Feels like there's way too many Men on MN

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I probably am being unreasonable however I'm on here primarily for female perspectives.

It's so true!

It's always something like "I am a man. And let me start by saying the I am the most feminist person ever. But I do think you're unreasonable to get upset about you DH watching 'teen step daughter' porn. Porn is empowering for women and just a bit of fun. You would be better to work on your self esteem issues and not be such a nag"

100 percent. I've had a lot of gynea issues in the past causing problems in that department but could never post on there, it's crawling with them. A shame as a lot of knowledgeable women on here.

And I wouldn't mind but if men wanna go on sex forums why not reddit or mens health? Why skulk on the mumsnet sex board?

I agree and know lots of women who feel the same, both in real life and on here.

A woman posted there about sex causing thrush and got pervy comments and PMs asking for intimate details of her sex life. Another woman was having health issues after anal sex and asking specifically for advice on how to feel better. Instead, a load of men turned up to tell her how much they love anal sex and oversharing their experiences. Then there was the whole sex chat hook up thread which contained a disproportionate amount of men, many who were married or in relationships. At that time pervy threads increased. These men spread to the relationship board too. One woman posted on the relationship board due to feeling was feeling violated that her partner had forcefully held her head whilst she was giving him oral sex. One man chimes in to say that men often have to do this because it's painful for them if their penis isn't in contact with something when they ejaculate and minimised how they poor OP was feeling. Other men from the sex board came to back their friend up when women said he was disgusting. These are the sorts of men who I'm sure most women don't want here.

The chances are if you do post on there you will receive pervy PMs.

They go on chats here about sex as they get a perverse kick from it

that can’t be stopped just we need to be aware

and ffs stop pandering to them for being so honest 🙄 or for being a feminist, a supportive husband/parent

He's probably a man 😂

Well I am a man, hetero, have no children, live alone (with a cat), am 55 years old.

I find Mumset a great place for advice and info about all sorts of things (recently found some info about my new washing machine) and entertainment - AIBU is a daily visit.

I never visit the sex threads or offer advice on problems I know nothing about. I have offered some advice on writing, mental health and alcoholism (which I unfortunately know a lot about).

So I'm probably not the sort of 'problem man' the OP is concerned about.

Expect I will be lambasted for posting this - but just wanted to put across the perspective of a man who is not a sex-obsessed, arrogant, mansplaining, creepo creep.

If you're not like that then much of what is being said won't apply to you. You don't get a medal or praise for not being a creep.

Good men would have as much of an issue with bad men being here as women do. Instead of saying that, you just took the opportunity to promote yourself and tell us NAMALT. 🙄 Same old.

My comment was a comment on your general communication style.

You've announced your maleness and gone on a NAMALT rant. You are the men OP is talking about.

My thoughts too ThisDog

*I'm not going to link them because I've name changed since then, but I've started threads before primarily looking for female advice.

One when DD started her periods while DP was on holiday and uncontactable, one asking for opinions on why an ex kept trying to contact me. One asking how best to put women at ease if I'm walking home at night behind a lone woman.

I've also started a few threads asking for more generic advice, but of course most of the answers still come from women as that's the majority of users on the site.*

You said you had seen lots threads asking for advice from women not that you had started them.

If a man invented a bra would you expect him to wear one? Your argument holds no water.

Please read the title thread : "too many..... recently' not I want to ban men.
Lol to fake news argument

Oh sweet summer child…

Have you not read any of their subsequent posts on those threads?

I don't object to men on here as long as they keep their brains in their trousers and don't try to ''date'' us etc. etc. ! There are some good genuine men on here who never pester us!

Please read the title " too many... recently' not banging men"

*banning (autocorrect)

So one person challenges your paranoid ravings and you immediately move to shut them down by undermining their fundamental means for doing that.

Are you a man?!

This 👏

Thank you, Jevarakh for being a gentleman!

You have a cat? OOOHHHH! Hubby and I have little Wopsie, a tabby and she's gorgeous!

Have a brilliant day whatever you're doing!

Perfect response!

I don’t notice or care who posts here, I don’t look at usernames or keep tabs on who says what. I have the relationships board hidden though, maybe it’s more obvious over there.

I know two dads who use this site for parenting advice, both don’t have mums for their kids. I don’t see why they shouldn’t be here.

I'm on here a lot, and I very rarely see posters who say there are men.
And, if they don't, how would I know?

What I DO have a problem with are all the stupid posters who I disagree with.
They should be banned.

So if you don't want to ban (or bang!) men what do you want to happen?

Have some kind of lottery or selection process so only certain men are allowed to post?

You are being rather hyperbolic. You should get your blood-pressure checked.