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In Hospital and left alone

277 replies

Petesdragoness · 09/08/2024 22:56

The massive message I wrote of course deleted.

I'm in hospital very poorly and did have DH and DD3 visiting bringing fresh water and clothes. Unfortunately they've caught a stomach bug whilst here and now can't help.

Feeling very upset that people around me are more bothered about my DD than the fact that I'm hospital with no clean clothes, and no end in sight to getting better.

OP posts:
Nadeed · 09/08/2024 23:22

Petesdragoness · 09/08/2024 23:20

Yes I tried that but ended up more dehydrated. And I don't know anyone would be happy re wearing shit and blood covered knickers, bit insensitive response

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You said your clothes were getting washed and you were running out, not that your underwear was unsanitary. The hospital will give you disposable knickers and a gown to wear.

Pickledeverything · 09/08/2024 23:22

Op are you happy sharing which hospital you’re In? I’m sure a kind mumsnetter who is close may be able to come to the rescue! I will if you’re close to me :)

Pantaloons99 · 09/08/2024 23:22

You can ask for a medical gown. Just stick that on and it will see you through a few days.

Ref water, say you're struggling to drink the water. You could always ask for an IV of fluid if you're struggling and feeling weak.

I've been in hospital numerous times. I've nearly died and been so unwell it's unbelievable I survived. My mum is relatively young and very mobile, great health and lives a few doors away. Shed never visit or provide clothes and would instead leave me to it even after emergencies A and E admissions.
It is so hurtful. I relied on some really caring friends and there are lovely people usually in hospital who will help.

It's horrible when you feel so vulnerable, I totally understand. People can be really shit sometimes

Temporaryanonymity · 09/08/2024 23:22

When I was in hospital I was on my own too. In the end I reached out to a friend who was delighted to help. Even if I didn’t know someone well I would be happy to help. Is there someone you could call?

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Petesdragoness · 09/08/2024 23:23

NorthernGirlie · 09/08/2024 23:16

Are you bed bound lovely? Most hospitals have shops and cafes. Any friends who could pop in?

Do you mean your 3rd daughter or your daughter who is 3?

I am. I'm not allowed to leave my room either. I asked if someone could wheel me down to shops and not long after I ended up quarantined in my own room.

Sorry I might not use that correctly DD who is 3

OP posts:
Nadeed · 09/08/2024 23:23

Can you drink tea or coffee as well to keep your fluids up?

dothehokeycokey · 09/08/2024 23:23

Oh that's horrid op.

Perhaps you could say which area you are In and if any mumsnetters are local they could drop up a bag with some leggins and undies in maybe and some water and fruit?

I know if I was local I would def do that for someone.

Even if you put a rough area.

I've seen this on here before and mumsnetters have come to the rescue.

Lovelysummerdays · 09/08/2024 23:24

Honestly I’d hand wash the pants when I went for a shower. Ask for hospital pjs. Ask if there’s some ice if water is properly cold you don’t tend to taste the chlorine.

dothehokeycokey · 09/08/2024 23:24

@Petesdragoness
Sorry forgot to tag you in the post above ❤️❤️

AdaColeman · 09/08/2024 23:24

Oh how miserable for you @Petesdragoness, I hope you start to feel better very soon.
Ask the hospital for a clean gown, and for fresh water.

Ask if there is assistance for patients with no visitors, often the Friends of the hospital provide this service. They would get you things from the hospital shop for instance.

Hopefully, your family will soon be out and about again and able to help you.
Keep your pecker up! 🌻 🤒 🌻 😷 🌻

Original poster
Petesdragoness · 09/08/2024 23:24

Sorry just to answer I have no friends that could.

Thanks for your response for now, I need to get some sleep and if I'm able to I'll read any tomorrow.

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Pantaloons99 · 09/08/2024 23:24

They usually have those nappy pants in desperate times. You can't see them under clothes. Or net knickers.
Try pin down a nice healthcare assistant and say how you feel

dothehokeycokey · 09/08/2024 23:24

@Petesdragoness

Let us know rough area

Or failing that could Amazon deliver to the ward?

NorthernGirlie · 09/08/2024 23:25

Get a Morrisons delivery to the ward with water and knickers?

My DH got takeaways when he swapped with me to do the odd overnighter with ds when he was in hospital.

toomanytonotice · 09/08/2024 23:27

Tbf having a stomach bug and trying to look after a 3 year old with a stomach bug is also shit.

plus they don’t need to be bringing said stomach bug to the hospital.

are you upset that other family members won’t come and visit you? Why won’t they? Are they visiting dh and dd instead to help him rather than you? Is it his family or yours? Do you think it’s misogyny where there all rushing to help the man who’s been left to parent by his poor self?

I was in hospital with dd for a week. No clothes, only food was vending machine. Dh was at home dealing with other dc, so while he popped in when he could between work and dc’ extra curriculars it was a struggle. I can’t even remember where dh’s family were, they didn’t visit at all (my family aren’t geographically close).

we survived. Got home and had the longest shower.

Nadeed · 09/08/2024 23:27

I have had knickers provided when I was taken in as an emergency. They are not great, but they will provide those and a gown if you ask. A gown and a couple of pairs of knickers would last a few days. Especially if you are in a private room you are not allowed to leave.

Cardamomandlemons · 09/08/2024 23:31

Hope you get better soon, sounds really tough.
If stuff is getting soiled repeatedly definitely wear the hospital gowns - they're ugly but functional and most importantly, not your problem to wash them (also more comfortable with an IV and stuff).
Can you ask for IV fluids? Explain you just aren't able to drink enough. Is there a way to call the shop and ask them to send up water bottles? The shop assistants probably have more time than the nurses.

Nadeed · 09/08/2024 23:36

The hospital will not give IV fluids unless there is a clinical need. OP can drink, she just does not like the taste of the water.

Southwest12 · 09/08/2024 23:38

You could get a next day delivery from M&S. One of my friends had to order me some emergency pants one Christmas as I was in for almost 3 weeks and had packed enough for the 3 nights I was expecting to be in.

Hospital water can be rank. Definitely ask for ice to help with the taste.

DragonFly98 · 09/08/2024 23:43

toomanytonotice · 09/08/2024 23:27

Tbf having a stomach bug and trying to look after a 3 year old with a stomach bug is also shit.

plus they don’t need to be bringing said stomach bug to the hospital.

are you upset that other family members won’t come and visit you? Why won’t they? Are they visiting dh and dd instead to help him rather than you? Is it his family or yours? Do you think it’s misogyny where there all rushing to help the man who’s been left to parent by his poor self?

I was in hospital with dd for a week. No clothes, only food was vending machine. Dh was at home dealing with other dc, so while he popped in when he could between work and dc’ extra curriculars it was a struggle. I can’t even remember where dh’s family were, they didn’t visit at all (my family aren’t geographically close).

we survived. Got home and had the longest shower.

You husband took your dc to extra curricular activities while you were in hospital! What awful priorities.

Ginnnny · 09/08/2024 23:46

Does your hospital have the wee helpers that would get things for you from shop or otherwise if you can’t get up? Sorry preggo brain can’t think of the name of the amazing wee helpers but they helped me loads when I was in hospital last year and DP couldn’t come in.
hope you’re ok OP!

AngryBird6122 · 09/08/2024 23:48

dothehokeycokey · 09/08/2024 23:23

Oh that's horrid op.

Perhaps you could say which area you are In and if any mumsnetters are local they could drop up a bag with some leggins and undies in maybe and some water and fruit?

I know if I was local I would def do that for someone.

Even if you put a rough area.

I've seen this on here before and mumsnetters have come to the rescue.

Same I would help if you are near. I live right by a hospital!

Turtonator · 09/08/2024 23:50

I moved 100+ miles from family/friends and this is probably my biggest concern. I have a "go-bag" sorted in case of an emergency, couple of nighties, face wipes, phone charger, boiled sweeties, etc. I am sorry, OP, hospital water can taste horribly stale and chlorinated. Would happily help if you can give an idea of where in the Country you are.

letmego24 · 09/08/2024 23:51

What's wrong?
Why are you barriered? Is it D&V?
Drink the water, if it's not enough or your kidneys failing they'll give IVI.
Use a gown. Get DH to drop the washed clothes at the ward door for you asap.

Twocents · 09/08/2024 23:51

Every ward will have a gown, nightie, pyjamas (not just for men) and net knickers. There will also be squash in the kitchen that they can add to a jug of water for you and maybe ice. (IV fluids are only for clinical need).
Please do use the call buzzer and ask the staff for what you need.
Hope you feel better soon.