To ask how you would react to this?

[itsoverisntit12]

Husband has barely spoken to me all weekend. It's a constant circle of me having to try and make conversation and get nothing back. I'm mad about it and I've told him so. So went I went to the shop he decided to drive off when I was inside and leave me.

It's only a 10 min walk from home. But I'm fuming. I don't know how to even react or what to say?

I've gone home. I can't leave them for the night because he leaves too early and I know will be upset if I'm not there / they don't know where I am.

I don't even know what to do now. I think I know we've reached the end but I can't even face it. I'm scared the kids will tell grandparents what just happened. I can't het my head around it all

Huge red flag. That is really crappy behaviour. I bet this wasn't massively out of character for him, was it?

Damned right. Taxi home to drop oiff the shopping, straight back into the taxi to the nearest nice hotel. Or a friend's house.

He said he drove off because he feels I slammed the door of the car when I got out and because he was mad that I tried to give him directions to a place he knew the way to.

Tell the GPs. My DP would shut down. I made it clear that he either communicated or we were done. Start to make plans to end things. How did it start?

Why are you scared your kids will tell the grandparents? Your parents or his?

Are you afraid of him, op?

You can take some control back. Stop trying with him. He's abusing you by ignoring you and driving off like that.

He doesn't deserve your effort or energy.

Did any of that happen?

His reasons for driving off are bullshit.

There are never any reasons for driving off with the kids and leaving you.

Yes, I said "we should have turned left there, shouldn't we?" because he went past. I've never known him to go to this place before so I thought he maybe didn't know that was the way. He was then having a go at me about that still as I was getting out of I don't feel I slammed the door but maybe I did because he was going at me

He sounds like a moronic arse tbh.

Even if you did slam the door OP that is no reason for him to drive off and leave you. There is no excuse for treating you with such contempt.
How old are your children? Do you work?

Have you been walking on eggshells for long?

I’d like to know what he said to the children as he left you!

What are your living arrangements? Are they his kids?

Honestly @itsoverisntit12 fuck that.

I wouldn’t allow myself or my children to live in that toxicity.

life is too short to waste it living like that.

start getting advice etc then once you know your entitlements etc pull the plug.

oh and as for the children telling the grandparents let them, they should know you are being treated so poorly! You have nothing to be ashamed or scared about

just to add I understand things are more complicated than just leave but that doesn’t mean it’s not possible with planning

Me neither, I definitely wouldn’t be going back today.

( Arse biscuit 😆 )

Get your ducks in a row OP. Your dh is vile, abusive and you deserve so much better. As do your DC.

That's pretty bloody horrible OP.

So we can imagine he told your children he was making you walk home?

Or simply said nothing and they would have worked it out themselves.

He doesn't deserve a wife and family.

Get rid 😡

That would be the end for me. Why are you worried about the kids telling their grandparents? Isn’t it past time they knew what a complete arse he is?

I've made pasta for the kids which had leftovers - of course he's now eating that because cooking for him is all I'm good for. I feel like throwing the pan at his head

To answer questions. I work, yes. The kids are his, we live in a privately rented property but not sure how I'd financially manage just on my wage. We could, but it would be a stretch.

I don't want the grandparents to know because my mother would erupt and quote frankly because I feel embarrassed

This is beyond awful. It would have been shocking behaviour if it had just been the two of you but the fact that your kids were there makes it even worse. For their sake as well as yours, please make any possible steps to leave this man.

How old are the children?

Please don't raise your kids in this environment. It will ruin them.

I would go home and go in and say nothing to him
I would make dinner for me and the children, not him
I would totally & utterly ignore him. I would ask why he'd driven off and I would immediately stop doing anything for him - laundry, meals, etc
I'd phone in sick tomorrow and research and set up a meeting with a divorce solicitor and get all legal & financial documents together, which I'd then ask a friend to hold.

When I was ready I'd tell him I want a divorce
Then I'd email everyone on Both sides of the family telling them our marriage was over due to OHs abusive behaviour

Get ahead of him & stay ahead of him
Control the narrative