Feels like there's way too many Men on MN

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I probably am being unreasonable however I'm on here primarily for female perspectives.

Shhh. We're supposed to pretend it's impossible to spot a man on the internet!

Except that isn't what happened is it? No one set this up as a women only site, it has never been a women only site.

No it has never been a women only site. But neither has it ever been a cheap hook up site full of pervs, which a quick look at the sex topic will tell you why some men post on MN.

So don't look at the sex topic. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I never do.

People who use that topic are well aware what it is like. The problem is the topic.

I've never come across it elsewhere other than the odd deleted troll post.

When these threads are started, the same posters always pop up bleating about how it's a women's site, ignoring the fact that is isn't and never has been. This is the point I was making.

It's still a part of MN and why should it be treated any different from the rest of MN? 'Well aware what it's like' isn't good enough. It's not a bloody separate site FFS.

What if a women had a genuine problem about sex? but instead of advice she gets pervy PMs from BigBoyDave? You want those men on MN? because I don't.

I get a female vibe on many/most threads.

I do often see thread titles and think that is a man getting kicks, with loads of earnest responses.

@Bellsandthistle "Nobody is trying to ban men from mumsnet, but the pure frothing at the very idea women be allowed a space to discuss amongst ourselves is…revealing."

Indeed. Nothing more dangerous than women gathering together......

Because that is what the sex topic is. Just like AIBU is "robust".

If there was no engagement from the willing female posters then it wouldn't
be happening would it?

The problem is the moderation in the topic.

There was a big furore about the topic not that long ago and the general consensus of the people who used the topic was that they were happy with it.

Except no one is frothing about that, they are simply pointing out that MN is not such a place.

I've been here for 15 years. Last week I got a private message from a male user I've never interacted with asking to "chat". That's never happened before.

They mostly hang out on the sex and relationship threads, popping up with the ‘man here’ introduction and imparting their opinions. Easy enough to avoid.

Tbh it’s quite easy to tell who the men and men’s hand-maidens are on this very thread. It’s those I would have excluded in an ideal world 😊

Has a man ever been told he was "bleating" when he expressed an opinion?

Haha I never read if it's by a man (knowingly)

Strangely, many older posters are Mums and Nans…some are in relationships, some not.

You don’t stop being a mum when you’re 60, and nor are we all senile….🙄

Old people are mothers, grandmothers, aunts, go to carers. And women are still routinely marginalised and discriminated against. None of this applies to men!

Don't worry there's no reliable way of anyone knowing you're a 'man of a certain age' unless you start getting all creepy about how young women all fancy you, so you should be fine!

Could call it xy?

See, it's thread policing, bigotry lovers that can't bear others having different opinions and shout "man!" at everyone they disagree with I'd have excluded in an ideal world. 🙄

Ah yes the familiar 'women that don't agree with me are men's handmaidens'
Such a cop out to dismiss women that don't see things the way 'some' feminists do

Exactly, it's so boring and predictable

Or another favourite when a woman disagrees 'ah, internalised misogyny'.

To be honest I would be quite happy if men could be banned from mumsnet it won’t happen but a woman’s only forum as large as MN I believe would be very positive for women

but we are not allowed this all women/girls space have to have male influence it’s fucking tiresome

I don’t really understand why men want to give their opinion when women are discussing what impacts them because they are women but so many do, then even worse they get applauded for doing so 😆