Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

[SharpOliveHam]

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

Obviously.You are controlling.

I have a double coated dog too. The double coat actually helps them regulate their temperature.

You sound genuinely unhinged.

You cannot control the other adult who lives in your house in this way.

In the future, you’ll be posting that your husband has walked out one day and you have no idea why as you were happily married…..

Yep you’re being very unreasonable OP.

I think some people really don’t have the personality or skill set to live with other people. One of the keys to happiness is to identify if this is you and move towards a more independent life. If you want to make things as difficult as possible instead then share your home with 2 creatures who you deem to be on the brink of death at every moment and must constantly work towards keeping alive - think real life tamagotchi, and another human who eats and exists in the same space as you.
If I were him I’d be gone before the next sunny day - and I’d keep the oven.
Why don’t you have an air conditioner? If you can afford 2 enormous dogs and a range cooker then it is unlikely to be financial.

I couldn't be doing with being around you. Honestly.

I’ll be kind and say the heat has made you tetchy. You are being ridiculous.

Consider getting aircon.

Sorry OP but you are the selfish one here. A kitchen is there for cooking food, not keeping cool.

I've got a range cooker. I was thinking about baking a cake. If I want to, I do it. He fancied a cooked meal not a ham sandwich, why can't he? It's his home too. Later I'm cooking fish and chips as I fancy that. No one would prevent me.
If this was the other way round with your husband telling you what to do, would you be OK with that?

Sorry but you sound like an absolute nut job.

Unclench for fucks sake OP. Your poor husband 🫣

Heating equipment? He used the bloody cooker to make himself some lunch.
Jesus - I'm not a dog person myself but I had no idea there are people who won't cook themselves a meal in case their dogs get too hot.

This is entirely bonkers 😀

The fan will help with air circulation, dissipating the warmest air more quickly and bringing in cooler air from elsewhere. Good to stick one in the doorway or even open a window for a short time if it's hotter than the air temp outside.

OP I sympathise with you, I work in a restaurant kitchen and it was over 45 degrees in there at lunchtime today. My partner was making a fish finger sandwich when I got home in our tiny studio apartment 😂

Sometimes when I’m trying to manage an anxiety I realise I do so by trying hard to control everthing in my power - maybe a bit too much.
It sounds from your posts that your anxieties are around your own aversion to heat, your pets’ health in the heat, and the fact that a lot of the care responsibilities are falling to you, and that could you speak with your vet to allay some of the concerns about the dogs? I think it’s not unreasonable to ask your husband to be more supportive, but in a way which allows him
agency too. maybe he could cook breakfast earlier, for example?

It’s not the oven @SharpOliveHam it’s your negative energy and anger heating the house.

Your poor husband and dogs!

Well...your.husband has every right to use the oven. He does not need your permission.
He prefers the oven to the frying pan. He does not need your approval.
Did you ask him if a cool house suited him?

A fry up in an oven?

You are being a twat...

All cooked while wearing a Dry-Robe.

@SharpOliveHam

for goodness sake, OP - get a grip!

you’ll be fine.
the dogs will be fine.

maybe have a glass of wine or something tonight and chill out.

Batshit. And not your husband.

Very controlling and unreasonable. I'm the same as you, feel really unwell in hot weather. I hate the oven being on due to the heat and also the cost. But my Son often cooks himself something. I would never complain about it. It's part of sharing your home with other people.

😂😂

Interesting that your dogs have higher priority in the house than your own husband. He was just making something to eat.

Yeah to be honest I couldn’t see past the chicken sausages 🤮

🤮 How much dog fur is sticking to your towels/freezer?

Your poor husband and dogs.

Double coats work both ways you know, they keep the dogs cool and, so long as they are properly brushed out, they will stay cooler than single coated dogs.

Get the back door open and let them choose where to be, mine much prefer lying on the flags in the shade to inside.

😁oops!