Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

[SharpOliveHam]

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

Maybe, but people like @Oldermum84 think it's acceptable!

Crazy

Is this a reverse ? Of course you are being controlling !

You're being absolutely batshit, unfortunately. The heat can make us crazy, however your husband also has to eat, and has the right to prepare/cook his food however he likes.

You sound controlling and unreasonable. Just because you don't want to eat a fry up or use the oven, you shouldn't stop your husband from using the oven.

I have two large dogs too and have had the paddling pool out for them since last week. (Change the water every couple of days), or they go lie in the shade outside or hide in my cool utility room.

Last year I bought a mobile air conditioning unit for them when the weather was too hot. Why don't you try that instead of being controlling with your husband.

Would you say OP was being disrespectful and unthoughtful if it was the other way round or would you be calling the DH controlling?

You sound unhinged. Don’t sweat the small stuff 🥵

Is this a troll post?

OP you sound very difficult to live with and tbh yes controlling if this is an ongoing pattern. Are you menopausal, is that why you have a huge aversion to heat? I bet your husband also hates many things you do but marriage is about compromise and forgiving each others fault. I think you need to let it go and apologise

I am in Spain. It’s boiling. We cook here every day 🤷🏻‍♀️

Buy an air fryer. Can cook all that in one, less heat, less electric, no oil if you don’t want (although the mushrooms go a bit wrinkly).Also, if this is real and I’m doubting everything currently, YABVU.

Bad crank

Never heard of this 😁
It actually reminded me of last Christmas, when the famous store had a "treat" for kids on sale, pink hot chocolate with melting head of Percy the pig. I'm 45 and found it quite creepy! 😳

1 Cal spray is not healthy .

"Frylight is made up of oil, water, lecithins (emulsifier), xanthan gum (thickener), natural flavouring"

On this and on every other point, reason is on your husbands side.

Get a couple of window aircon units. Pick two rooms to put them in. Problem solved. Why haven't you considered this?

YABU and stubborn as well.

Very controlling, but if him using the oven is a problem get an air fryer.

So you asked for opinions and everyone says you are unreasonable and giving you some solutions but you are still arguing 🤣. I feel for your husband, if he cant even use his own kitchen.

I don't think I'd like a 'ham sad'. It sounds like it would make me miserable.

Christ op. You just see this isn't normal behaviour. It sounds very much as you have some obsessive behaviours around temperature and the fear or being too warm.
Someone using the oven in their own kitchen is perfectly std behaviour and honestly If my husband called me selfish for cooking a meal in my own kitchen I would absolutely tell him what to go.

I have a feeling this is more of a DH "general problem" rather than a specific "DH put the oven on in this heat problem".

Do you not get on generally? In which case you'll always find him irritating.

Does anyone else really fancy a fry up now? 😅

YABU.

So you wanted a cool kitchen and DH wanted a fry up. But what makes him selfish and you not? If you believe he is selfish for using the oven, you must surely also concede that you are selfish for demanding he only eat cold food.

I’m pretty sure you don’t have throw frozen blankets on the dogs - sounds ridiculous.

It’s not even that hot at the moment. How do people and dogs survive in countries that are actually hot?

He’s entitled to cook himself food in his own home.

You sound obsessive re the temperature and very controlling.

And it’s very rare that I agree with the male partner on here.

Blimey, I have never read such a hysterical over reaction to a fairly warm kitchen. It was 26 degrees not 46 degrees!

@SharpOliveHam why couldn't you just shut the door to the kitchen to prevent the heat entering the rest of the house?

Buy him a barbecue.

OP: Am I being controlling?
94%: Yes. Yes you are.
OP: I'm not.
94%: 🙄