To think you're not really that adventurous if you have your husband with you

[GigglingSid]

I'm part of a group for families who enjoy travel, nature, camping, outdoor pursuits, both in the UK and abroad. It's not a very single parent friendly group, some of the advice given, particularly around my budget for certain holidays has been very rude. There's been a lot of women commenting 'well my husband will always drive/ put up the tent/ plan routes/ bugger off cycling all day and leave me with the kids.
I've been away this week and have been chatting to various people on the group about hiking routes, camping spots etc. It suddenly struck me that many of these families have credit cards with limitless amounts on them, expensive cars, tents and camping equipment worth thousands and they are also nearly all heteronormative couples. What a different experience trekking though the Sahara as or with a large white man with you compared to my experience as a short, mid thirties woman?
I feel like I've been conned a little bit into thinking I wasn't able to be part of this elite club as I wasn't savvy enough at reading a OS map or that great at kayaking.
But maybe actually being a woman on her own, with two kids, £200 and an Aldi tent makes me the most adventurous of them all?

Or the least? with all your advantages being tall & all 😆

Spot on @ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo

It’s not what I said.

I think it’s brave OP. It doesn’t detract from anyone else to recognise that you’re out there doing it without the same financial, physical or emotional safety net as everyone else in your group.

💯

Does bravery equate to stepping out of a comfort zone or doing things that a majority of others aren’t doing?

Its mean straight... obviously lesbians can't camp for some reason.

Maybe they're not brave enough because they don't have a husbands hand to hold and they just aren't as 'not like other girls' as OP.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

I thought it might mean straight, although I have never heard that word myself, but then I thought what on earth has being straight got to do with camping, travelling or travelling so I concluded I was wrong!

Why?

Most of my 'gay' friends are family units.

We are well past the days of 'spinsters' living together as 'roommates' and the odd glances at the strange man who just 'never found a wife'. Getting married and raising children is as normal to all groups now as it is to just 'straights'.

I know, that’s the irony for me as well. Can’t we just be humans, I really do not need a label that tells me who you have sex with. When male bands in the 80’s wore frocks and make up no one cared.

Of course gay couples can have children, but the logistics of that are more complex and there are fewer gay couples to begin with. The vast majority of children are still being brought up within a 'heteronormative' family structure.

OP wasn’t brave enough to come back.

In fact my sister & cousins took style tips 😆

bore off with your labels

No, that would be too easy.

or Adventurous?

I think you're seeing competition where there isn't any.

What they do doesn't take away from the adventurousness of what you do.

Feeling very superior and adventurous in her Aldi tent, thinking about how to label people in new ways.

This phrase needs to be said over and over for all aspects of life.

@MillyMollyMandHey The first bit I mean

Absolutely. And you are the hero of the campsite. The pampered wives are on another planet congratulating themselves on leaving their posh safe homes for a few nights luxury camping. Kidding themselves they are really cool and wild

Yes i think you are quite brave. I am not adventurous or into "real travelling" and would never willingly go camping. We have taken kids glamping and loved it. But wouldnt do it alone. But why care how and why others do it?

Maybe she is? I missed the Middle Aisle that week...

I was too busy grouping my friends & preparing them for my hetero-normative failure to launch my pop up tent

Off to tell my husband and children that we are now considered a heteronormative failure.
Does this mean our cat is a failure too, I mean she is 17 and like a family member.

Comparison is the thief of joy