Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

[SharpOliveHam]

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

Your poor husband
whilst 26 is hot nobody is going to spontaneously combust

Omg, as an adult I cannot imagine living in an environment where I have to tread on egg shells for just wanting to use an oven for my meal! You cannot control adults to that degree - that outrageous. It’s hot for a few days. Seriously, get a grip!

I’m feeling a little chilly. The temperature in here has dropped to 28.5.

Surely you mean "our" house?

Get a grip.

Like PP said, get a fan.

My dog won’t be cooled with a paddling pool, cool towels or any means, he just has to lay flat and keep still. Doesn’t stop me cooking though.

Get an air fryer so DH doesn’t have to heat the oven. I doubt an oven heats the kitchen by THAT much. If it does, get rid of it as it’s not economical, a huge waste of energy and making a big carbon footprint.

You really are hard work and very odd.

People must be able to use the oven.
if you are so distressed by the heat could you open the window and get a fan?

Most dogs have an undercoat. It helps keep them cool, shaving would make them much, much hotter.

Don't freeze towels or fill paddling pools if it's a big deal.

I sympathise OP, you’ve worked hard to keep the house cool and now it’s broiling for the sake a few sausages. Unless you typically control what he cooks, I don’t think it’s controlling at all. I’d be really annoyed too in fact I have been annoyed in a similar situation.

Have you met you? 😂 brilliant!

So what will happen when it’s time to cook your evening meal surely your kitchen will get hot then, or don’t you have hot meals when it’s warm outside?

Agree, you need an air fryer.
And also, double coats help keep dogs cool

OP, pretty much everyone on this thread has said YABU. Take it on the chin and apologise to DH. Nothing worse than people who can't accept when they are wrong.

Very controlling, and not listening to any replies, it seems

You really sound bonkers. The man can’t cook in his own house? Catch yourself on, honestly.

Your poor husband.

I'm assuming it's also his house to do as he pleases.

So yes YABU, and controlling, and also very selfish to be fair - you want to put yourself above what he wants.

What does an extra wide range have to do with it , or is he using an extra wide frying pan...

You do realise @SharpOliveHam the point of AIBU is to listen when you are told by over 90% of people that you are being unreasonable???

It's very entertaining to read though 😂

It's probable that the ambient temperature would have risen in any case. Your OH making lunch won't have had that big an effect. Honestly OP, I think you owe him an apology. YABVU in my opinion.

Put two things on the birthday list.
An airfryer for DH and a portable air conditioner or a reverse cycle cooler for you.

Both you and your husband could be more respectful of each other on these odd very warm days.

Now that the house is very hot I suggest that you, dogs and all, take a family trip to a very large air conditioned shopping complex or other public buildings that are well cooled.
Follow up with a lovely evening walk in a leafy forrest or dip at the beach before eating a cold meal in a cooled off home.

I'm trying to imagine my husband's reaction if I told him he couldn't use a household appliance, or he was selfish for doing so 😂
I have dogs and I certainly haven't been throwing towels over them, frozen or otherwise, they just lay on their cooling mat in front of the fan.
They're quite happy.

Why are you running around? It'll only make you more hot and bothered, and the dogs won't melt if they have to wait a few more seconds for their cold towels.

This is a wonderfully loony thread