To ask how you would react to this?

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Husband has barely spoken to me all weekend. It's a constant circle of me having to try and make conversation and get nothing back. I'm mad about it and I've told him so. So went I went to the shop he decided to drive off when I was inside and leave me.

It's only a 10 min walk from home. But I'm fuming. I don't know how to even react or what to say?

Please tell your parents Op, you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and you're going to need their help to get away from this man. He's worn you down for so long you've lost all hope of something better and that's just wrong. You're flogging a dead horse trying to keep this marriage alive, he doesn't even like you, never mind love you. You must know this is a terrible example to your children

That behaviour would bug me enough to ignore him for the rest of the day. Tomorrow I might bother to ask him what the problem is.

Seriously, this behaviour is unacceptable from an adult.

You would feel embarrassed because your h has behaved terribly?

Or would you feel embarrassed because you don't feel ready to ditch him?

Absolutely, this.

He sounds like a pathetic baby. Give him something to really complain about and hand him a crisp set of divorce papers. Wanker.

I’d make the decision right now that this is the end and then get ducks in a row and massively grey rock him from now on. Just drop the rope with him. He sounds horrible, hope you’re ok. You can get through it, you just need to take things a step at a time.

If you have a good relationship with your parents I would tell them what happened - he possibly expects you not to and so behaves this way. If he behaves like this he might play silly buggers when you decide to leave. Your parents need your perspective so that they don’t fall for any ‘she’s mad’ narrative from him.

They may be able to help you with the means to leave
I am sure you have read the info on here - get your ducks in a row, have your parents on side and walk away from the fuckery

When I was younger I put up with so much crap from men. I'm only in my early 30s now but I wouldn't even dream of sticking around a man who dared to be even slightly disrespectful to me. Dc or not. I have raised a baby alone and I'd do it again in a heartbeat rather than live a life of misery. My friends make jokes about me laying in bed while my dh serves me. It's funny but also true. As a woman I'm too good for any man and so are you. Men are lucky to be with us in the first place. They better treat us like they know this or they can go away. Lots of men are emotionally inept and we should avoid those men like the plague. There is no excuse for it but that's how they are.

Why would you live your life like this? I don't understand it when this loser brings nothing to the table and you are too good for him. Why continue to live in misery and show your dc this is what life is like. There is literally no point.

I'd react by telling him to go back to his mummy's because he's still in the toddler tantrum phase so needs to go back on the naughty step. The peace and relief you will feel will be amazing.

Can he not look after them or feed them?

How are things now op

If it were me I wouldn't cook for him, I wouldn't do his laundry or anything else. Don't talk to him unless you have something very important that needs you to communicate with him. To be honest though I would just finish with him. Your life will be a lot better.

my husband didn’t talk for 2 weeks , when he did it was to tell me he was leaving , i’m now happily divorced

Sounds like he's used to being the one in control. Try some of his own medicine on him along with some straight consequences, and make sure he believes you - if you keep treating me like this I'll have no choice but to leave you, I can't let the kids grow up thinking this is acceptable behaviour.
Some hard reality checks might sort him out.
If not then you'll have no choice sadly OP, you can't let the kids grow up thinking this is acceptable behaviour.

1. suggest couples counselling
2. lawyer up
3. formulate exit strategy

He’s the one who should be embarrassed, not you.

Whose car is it? Be damned if I’d get in there again. Fuck him. Abusive, miserable cunt.

Honestly either stay, don’t engage, make your own life, or leave and start over. I know it’s easier said than done, but he will suck the life out of you. The relationship sounds over. Not great for the children to absorb this.

I hope you've spoken to a lawyer and started the divorce process

Why could he not have sorted their dinner?

Why did you even let him eat one bite of that pasta? After that behaviour I would have scraped it in the bin rather than give it to him.

You should tell your parents. And his - let them know what a prince he raised. And get advice about leaving this man asap. Women’s aid, CAB, or have you got an employee assistance programme?

I'm scared the kids will tell grandparents what just happened.

I think they should.

I don't want the grandparents to know because my mother would erupt and quote frankly because I feel embarrassed

Who would she erupt at? Your horrible husband? He deserves it. I imagine that she already has an inkling of what he is like. When DD’s ex BF starting behaving like an arsehole towards her it was pretty obvious to me.

There is anothing to be ashamed of.

The two of you need to talk/ argue this out and see where you are with each other. Forget about who knows, that isn’t the important thing. The important thing is whether you’re really done or whether this is fixable- why you’re together, if you love each other, if eg ye are overtired or stuck in a rut or it’s kids or whether you’ve both just changed too much (we are going through this this year and both figuring out what we are to each other and life is forevermore changed so hugs x)

Is this the first time something like this has happened?
If the answer is no just start making plans to leave.
You deserve to live a happy life OP, he sounds awful.
I used to have one like him - life is so much better now I got rid of him.

If I'm honest, I don't think I do love him anymore (not solely because of this incident) but I'm scared to leave. Not because I'm scared of him, but I'm scared of being alone, the kids having a broken home, less income, looking after the kids on my own. All of it. I don't know how to do it or where to start

He took great pleasure yesterday in telling me he had blocked my phone number (childish) but somehow this ongoing drama is my fault because I'm not talking to him now.

Sorry wrong thread!

Look up entitled to or turn to us for benefit advice if you are in the uk - just base it on your wage - you could get some help -= also he’s abusive - he will need to pay maintenance too - get his details re work NI number - you maybe able to rent privately and LEAVE him!!! It’s not you - stop cooking for him please or doing anything for the over grown baby - he will tie you in knots - whatever you do IT WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH - the hurdles and issues will keep moving.
Google Grey Rock technique - become detached - 🌺🌺