To be annoyed at people who turn off 'read' receipts on WhatsApp?

[PrincessOfPreschool]

So basically you will never get blue ticks from them.

I know a few people who do this and it really annoys me because I now assume they've seen it but don't rant to reply. I keep my ticks on because sometimes I'm not able to check my phone frequently. I'd rather someone know I haven't seen their message yet, not that I'm ignoring them, or maybe I have seen it and just forgotten to reply - so they can prompt me.

I find it weirdly controlling that someone doesn't want me know they've read my message. Of course, you don't know when an email has been read, or a phone message listened to, but WhatsApp has that function which I think is great.

If you're someone who turns off the blue ticks, can you tell me why...

That is something that has come along with modern technology though. 80 years ago people would have had to ‘cope with uncertainty’ as there would have been no way of knowing if someone had received your letter, for example, unless they decided to reply.

Well, exactly, and the second group are unlikely to have happy relationships or happy lives.

I keep mine on because I want to know my children have seen my messages. It's often about collecting from railway stations and if they've not seen it I will call them!

However several of my contacts have theirs turned off. I quite like this because I know that it works both ways, and they won't see if I've read their message yet either.... I quite like it when I add a new contact and they have blue ticks set to OFF.

And my "last online" is definitely OFF. A friend asked what I was doing at 5am once. Fuck right off!!!! I discovered last online can be switched off and did it straightaway - the cheek of it! And I'm not remotely interested in when someone else was "last online".

It will be "last cleaned the kitchen sink" or "last took a shit" next - fuck off Big Brother

Ranting over (I'm projecting)

I haven't done this but completely understand why people do. These days you're expected to be at people's call 24/7. If someone sees the blue ticks they expect an immediate response.

Not a fan of the assumption that you have to reply to a phone call, message etc. It’s a choice.

This. Hence why I'm confused about why people turn of read receipts (although until this thread i didn't actually know you could lol)

This! I’ve never had the blue ticks. I think it’s so weird.

Yep this. It’s absolutely no one’s business when I’ve read their message, how long ago I was online etc. it won’t make me answer any quicker - I’ll reply when I’m ready!

I’ve always had all my settings as private. I don’t care what time someone read my message so why do they care when I read theirs? 🤷‍♀️

I honestly thinks it’s very much personality based.

In my experience, the people who are open books/laid back/easygoing tend to leave the blue ticks on because they haven’t given it a huge amount of thought.

Yes.

You find that weirdly controlling? I find it weirdly controlling that you need to know they've read it.

Calling someone dear, is the most unattractive thing in this thread.

FYI, if you click on your msg and then press info, you can see if it has been read whether they have blue ticks on or not.

As far as I know, that only happens in WhatsApp groups, not individual conversations

I’ve turned them off. You’re not entitled to my time and attention just because you’ve texted me.

Most texts these days are a bloody nuisance I don’t want to delay with anyway.

My phone is for my convenience not everyone else’s.

I’ve turned off read receipts and last seen because I have friends who like to stalk me on WhatsApp, and I really don’t have time for that shit.

I didn’t know you could switch them off! Thick head ‘untechy’ me 😊. Tbh I’d find it annoying if I didn’t know if my message had been read but I accept it it’s their choice.
I’m retired now, but many years ago, with children and a demanding job, I think I would have reduced my availability so I do get it.

I didn’t know there were ticks! I’ve never noticed them! Once I’ve sent a message it’s gone into the blue yonder as far as I’m concerned, if I wanted a really quick reply on something important I might call.

Other people must be so annoyed with me, I hardly ever reply with any promptness and now they all know I’ve not bothered to get up and sort out whatever they were asking for.

I can’t believe people keep track of when their messages were read, seems like another level of stress and anxiety in life that no one needs

This. It’s called privacy.

I hate the idea of someone sitting there waiting to see if there are blue ticks. ‘Always on’ culture is bad enough - we should not be expected to reply as soon as we read something.

You sound like the kind of person to get annoyed if someone waited a few days to reply - which is exactly the kind of behaviour people like me want to avoid.

Communicating under a feeling of duress or obligation is not fun or healthy. And sitting there checking your blue ticks is kind of weird and needy.

It's one of those things that instantly tells you a lot about a person. As soon as I see someone has the ticks turned off I assume they are not a laid back person and are likely to be a bit uptight.

Your friend sounds awful! Dump?

I used to have a friend who would want instant replies and get shirty if I didn’t. She used send ‘???’ to men on dating apps too if they took too long to reply (I’m talking a few hours to a day). She got too much to handle - like a jealous girlfriend. She’s the kind of person who’d want you to keep your ticks on because she would sit there just watching and waiting instead of going out and living life. Sad. But don’t miss her at all.

hold down the message you last sent and click info tells you if it’s been seen or read!