Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

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This is where you are being extremely unreasonable.. if you've got an extra wide range in a presumably large kitchen, then just buy a bloody air conditioning unit.

They are £250 and you can put it anywhere in the house, we've got three dogs and a small child and would never go back to not having one now, I can't believe you'd have a go at him for daring to cook food in his own house, rather then find a cheap solution to your cooling problem, you ARE controlling.

Also your use of language is very dramatic - “a sauna” “sweltering” and “scalding”. It “hit” 29 degrees - it’s not 40 degrees or something.

“Running around” and “throwing” frozen towels on the dogs - so dramatic. The dogs don’t even sound like they want the cold towels

A/C units eat energy!!!

Did you not say dh never has fried food????

Why do you own an oven? Are hot meals only allowed in your house Dec - Feb? Once the temperature drops below a certain level?

If you like a cool house then a range is completely the wrong option for you. Get rid and get in a standard oven.

Lovely summer days and you have curtains closed and scolding your husband for using the kitchen. ?? Yes, you are controlling. Very much so.

I'm in hospital watching my dad die. In the grand scheme of things you're being ridiculous. He's a grown man who is allowed to cook and eat in his own home.

You are. Wtf let the man use the oven.

Yes absolutely. If you are married to someone you will surely know things about them like the fact they don't like the heat. It is disrespectful of the other to ignore that and warm the house by cooking when you could have had something cold. It's the same either way around.

Haha! I thought this. UPF.

Cooking a lion is not only disrespectful but illegal! Don't do this! 🤣

Ffs you sound insane. You are controlling. You’re bringing the paddling pools out for the dogs?! Your poor husband - Imagine living like that!!

@Oldermum84 isn't it disrespectful to your partner to dictate what food you allow them to cook?

Because you're "hot", everyone apart from you and OP disagrees? But you think k you're right?

You're as batshit crazy and controlling as OP, how the hell did you happen to be on the same forum?

OP - AIBU?
Mumsnet - Yes!!
OP - no I’m not!!

This has to be the most U thread I've ever seen on AIBU

I wouldn't get on with someone this controlling and dramatic-sounding tbf. At least not in the same house.

Give them a cool shower and leave damp

It doesn't actually, but even if it did.. so bloody what?? So does the double wide range? it's all about prioritising what you need in life, and how comfortable you want to be.

Besides that you literally need to use it around 10 days a year, if that.

It costs us about 35p per hour to run ours.

it’s also disrespectful to control how someone uses their own house. Why should you be forced to have something cold? Why does OP trump DH

Your poor husband, so he can’t have a hot meal if he fancies one?!

You sound even more barking than the dogs! Your dh is a grown man who is quite entitled to us the cooker!

I have to thank the OP as I read her posts out to my family earlier as we sat outside, and it caused much mirth.

It's his house too!

Gosh I rarely say this but Yes. You are being unreasonable

I appreciate a hot house is annoying but Christ let the man use his own oven in peace