In Hospital and left alone

[Petesdragoness]

The massive message I wrote of course deleted.

I'm in hospital very poorly and did have DH and DD3 visiting bringing fresh water and clothes. Unfortunately they've caught a stomach bug whilst here and now can't help.

Feeling very upset that people around me are more bothered about my DD than the fact that I'm hospital with no clean clothes, and no end in sight to getting better.

It’s a bit of a reach to say people have unhappy lives because they thought the comment about her three year old seemed harsh.

Most hospitals have RVS (Royal Voluntary Service) volunteers or other local volunteers who will do things like buy you water etc from the shop and help you sort out the issue with clothes and underwear.

You could also open an account with one of the supermarkets and have water and food delivered to you.

No mum friends, work colleagues or neighbours who would help you out?

Im sorry op

I am sorry Op that you and your family are unwell . Ignore the judgey posters .
When you are unwell you feel miserable in yourself and medication and dehydration won't be helping .
If funds allow , can you get your husband to send a quick photo (both sides ) of a debit or credit card you could use to order in some food / supplies . Some of the food delivery ones will also deliver groceries .
If you have an Amazon account you can also get Morrisons deliveries that way - just make sure you put in the right address and not default to your home .
You also mentioned grandparents - could you text / phone them with a list of things to bring in / your clean washing . Some people are clueless unless you ask for specific things for help .
Others have posted helpful suggestions about asking for help on the ward . I wish you and your family a speedy recovery .

Also thought if there is even a small shop on site could you get your husband to phone them and pay over the phone to get some supplies to you ?

Sorry you are feeling unwell. It's horrible being in hospital, especially without the essentials.

You could order a morrisons shop via amazon for same day delivery to get drinks, snacks and toiletries delivered. I think you have to spend £20 to get same day delivery. Put the hospital as the delivery address and write in the delivery instructions tp ask them to please drop it off at the specific ward reception.

Your husband could pack a bag of your clothes and ring a taxi to ask them to drop it off at your ward. Or you could order some pants etc from amazon, if you sign up for a free trial of prime then they will probably arrive by tomorrow if you order today.

You can also order food via just eat, deliveroo etc to the ward.

Hope you feel better soon.

Okay, I've done a bit of googling...

Go here:
https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/other-health-services/patient-advice-and-liaison-services-pals

and get contact details for the PALs (Patients Liaison Service) at your hospital. They'll put you in touch with/ send an RVS volunteer to help if for some unimaginable reason you haven't already asked for this via the nursing staff.

If you're in a city/large town all kinds of services including Amazon and the Coop will provide a delivery within a few hours.

Tell your husband to pack you a bag of what you need and say to get the grandparents to drop it at the reception desk of your ward. Failing them living close by, he can send it in a taxi and tell him to pop some money in the bag incase you need it.

The hospital should have stuff for your period, there will be big incontinence pants and pads. I hope you all feel better soon and you can get home quickly.

Your attitude is infuriating. You are a grown up. If you need something ask for it, or make it happen.

OP it's really rubbish but sometimes you do just need to swallow your pride and ask for what you need rather than becoming such a martyr that you're sat in a hospital bed dirty and not drinking and resenting your own young child for being sick.

Have you actually explained the situation to your nearest and dearest and asked them to at least drop off some clean clothes and water? I live in a pretty isolated bubble with my little girl and husband but I think if I really needed it some people would help in a crisis.

Failing this just talk to the ward staff. They will be crazy busy and realistically I'd imagine far too busy to do your laundry but I'm sure they'll help as best they can.

IV fluids are far more dangerous and delicate than taking fluid orally. You would be prescribed them based on your hydration status not how well you can or can't drink. If you want to get better you really need to just suck it up and drink what you can. There's no way that any water, even bad tasting water, can make you more dehydrated so just get it down you.

I hope you make a speedy recovery

Only because OP doesn't like the water provided...

Nowhere does it say she has to order water in. She will have access to all the tap water she can drink and I'm sure the staff would all love her to drink it. They just don't have the time to be popping to the shops for bottles of perrier for her which is absolutely fair enough

Why does your DH not know how to use a thermometer or know where clean sheets are?

@Voerendaal the hospital honestly did wash the clothes I went in in 😳 After that I was in hospital stuff until I was discharged.

OP hope you're feeling more positive today and that you're provided with a few things to see you through for now.

Have you rang or text any of these close family members and asked them to bring you some clean clothes in?

No. Hospital won’t wash clothes. It’s not dot cotton laundry .They will bag up in a alginate bag for washing and give to the family to take away

The OP is ill. How about 'several of' you show some empathy and cut the OP some slack?

Have a word with your DH this morning. Make it very clear that despite him having a stomach bug he must pack you a bag, provide money and get it to you somehow. Friends, family, etc. he needs to arrange this today.

Yes he has DD to look after but he has to ensure you have your basic needs met whilst in hospital.

He just needs telling as sounds like he leaves everything to you.

Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Sorry to hear this has happened.

If money is not too tight, could you do an online order from say Amazon for some knickers, bottled water etc. preferably for same day delivery and put the ward number etc as the delivery address?

Alternatively Deliveroo at least for the water.

I don't understand why the tap water made you more dehydrated when you drank it. The staff generally will get you stuff if they are going to lunch and understand you have no body so might give you juice.
How do you expect your oh to get you stuff if he's ill or do you mean other family? Have you asked them?

And why don't you take your own attitude something else? Your lack of empathy is concerning, have you any idea what it is like to be ill? When a person is ill enough to be in hospital, it is a time when they need to be looked after.

I wasn't expecting to be disbelieved about the clothes washing 😆

MY hospital did for me one time as the clothes I was in when I got admitted were soiled and there was nobody near to do this. It varies, obviously.

If you don't like tao water why should the tax payer pay for bottled water isn't it better than money goes on treating illness not fussy people?

Have you asked for sanitary pads and explained nobody can bring you any?

Some times people need a bit of tough love and a shake. All of these things are easily fixable by talking to staff. The majority of people admitted to hospital are there unexpectedly so don't have stuff and there are also a lot of people who don't have friends and family to bring stuff for one reason or another. Hospitals are fully stocked with everything that's needed and also usually have volunteers who will go to the shop for patients. Op is in a situation that is incredibly common and she needs to put her big girl pants on and talk to the staff.