In Hospital and left alone

[Petesdragoness]

The massive message I wrote of course deleted.

I'm in hospital very poorly and did have DH and DD3 visiting bringing fresh water and clothes. Unfortunately they've caught a stomach bug whilst here and now can't help.

Feeling very upset that people around me are more bothered about my DD than the fact that I'm hospital with no clean clothes, and no end in sight to getting better.

If you can be bothered to at least read the OP's posts she has already explained this. GP's were texting her in hospital to ask questions about DDs care. Because GP's and DH couldn't get their act together and sort it out between themselves.
OP is ill in hospital. Hth.

I remember being in hospital after a middle of the night procedure due to complications from an operation. Because of all the anaesthetic I spent the next two days asleep/out of it. Nurses kept waking me up telling me to drink because I was getting dehydrated. I couldn't even find the energy to speak to tell them I couldn't stay awake awake long enough, never mind reach over and pick up a glass. They eventually put me back on a drip. I also remember a young man who died of thirst when the staff refused to bring him water. He even called the police but the staff told them he was deluded.
Don't assume that it you have had a good experience that everyone else will too.

i have to agree. the OP is clearly well enough to navigate the internet to post on MN and argue with people so why can't they answer questions about the care of DD who is 3?

I work in a hospital and no, we don't wash patient's clothes.

Have some of you ever been really ill, ill enough to be in hospital? I have, & I can tell you that I really couldn't think straight let alone think about anyone else even my DC. I was certainly not my usual self.

I am astonished at the suggestions from posters that on this thread that some of the OP's posts made on here while she is sick indicate some kind of character flaw; or that just because she has no friends at hand that proves in any way people don't like her.

The pile on against a woman posting from her hospital bed is making ME feel sick. A few people have really sunk very low on this thread.

I was hospitalised not very long ago. I went to an out of hours appointment and was admitted. I felt dreadful (hb was 68 so dangerously low), in pain, shattered as up nearly all night. I had nothing as didn’t expect to be admitted.

I borrowed hospital pyjamas, hand washed undies in the shower. Bought a phone charger/ toothbrush/ toothpaste / some essentials from the hospital shop.

Being in hospital is shit but you do what you can.

@Princesspollyyy I keep saying this, the hospital I was in washed my own clothes I was wearing upon admittance with the hospital laundry! They didn't just fly out of my isolation room and wash themselves.

I didn't realise it was so unusual. I just wore hospital pyjamas for the rest of my stay and then could put clean clothes on when I could finally go home. Perhaps I just had a really kind nurse.

I have read all the OP's posts as well as the original. I would dispute that the OP posted because more attention is being given to her daughter, there is no evidence of that.

The OP made clear that she is worried for her and she is having to guide her DH about her care from her hospital bed despite being ill and on IV. You would think a lot of posters would be able to empathise with that.

Yes her post might have been awkwardly phrased to imply she was resentful - that is probably because she is ill. If I had a pound for every time I said or did something out of turn whilst ill, I would probably be a millionaire.

No, I would say you’re more the normal response. I know OP has since explained that remark but I can’t deny it shocked me somewhat.

This is really really unusual I have spent a significant amount of time as an inpatient across multiple trusts and this has never been a thing. Iv always been supplied everything I'm needed when iv asked but never had my clothes washed you was very very lucky

Sounds like a really difficult time for you.
It's strange that you are upset about people being more bothered about your child though. Do you think that kind of attitude could be why people aren't so keen to help? It sounds quite selfish, most people would want their children to come first.

Yes I have (cancer). I would be worried about my unwell three year old, not narky. Anyway as I said, OP has spoken about that remark, it probably just came out all wrong under the stress.

lovelysummerdays

what's hb? (just curious)

I was hospitalised not very long ago. I went to an out of hours appointment and was admitted. I felt dreadful (hb was 68 so dangerously low), in pain, shattered as up nearly all night. I had nothing as didn’t expect to be admitted.

I borrowed hospital pyjamas, hand washed undies in the shower. Bought a phone charger/ toothbrush/ toothpaste / some essentials from the hospital shop.

Being in hospital is shit but you do what you can.

@CalicoPusscat

It's got nothing to do with how kind your nurse is. Are you suggesting we aren't kind in our trust because we don't wash patient's clothing?

We just don't have the facilities to do it, the hospital laundry has enough to do with all the bedding it washes daily!!

@Princesspollyyy you are determined to derail the thread and pick a fight...I said no such thing.

Only that a few items of my clothing were put through the hospital laundry when I was in hospital. The end.

I have been in hospital a few times. When you feel extremely ill you often do not feel up to advocating for yourself. But I have been able to ask for pants and pads. And they were brought. If you are too ill to ask for basic things you would be washed by HCAs in bed whose job it is to notice if you need a clean gown or pants.
If OP is on face book she could also post asking if anyone could bring her things as her DH has D and V so can not come.

For those saying it would be good to have staff who pop to the shop, sit and have a chat, etc. This would be ideal, but would mean we all pay much higher taxes. There are hospital volunteers, but I get the impression they tend to help people who are alone and in hospital for a longer period of time, rather than short stays. OPs DH should be able to visit in a fairly short period of time.

I have been in a hospital with a trolley that came round early morning selling snacks and magazines, but it was run by a volunteer. If we want people in hospital to get things like this, more people need to volunteer. A lot of hospital volunteers are quite elderly.

Also if you are in hospital the chaplain will come and visit if you need some support. I have also been on a ward where volunteers visited and offered to take anyone to the Sunday service in a wheelchair.

Just to add though no welfare state can provide what family and friends can. We all need to visit those in hospital and offer to bring them what they need.

Just to add, I believe you.
Hospitals used to have their own laundries. However the privatisation of sections of the NHS driven by government, has meant that laundry is usually outsourced and I suspect many newer hospitals do not have a laundry. Privatisation though means that the company only provide the basic service. There is no option to just pop in something extra a patient might need washed.