In Hospital and left alone

[Petesdragoness]

The massive message I wrote of course deleted.

I'm in hospital very poorly and did have DH and DD3 visiting bringing fresh water and clothes. Unfortunately they've caught a stomach bug whilst here and now can't help.

Feeling very upset that people around me are more bothered about my DD than the fact that I'm hospital with no clean clothes, and no end in sight to getting better.

same!

Op has made it clear she is also worried about her child but it is pretty crap that she is laying in a hospital bed, ill with no clean stuff with her and her husband is ringing and asking how to work a thermometer (he could google!).
Op probably just wants to feel taken care of too.
Ignore all the silly replies saying you are jealous of your child Op, people clearly have unhappy lives and have to pile onto people they don't know on the Internet. It's sad.
Get well soon.

Hospital period stuff is pretty basic unfortunately if you have a heavy period.

Could you give one of the HCAs money to pop to the shop at the end of their shift or break. If they know your situation someone might help?

I'm not sure if Amazon fresh would deliver supermarket stuff?

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I understand you feel uncomfortable with strangers bringing you things, but if ever there was a situation where mumsnet can really help, this is it.

If I lived in the area, I'd definitely bring you pants and some sanitary products, it's just inhumane not to.OP people want to help you, why would you push them away ?

Hospitals have everything gown, pants wash stuff, period products ect just ask the nurse iv been in multiple times unexpectedly with no stuff and it's never been an issue also if your not bed bound their will be shops down stairs or your can even do ubereats, deliveroo ect and meet them at the door. Also ask the ward if they have squash to mix with water that might make it taste better. I was quarantined in a hospital room for 3 weeks with no stuff and it was amazing how much stuff the hospital actually does have.

Op I’m nowhere near Yorkshire but if I was I’d help you out. Gladly. It’s paying it forward.
Would you be happier if a couple of Yorkshire ladies PMed you rather than putting it on here?

Blimey , just ask for knickers and sanitary protection. You're in a hospital, they have loads of this stuff. Ask for it !
Are you not being fed 3 meals a day?
Crickey. You are getting fed aren't you.

It's shit being in hospital but you need to swallow your pride a bit and ask the hospital staff. I've been in and been issued pyjamas, items to allow me to have a shower and brush my teeth and (albeit old school bulky jobs) sanitary products (I was in for a while!). As for water, ask them. They should bring a jug round for you and the catering team when they bring your meal should also offer hot drinks/juice. If you're mobile get up have a shower and go to the hospital shop for a bottle of diluting juice.

Do you have any friends who you can ask - explain the situation at home and what you need? It's the weekend now so hopefully someone will have time

Then ask them very clearly for what you need.

Every hospital I've ever visited or worked in has volunteers (RVS) who will help. They are completely used to helping people in your position, and I'm very surprised that you haven't seen a single one on your ward so far.

Visiting ministers (of any faith) will also be glad to help.

Have you asked the nurses on the ward what is available? It is VERY common for people to be in hospital with nothing.

Sorry OP, horrible situation for you.

Do you have any other family nearby and have you expressed to them exactly what you need, i.e. ‘I have no clean clothes, could you please go to my house and pick up XYZ then bring it to the hospital, it’s urgent’.

You shouldn’t have to spell it out but people can be bloody useless sometimes without instructions and at this stage you might just need to be firm and clear to get what you require from them.

@Petesdragoness, just wanted to send you my best wishes and hope that you have a quick recovery and get to return home soon.
I have not long been discharged from an unexpected 10 day stay in hospital, in an area I have lots of acquaintances, but no real friends so can totally empathise with how this amplifies the feelings of vulnerability and powerlessness when you're stuck in hospital, unable to access the things you need to help you regain some feelings of control and support your recovery.
Your hospital stay is a mental battle as much as a physical one and all of your responses and feelings are totally understandable, it's shit, it's not fair and this isn't where you should be right now.
Have a cry, have compassion for yourself, then look through all of the suggestions on this post to see which are workable.
Once you get in the right headspace of acceptance about your current situation, the less than ideal solutions become more palatable.
Try to focus on the fact that your daughter will get better which will enable them both to visit, and before long you will become well enough to be discharged, compartmentalise this as a rubbish challenge for the next few days, but it will end and it will pass.
Thinking of you.

To be fair to OP it is far worse being in hospital for days than dealing with a pukey 3 year old. And having a completely useless and by the sound of it, not very caring husband and in laws too.
A decent husband would be organising her a delivery of what she needed. Not asking for help with the most basic things. I mean why doesn't he know where the sheets are? Why aren't the in laws dropping stuff off?

It can be very demoralising in hospital, staff are not always nice and can be very busy. It can feel like no one cares. The fact that no one has offered OP clean clothes etc demonstrates the level of care unfortunately. I think you need to be politely assertive and ask for what you need. There will be someone nice there who will be happy to help. Don't be too proud to accept help.

The water taste will be chlorine - if you fill a jug or empty bottles and leave it standing overnight, the taste goes away as the chlorine breaks down/dissipates.

I do this at home as tap water straight from the tap tastes awful, but doing this makes it perfectly drinkable.

Your two posts are wonderful and so inspirational in their humour and positive attitude, in spite of the horrendous ordeal you went through. I am glad it is behind you now.

Have you messaged family members directly asking for their help or have they not offered? Does you husband have any friends who could help!? Or either of you any colleagues? Also is there a local FB page- ask if anyone is travelling near the hospital- I bet someone locally will be visiting or nearby and will be able to help.

Definitely ask the staff in the short term. Get some hospital knickers.

Hopefully your husband and child will be on the mend soon so it's all sorted anyway but you're going to have to ask for the help you need from someone.

Hi OP, Be clear to your family as to what you need. They can collect a bag from DH or nip into Peacocks or something. Drink the water there, you have to. If not get an ubereats/deliveroo. Done.

I am afraid the hospital will not wash your clothes -but they will provide you with a clean gown if you ask

OP, if you don't feel comfortable with a Mumsnetter doing it (and I had a lovely lady on here leap into the breach when my nephew was in hospital) text mums of your little ones' nursery friends, or a neighbour maybe - the vast vast majority of people would be very happy to drop some things around. I know I would!

Just wanted to say NOT all hospitals will offer gowns/disposable pants. I was in for a week on an emergency basis after having DD and was admitted in the clothes I had on. Didn't have anyone who could bring me anything, and they said they couldn't provide pads, gowns, pants or anything. I was in the clothes I had on, stuffing my underwear with tissue paper. It was hideous.

Uber or local taxi firm. Get your husband to call them to the house, pass a bag of clothes over and ask them to drop at the hospital reception for you. Husband calls hospital reception to let them know to expect your belongings and they will get one of the porters to bring your things to your ward.
Hope you feel better soon

It’s crap but it is what it id, lots of people in hospital can’t/don’t have visitors and many many many of us had to do it during Covid. I do feel for you but you are where you are. Wear a hospital gown, if you have no clean underwear, ask for the net pants or just don’t wear any, the gown will cover your dignity, put one at the back like a house coat and a blanket over your legs. Go to the hospital shop for water or drink the stuff they have. It’s only a few days hopefully and then you’ll be home to your home comforts.

Can’t you wash them in a sink as long as you clean the sink afterwards?
Sometimes there’s things you wouldn’t normally do, that you have no choice but to do it!
As for being dehydrated, if you were then the drs would give you fluids intravenously

If you're ok your period can't you ask if they have any pads? It's likely they have pads of some sort