To dismiss a guy pursuing me, because he likes metal music?

[LilacCatt]

A nice guy is pursuing me. I don't know him much yet, but he is nice so far.

Something that is making me have 2nd thoughts though... Is that he loves metal music.

I frigging hate metal music.

I like pop, rock, reggae, soul, house, disco, grunge, classical.... Anything but metal. I cant bear to listen to even 30 seconds of metal. To me, it sounds totally demonic. I cannot comprehend why someone would want to listen to that.

I spend a large portion of every day with music playing.

This guy says he listens to metal 80% of the time.

I'd love to meet someone who I can really vibe and dance with, and just enjoy listening to the same music together.

AIBU to dismiss a guy for his music tastes? Even if he is a nice guy, respectful, handsome, very sporty/muscly...?

That is good advice, shag him!

It's the very definition of fuck around and find out...

I wouldn't even trust someone who didn't like heavy metal let alone sleep with them!

Yeah, we need examples of the songs.

My music taste goes from
Slayer to Don Williams 🤷🏼‍♀️

Errmmm....can I have his number?!

I'm hoping for something from this century.

Bad Omens
Bring Me the Horizon
Sleep Token

Give me the good stuff OP, I love hearing new things.

You can send him my way! He sounds great

I love James!

I’d dismiss him if he didn’t like metal music. Musical compatibility is one of my red lines.

If it’s important to you then it’s entirely up to you to not pursue it any further. Whether that’s the right decision, well I guess you’ll never know.

My son and his gf have quite different music tastes so they take it in turns to see each other’s type of music live. (He’s into Slipknot type stuff, she’s into that American college type stuff) Seems to work for them they’re still mad for each other lol.

YABU. I'm a horror film buff, while my husband absolutely loathes them. He loves football, it bores me to tears. Somehow our marriage has survived for ten years.
I don't think these things are deemed dealbreakers to many people past the age of about sixteen, sorry.

Can I have your number? 😆

Hmm it's a tricky one. I think if you're not feeling it then you're not feeling it.

With regards to the music taste thing, I don't think you're being unreasonable. I have friends who aren't that fussed about music, and wouldn't mind either way. But music is super important to me and a big part of my life. Not just live music but what music I have on in the car, or at home. I would find it very hard to have a partner who didn't have a decent overlap of musical taste with me.

(Agree with pps that I generally find metal fans to be lovely people, but don't think that helps you here.)

No one likes reggae it’s the worst music in the world

Different things are important to different people.

Someone who loves to travel is less likely to be compatible with someone who doesn’t like leaving their home town.

Someone who is seriously into fitness is less likely to be compatible with a couch potato.

Someone who is a foodie is less likely to be compatible with someone who has restrictive eating.

I know lots of great couples who have completely opposite taste in things and they are still really compatible but some things are more important than others.

It depends how big of a part music is to both of their lives.

To be fair ska gives it a run for its shite one-note all-sounds-the-same money.

DH loves ska.

It can be testing times in our house 😆

Okay so this is me and you thinking the same, from different angles 🙃

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What?!?
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I like rock music, not so much heavy metal but wouldn’t dismiss someone for that. However, it’s absolutely your prerogative - you can decline to pursue a romantic relationship for any reason you want!

Yes cause historically all the most evil people in history listened to Electric Guitars being played through speakers with distortion added.

Genghis loved a bit of Black Sabbath
Stalin moshed evey Saturday night to Slipknot
Hitler? He was well into Iron Maiden, had an Eddie tattoo..

🤪

To be absolutely fair, no one owes anyone a relationship, tell him to fuck off for whatever reason you like.
But taste in music? Not something I would ever see as a red flag.

There's quite a queue forming.

We might have to have a raffle for him!

I can’t stand 90% of my DH’s music choices!
I’m the metal/rock lover whereas he loves a bit of everything, there’s certain songs I just can’t cope with and he knows it, we always compromise when we are listening together and will skip songs if it’s one the other person really dislikes!
We do send each other songs we’ll think the other will enjoy and that’s definitely helped us build a playlist that we both enjoy listening to!

You'll never know unless you try. He could be the love of your life and you've dismissed him just because he likes a bit of Swedish death metal 😂

Give him a test drive to some Slipknot, you never know, you might like it...

He listens to negative demon music not a red flag at all

I just cancelled tomorrow 's date.
I felt relieved at the decision.
But he was such a gentleman now I also feel a bit regretful.
But, what's done is done.