope you feel better soon.
Are there volunteers that can go to local shops and get you things? In my hospital they had them. Are you mobile enough to move at all, or do you need a porter chair? I hope you can get some fresh air at least. Try and spend plenty of time talking to friends, even if they're not able to visit. Once people know you're there they are bound to happy for a chat to keep you company.
Wishing you well. I'm sure your family will be well enough again soon to visit.

Nettlepatch · 10/08/2024 01:50

I didn't read it that OP was jealous of attention or not concerned about her sick DD & DH just frustrated that she is struggling and everyone is messaging her about DD and assuming she is fine rather than checking if she is ok or needs anything because they should also know her DH isn't able to visit the hospital.

It's shitty of people to make cruel assumptions of OP's character solely based on how she's phrased a post without also considering that they are very poorly, dehydrated (which also effects your cognitive abilities), isolated and stressed about how to meet their most basic needs while physically trapped in hospital.

Some good ideas from PP and some kind mumsnetters have come to the rescue for others in the past so do reach out for the help you need.

Singleandproud · 10/08/2024 02:02

Well, you are able to use your phone to Mumsnet - not judgement just observation. So just order yourself whatever you need from Amazon and get it delivered to the PALS desk and they'll get it to you, I'd contact them via email to give them a heads up about the situation and I'm sure they will help.

GrumpyMiddleAgedCow · 10/08/2024 02:02

Well I think it’s a perspective thing….

(zero pity party required) last time I was in hospital I went in for emergency surgery nearly died and lost my child…was more than happy with the jammies they provided had a catheter so no pants…though they did complain about me not having body wash for my bed bath which felt a bit shit…

previous to that I was in for a badly broken leg and would felt some kind of way about no one bringing fresh (from home) jammies

it’s ok and understandable to feel lonely but unreasonable to blame a 3 year old that is unwell as the reason for it

hopefully you are on the mend and home sooner rather than later x

cherish123 · 10/08/2024 02:02

I think some people are being a bit harsh. Having a stomach bug is horrible but your DH and DD will be fine. They can both sleep as much as they can. It is much worse for you. I hope you get clothes/drinks and get better soon.

Nottodaythankyou123 · 10/08/2024 02:08

Op, could you just tell the family worried about DD that you’re struggling and need their help. I can see where they’re coming from - I could see myself worrying about DD and (wrongly) assume that as you’re in hospital, you’re in the right place, under the care of doctors and less of an immediate worry. It wouldn’t even occur to me re the washing. I’d like to think I’d ask if you were ok but sometimes people just don’t think, and as lovely as it would be for them to realise on their own, you just have to communicate your needs to them. I hope you feel better soon!

l3tsdanc3 · 10/08/2024 02:13

The hospital will be able to give you a gown or scrubs etc so at least you're wearing clean clothes. Not much you can do around food/drink other than asking hospital staff for help. I was in hospital over Covid following major surgery and didn't see any of my family for several weeks - 2 of which I was in itu and couldn't move out of bed. It was rubbish but it does pass. Try and find a sympathetic nurse! They helped me a lot.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 10/08/2024 02:26

Your 3 year old DD caught a stomach bug in hospital... of course people are going to be concerned! It could be serious! And your DH also caught it so will be trying to care for a 3 year old and himself whilst very ill...

Have you actually ASKED anyone to bring you clean clothes in?

How many bottles of water are you drinking a day? You won't be dehydrating if you're drinking a couple of bottles or a bottle and some water with squash. Bad tasting water won't dehydrate you.

You never said the underwear was so badly soiled initially, which was why a couple of posters have said you just needed to deal with wearing them a couple of times rather than once.

Have you got FB? Post on your page to ask if anyone could help or post in a local group - people are usually willing to help out and come on a "mercy mission" with some clean underwear and clothes as well as some water. Probably bring you piles of wordsearch books, magazines, chocolate, flowers too.