Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

[SharpOliveHam]

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

Seriously? That's mad

I have the heaviest coated giant breed dogs known to man and they don’t need babied this much.

Let the man have a fry up!

Dear Lord, how selfish do you have to be to try to ban a competent adult from using the oven in their own home?
Maybe you need to stop making a fuss about such total trivia....
And it's not as if it's even going to heat any room apart from the kitchen.
What happened to compromise, OP?

This is quite honestly absolutely ridiculous, he hasn't heated the whole house! Put a fan in the kitchen it will soon cool down. I bet he nearly choked on his freshly cooked breakfast!

To reassure you, double coats work to cool as well as keep the dog warm (my dog is double coated and I live in Spain so I can vouch for this being the case). Info here (ignore the bid about grooming) How to groom and care for double-coated dogs | PetsRadar

So the dogs matter more than he does to you? In MN parlance, he should LTB!

It’s not hot enough in the uk to freeze towels for your dogs and not use the oven. Get a grip. You’ve also been told almost unanimously that you are being unreasonable and refuse to accept it. What’s the point in this thread??

Isn’t it HIS own home too, though, @blueberryforest?

I don't think you have what it takes to live with a human.

Or maybe you're just hot and bothered.

Still arguing with everyone op?

99% think YABU.

To be fair if your dogs overheat that much they need a paddling pool to cool down then they were going to need it whether your husband had a fry up or not.

The house temp didn't increase by 4 degrees becuse of one fry up, it's heating up because that's what happens when the sun is shining all day long.

You are very unreasonable.

This is crazy. I thought you were going to say that you lived in a hot country. Of course you're being unreasonable. He got off work and made himself dinner. Leave him alone.

You do sound unreasonable & a bit controlling. Suggest an air fryer if u can’t bear to “allow” him to use the oven. Invest in a small air con unit if u find your house so unbearable.

Your current method sounds high maintenance & stressful for everyone & your DH can’t even make himself what he wants to eat without a total over reaction from you.
You can shave a double coated dog (many people do). You just chose not to. Thats your decision & perfectly fine. Frozen or wet towels totally ineffective to cool them though. (Try putting your own biggest, thickest, waterproof winter coat on then drape a frozen towel round your shoulders… you won’t find it cooler, just an extra layer to trap the heat in) Fill the paddling pool at start of heatwave & leave out until weather changes. Put dogs in there a few times a day, make sure they are soaked thru to skin for effective cooling.
Give your poor DH a break.

You're being ridiculous. it's your husband's home too. It's not as if 26 degrees is particularly hot anyway but I think the heat has clearly got to you.

Step 1 - close the kitchen door until it cools down again.

Step 2 - seek help for your behaviour.

@SharpOliveHam ye gods!!! you really need to get a life!!!! more in life to worry about than a couple of degrees of heat in a house after making some food!!

Ffs weird and controlling

THen shut off the kitchen. Shut the doors. USe the rest of the house and only pop in there when you need things.

Gross over-reaction, OP. Very controlling and unreasonable.

I know, but I'm double coated. So I can't get too overheated, otherwise this strange angry lady appears out of nowhere and pelts me with frozen towels.

😂😂

My dog is also double coated and it's 27.5 in my living room, despite the fact that the blinds and curtains are drawn against the heat - the sun blazes on the large glass windows and doors that make up the back of the room so it's always hot on a sunny day.

She, dog, has spent most of the day upstairs where it's cooler but she's now happily asleep on the sofa in the living room.

Can't imagine how pissed off she'd be if I were to suddenly start throwing freezing cold towels at her.

OP are you trying to say that if he'd done that lot in a frying pan it would have been better than using the oven? You say it's a range cooker - is it throwing out the same sort of heat as an Aga? And having it on for 40 minutes seems a lot. I can see why it might be irksome, but yeah you can't prevent him using the oven or stove top.

My ex-H was the opposite, and cooked copious amounts of bacon in half a pint of oil every morning, on a very high heat so it spits everywhere, and all our surfaces and appliances like kettle and toaster covered in thick oil, it used to drip from the cooker hood into the pans on the hob if you were boiling an egg or something later in the day. He said it wasn't his fault and refused to clean it up. I'd come down and find the work-surfaces shimmering with oil. Nauseating. Reader, I divorced him. Obvs there were other reasons but ...

So I do have some sympathy, but as others have said is this the only thing he does or are there wider issues in the marriage?

So don’t go in there then and keep the kitchen door closed to the rest of the house? My kitchen is very warm right now as the huge windows face the sun and I don’t have window shutters in there like I do the rest of the house. I just don’t go in there other than to grab something. It’s really not that difficult.

Lol. Your poor husband. You sound very controlling. I find it funny that you've ignored each comment and not accepted you're being both controlling and unreasonable.

Boeuf bourguignon. Only takes a few hours in the oven.

And maybe a nice baked cheesecake?

You are being controlling, and you're ignoring the people telling you this. You're trying to control the narrative and justify why you are right instead of listening. Stop checking the temperature. Delete the app/remove the thermometer until you're able to stop your obsessive, controlling behaviour.

I'm I the minority. We also avoid using the oven in hot days for the same reason as you so I would be annoyed if anyone bakes something in the heat, it makes the temp in the house unbearable.