To ask how you would react to this?

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Husband has barely spoken to me all weekend. It's a constant circle of me having to try and make conversation and get nothing back. I'm mad about it and I've told him so. So went I went to the shop he decided to drive off when I was inside and leave me.

It's only a 10 min walk from home. But I'm fuming. I don't know how to even react or what to say?

Ffs is he autistic! Why is that always trotted out? Such an insult to anyone with autism.

Always 😂In relation to pretty much any behaviour too! I was reading a post on here the other day about a mum saying she couldn't get her teen daughter to tidy her room. First reply "this sounds like she could be autistic" 😂No she's just a lazy arse teenager FFS!!!!!

And it sounds nothing like autism either. This is abusive behaviour, old as time.

Women’s weakness is needing love and attention so it’s a male’s favourite weapon. Men’s weakness is their money and assets, and they require sex like a drug.

Use these weapons until you can free yourself

Your home won't be broken when you split, it's broken now.
I'll just dive onto the pile of people telling you to leave because I did and it was the best decision I've ever made. Only difference was he was financially abusive so in that aspect I was better off however, I lost the childcare his family provided. I made it work.
At the time I was terrified. I read something on here, scared to stay and too terrified to leave, which has always stayed with me.
You're doing the children and yourself no favours by staying. You've nothing to be embarrassed about, it's him who is shameful. Tell anyone who asks what he's really like. He doesn't deserve you covering for him. And just leave please. There's a better life to be had, I promise.

The aim was to destabilise you and make you feel this confusion. I am living this, a few stages ahead with mine.

Your choices, get out..but if you must stay for a while (like I have to) you have to learn how to talk his language.

Mirror him. Spend his money, ignore him completely like nothing he does matters. Make him work for your attention, hard. No sex unless he behaves. If he looks at other women/porn, mirror this heavily too with other men.

Watch him treat you better. Never cry in front of him, they love it when you’re hurt. Don’t try to explain your emotions to him. Narcs don’t have them (only shame). Use shame if you really want to crush. Of course, it’s better to walk but if you have to live with one, this is what they respect…cruelty.

Toxic advice for the day. I love protecting women 💖

Biggest one

When he flips and starts treating you better, don’t get comfortable. Be ready for the devalue that’s coming your way. Don’t react to it (very very hard)

Honestly OP, this is no way to live. He sounds emotionally stuck at about ten. Not like a functioning adult man. It’s also a terrible example for him to set to your children.
You would be happier alone than like this, surely ?

Very much agree with this.

I would believe him when he is showing what he thinks of me and book a solicitors appointment and line up my options.

I would formally give my husband whatever divorce papers you issue at this point.

I would write to both sets of grandparents and say that the marriage has irretrievable broken down, you are instructing a solicitor, that it is not up for further discussion, you can and will no longer stay in an abusive marriage, and would appreciate their support so that their grandchildren feel loved.

I would not stay in an abusive marriage for the sake of my children. I've lived in a home with a bullying, narc parent and it's created a whole legacy for me and my siblings not least the need to consciously not repeat their "parenting" techniques and marital relationship.

Yeah me too.