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Original poster

To ask how you would react to this?

135 replies

itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:05

Husband has barely spoken to me all weekend. It's a constant circle of me having to try and make conversation and get nothing back. I'm mad about it and I've told him so. So went I went to the shop he decided to drive off when I was inside and leave me.

It's only a 10 min walk from home. But I'm fuming. I don't know how to even react or what to say?

OP posts:
Allfur · 04/08/2024 16:06

Go to the pub

HappyChicky23 · 04/08/2024 16:08

Take your time going home, go get a coffee or a glass of wine

zaxxon · 04/08/2024 16:09

Have you asked him what's going on?

Happytimes123456 · 04/08/2024 16:10

That would really annoy me. Surely there must be a reason for him to drive off?

MonsteraMama · 04/08/2024 16:10

I'd book myself into a hotel for the night, get a nice bottle of wine and spend the evening watching my favourite trashy movies and wondering why I'm married to such a colossal arse biscuit.

Then I'd speak to a solicitor at my earliest convenience. I absolutely would not stand for the level of disrespect your husband has shown you.

Aquamarine1029 · 04/08/2024 16:12

That would spell the end for me, I assure you.

Snacksgalore · 04/08/2024 16:12

Why isn’t he speaking to you?

What happened with the shop? Why is he driving? What are you buying? There is a lot of context missing.

Honestly, I haven’t been in that kind of situation so I don’t know what I would do.

summerdazey · 04/08/2024 16:13

Gosh

And you've really no idea why he's being like this?

sunsetsandboardwalks · 04/08/2024 16:14

Why isn't he speaking to you?

Has there been an argument? Does he just want some peace and quiet? Surely there's more to it than "he's not talking to me and now he's driven off"?

Original poster
itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:15

If I didn't have the kids to sort of be fucking off to a hotel far away because I absolutely hate him so much right now.

Our relationship is constantly me wanting more, wanting conversations, someone to talk to. But fuck all. That's what I get.

OP posts:
dontstopmenowimhavingagoodtime · 04/08/2024 16:16

HappyChicky23 · 04/08/2024 16:08

Take your time going home, go get a coffee or a glass of wine

This!

Enjoy the sunshine, buy a trashy mag and take your time to relax.

He sounds hard work.

Original poster
itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:16

It's starting to rain so there's no sunshine to enjoy. I need to sort of kids dinner or I'd just not go back

OP posts:
dontstopmenowimhavingagoodtime · 04/08/2024 16:17

itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:15

If I didn't have the kids to sort of be fucking off to a hotel far away because I absolutely hate him so much right now.

Our relationship is constantly me wanting more, wanting conversations, someone to talk to. But fuck all. That's what I get.

Were the children on the car when he drove off?

Poor them!

Aquamarine1029 · 04/08/2024 16:17

Op, go back home, spend time with your kids, and make a plan. Get out as soon as possible.

CoastalCalm · 04/08/2024 16:18

Let him sort the kids out !

Aquamarine1029 · 04/08/2024 16:18

Were your children in the car when he drove off without you?

MrsMoastyToasty · 04/08/2024 16:18

Let him sort the kids out.

Original poster
itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:18

Yes. Kids were in the car.

OP posts:
Aquamarine1029 · 04/08/2024 16:19

itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:18

Yes. Kids were in the car.

Op, you cannot stay with this man. That is absolutely horrendous. Your poor kids. What a horrible example for them.

cupcaske123 · 04/08/2024 16:20

I'm assuming he isn't capable of making their dinner or taking care of them.

He's treating you with contempt which normally spells the end of the relationship. Ignoring you is abusive.

I wouldn't say anything. Just ignore him back and get on with it. Have a think about whether you want to continue putting up with this.

BlastedPimples · 04/08/2024 16:22

He drove off and left you with the kids in the car? They will have been distressed about that.

What an awful man.

I think he hates you and wants to make you miserable.

You deserve better. So much better.

Can you make an arrangement to see a solicitor? This isn't going to get better.

Purplecatshopaholic · 04/08/2024 16:23

I am assuming he is doing the kids tea - why should you/how can you do it when he’s left you to walk home, and he’s there with them.
Btw you really need a lawyer op. The level of disrespect here - and in front of your kids - is really vile.

dontstopmenowimhavingagoodtime · 04/08/2024 16:24

itsoverisntit12 · 04/08/2024 16:18

Yes. Kids were in the car.

Oh they would've been so upset

What a horrible man!

MonsteraMama · 04/08/2024 16:24

He's a grown man and a father, he can sort the kids tea. Take yourself out for the night, sod him.

BlastedPimples · 04/08/2024 16:24

You can't leave the kids with him. They will be so upset wondering where you are.