Feels like there's way too many Men on MN

[Moonshine5]

I probably am being unreasonable however I'm on here primarily for female perspectives.

Wow OK, I'm told.

I do have an issue with bad men being here.

I did not say Not All Men Are Like That - sorry if that's how I came across!

I wasn't trying to 'promote' myself. And that was hardly a 'rant'.

I knew I shouldn't have posted anything!

I'll shut up now and stop digging. But won't go away!

Happy days.

So true. There seems to be a plethora of husbands on here complaining about their wives lately, while painting themselves as perfect husbands/ fathers.

I'm not sure why they think they're going to get much sympathy on Mumsnet, why not talk to their mates instead. Many women will roll their eyes having dealt with their own inadequate husbands.

Thank you and you are very much correct @Jevarakh

Fair enough, I'll bow to your expertise then, because your original post is the very definition of hyperbole!

I think there should be talk guidelines and deletions for voyeuristic, sexually harassing content, and contents which seem intent on making parents’/mothers’ lives harder - ie - people who are here to hinder, not help.

It really isn’t. But you should get your blood-pressure checked, since you can’t tell.

It's was a personal observation that I was reflecting on and I put it out there too see if others had noticed, which they clearly had.
Thanks for the sexual innuendo, I mean seriously 😂so predictable !!

This bothers me more tbh. Men or women giving others advice on parenting when they have no children themselves…

I agree, it is so easy to judge and give ill-informed advice when you aren’t in the thick of it.

My blood pressure is fine, it's your need to diminish others to make yourself feel more secure that's off the scale.

I am not interested in diminishing you, you do sound as though you have chronic irritability, which I would assume means high blood-pressure.

There it is again. You can't help yourself.

Think of it what you will. Either you have high blood-pressure or you have a habit of posting when you haven’t eaten and you get hangry.

You would find it hard to get women only on a free membership forum. Also, is anonymous and inclusive. I find that some women hate men a bit too much in here. To an extent that is unhealthy. I am not saying this is you particularly. However, some of the comments are very uncomfortable. I guess other mothers of boys would find that uncomfortable too.

I never said woman free.
Also it rather proves a point of other posters when the only sexual reference in the thread is by a man

They were quoting your faux pas….

To be fair to OP, it was a stupid joke and I probably shouldn't have made it. I've seen plenty of women on here make similar jokes, but it takes on a different tone when a man does it so I apologise for that @Moonshine5

@Smithhy no they weren't as I had already immediately quoted and corrected my "faux pas" myself. But crack on being an apologist for sexist remarks

The only sexist remark I can see is your “only sexual reference in the thread is by a man”.

Would you have called this out if a woman had posted it?

Oh, sorry - are women supposed to confine themselves to certain topics and only discuss childcare, cooking, housekeeping, relationships, education and caring for elderly relatives then?

Would you have called this out if a woman had posted it?

It's quite different for a man to say it to a woman than for a woman to say it. If you don't understand why, I won't bother explaining why, something tells me that you won't take it on board. A woman didn't say it though...funny that!

Has this theead not been deleted yet?

Sorry to hijack but does anyone think there's also way too many old people on MN? I'd start a thread but would expect it to have a life expectancy of about 10 seconds

I've taken to checking a posters history when I suspect they are shit stirring misogynistic man. I haven't been wrong yet...

I agree with most of this.

I don’t mind when it’s a general parenting type question eg tell me about this school / area / product

I mind MASSIVELY when it’s clear that it’s a woman’s perspective that is being asked for , or it’s a question that only applies to women. Eg how did you cope with X or Y when pregnant / in labour / giving birth / breastfeeding.

I give an small exemption to blokes who are trying to be helpful on the above eg Im a man but my wife found x machine useful for pumping .

But it gives me the rage when men think that the question is “ as a person who has never and will never be pregnant, do share your opinion on how woman should do it better “ .

Or men who come onto a thread about eg “ what’s it like dating as a woman in her 50s “ and spout their own opinions about what women want , without even saying they are male. Of course it’s bloody obvious 90% of the time because it’s such shite .

I also mind MASSIVELY when it’s a support thread for a woman in crisis and some bloke comes along and blames her for it eg

OP - I’ve just found out my Husband is cheating on me with my sister.
Male posters - have you let yourself go, are you giving him enough sex, you shouldn't have looked through his phone, do you work etc

This subject has come up on Mumsnet from time to time over the years and I have to say I'm not at all bothered by some of the benign male Mumsnetters who have contributed to the site - NannyNick, I seem to remember, and of course PigletJohn.

But I agree with you OP, there seems to have been a huge increase in recent years in the "man here" posts plus a very noticeable increase in generally arsey and trying to be clever retorts on threads, many of which I'm sure come from me, which makes the place feel like X or Facebook or somewhere equally horrible.