Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

OP: Am I being unreasonable.

Everyone: Yes, yes you are.

OP: No I’m not. But but but……

Your poor husband 😢

Not shaving double coated dogs is a complete myth. Perfectly reasonable to shave them if they're suffering in the heat. Their coats will be absolutely fine.

Rip up any carpets, tile the floors like they do in hot countries 💁

This has to be one of the most bizarre posts ever on Mumsnet. You are absolutely controlling (and unhinged), you want to stop him cooking in his own house just because you and the dogs get too hot??? 😂😂😂😂

And a bit nutty, if I'm being honest.

youre still controlling, no matter how many arguments you have to scramble for

This can't be real.

Batshit crazy.

Well it seems I no longer have to worry about expensively heating my house in the winter, I’ll just make a fry up.

What's going on today with this and the no tits on the beach post? Is it just the summer holidays?

I had my oven on at lunchtime.... I survived and so did my cats and family.

That's a contradiction he can use it but he's selfish if he does ....maybe your being selfish in dictating that he can only have cold food.

What absolute bat-shittery! Sending your DH my first ever LTB 😂😂

Get advice from your vet about your dogs. I don't believe wet from the freezer towels are recommended.
Once you've done that maybe you can leave your husband (if he hasn't already fucked off) to get on with making what ever he wants to eat because
A) he's an adult
B) he lives there too!!
Then maybe check with your GP because you sound very very stressed.....

I think you're wrong here op

Close the kitchen off to the rest of the house.

Open the windows / doors into the kitchen when it gets cooler outside.

It may not help much- but will make you feel like you are doing something.

You are being controlling. Which I think you know too.

Yanbu OP. I have just filed for a legal separation from dp because he came in from work all hot from walking home and insisted on giving me a kiss which made my inner core temperature rise by 0.25%. Bastard.

Im now lying in a chest freezer with a husky to recover.

😂😂😂😂
Sort yourself out! You should go have a cold shower and imagine what it must be like living with you!

Agree with you OP! Some houses are really, really hot and that sounds selfish. He could have eaten a salad.

Does David Attenborough know about this? Polar ice-caps melting, higher occurrence of tropical storms, ocean temperatures warming up and extreme weather events on the increase? Climate Scientists are assuming global warming is due to the excessive burning of fossil fuels - and all along its been due to your husband opening the oven door to periodically check on his baked potatoes?

Don't anyone tell Greta Thunberg, she'll never cope.

No, you're the selfish one.

You don't like the heat, so he has to jump through your hoops.

And as for running round throwing wet towels over your dogs? If I did that my dogs would think I've lost the plot 😳

Stick a fan on and chill out.

Yep, that's ridiculous on your part.

I’d hate to live with someone like you. You and the dogs will just need to get over it. Absolutely absurd. You’re the selfish one.

Wrap the dogs paws in cold towels or get a cool pad!

I'm thinking that what bothers you, doesn't bother your DH. Do you think he knew it would annoy you, but he did it anyway? Or is it that he didn't consider you when he did it? There is indeed an impact on heat in the kitchen when the oven is on- and depending how your house is set up- this may impact where you normally work, sit, chill etc

I'm guessing this is the end point of a lot of friction. And you are hyperfocussed on this because you are hot, your don't like to be hot, and you think DH has deliberately made you hot. This is a rabbit hole. The connection seems logical now, but may not later

@somanynamesbynow

he can eat what he wants. Op and the dogs will just have to get over it 🤷‍♀️

Buy him an air fryer if a hot lunch is that big a deal.

And yes you’re being incredibly controlling. Poor bloke.

Oh somebody please tell me this is a reverse. Surely you cannot be that devoid of sensibility to not see that you are totally unreasonable, massively controlling and completely batshit.