Sister keeps asking when I will move my family out of my parents’ house

[KindNavyJoker]

Dh and I emigrated back to the UK with the kids after living abroad for 5 years. I have 3 young children aged 5,3 and 1.

Whilst dh and I get situated we are staying with my parents. We are lucky that they live in a beautiful home a short walking distance from a lovely high st. And the train into London is only a short walk away. My parents encouraged dh and I to enjoy the summer with them before jumping into setting up house. I appreciate this a lot.

It’s going well. I do my best to be a good house guest and so do my kids and dh.

Anyway, my sister was visiting (dropped off her kids for free babysitting before buggering off to pub) and whilst we were having a drink very directly started asking about my plans. And how I don’t want to take the piss etc. She pointed out how messy the living/diner/kitchen was ie cluttered with toys. But tbh I don’t see how this is relevant to her. I make sure to tidy up before my parents return from work.

I think us being here is more inconvenient for my sister as she has lost her second space. She had my nephew’s birthday party at my parents house - in the main space my kids and I spend most of our time. Didn’t even bother to ask me. Just announced it.

AIBU in thinking I am doing absolutely nothing wrong. My parents suggested exactly what I am doing.

We are having a great Summer after a stressful move before having to move to a cheaper, less picturesque area most likely.

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Two sides of the same coin - hard to tell from reading if your parents are extremely generous to you both, or if you're both taking advantage.

I have similar aged DC, moving a family of that age and size in with the grandparents is a massive thing. And your sister didn't need to ask you about the birthday party, just your parents.

My husband looked after the kids. Sister just turned up assuming someone would be there for childcare. No text, phone call etc

I took it that the op meant her sister hadn't even bothered to ask her to the party, as in 'invite'. That's probably just me, I frequently get hold of the wrong end of the stick.

No doubt sister is a bit resentful but it isn't for long, she'll get over it.

She also immediately popped into my mind when I started reading this...

Can you at least acknowledge that your sister was under no requirement to ask you if she could have the party at your parents’ house @KindNavyJoker !

But not fine to be upset that another DC didn't ask OPs permission to hold a party in their parents home.... as OP had said, she's a guest!

@KindNavyJoker that's between your parents and your sister, the babysitting duties, nothing to do with you!!

Haha sounds identical!

My parents wanted us to stay with them so we could all reconnect and spend time together

You are not being unreasonable to stay for the summer as invited but neither is her “dropping off her kids for free babysitting” or hosting her kids party there without your permission.

Presumably your parents agreed to these things for her, like they have for you. It’s none of your business just like your arrangements are none of hers.

You should both turn your energy to being grateful and maybe treating your parents to a cooked meal/bunch of flowers rather than moaning about eachother. Both sound unbearable.

Christ, your parents must have the patience of saints.

You're both adults, isn't it about time you sorted your own bloody lives out rather than hanging about your folks' house and whinging like petulant teenagers?

But they don't want you to start dictating to your sister about how they babysit or host parties!!

None of your business!

I feel sorry for your parents. Wonder how disappointed they are raising two entitled brats. Must feel like they are supporting two adult daughters with kids . Wondering where they went wrong .

Not me

My parents encouraged dh and I to enjoy the summer with them before jumping into setting up house. I appreciate this a lot.

From this I take that they were invited to stay and unwind before looking for a new home.

Maybe your parents are used to keeping a tidy house, and are struggling with baby stuff everywhere.

Maybe the nephews always has his party at his grandparents house, so this is nothing new.

You’ve been away for several years. They probably know your parents better than you do.

Haha

if DH & I were those parents, the wills would be showing the house going to Cats Protection, and the sisters would get £5 each.

This!

Could your parents have mentioned that summer is drawing to an end and you're still in "enjoyment" mode?

Why would she ask you it's not your house .

That made me chortle.

Jealous.

Your mum is probably loving having all her chicks under her nose. If she was unhappy she wouldn't have offered.

Your sister is unhappy but it's not her beeswax.

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exactly who came to my mind