Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

Seriously, get a fucking grip!

I can't imagine trying to control how an adult cooks their food or what they eat.

Yeah, no. Just no.

It's pretty obvious that it's absolutely about the temperature and that her 'feelings' rule the entire household obsessively and rigidly. None of this is normal - she's panicking and throwing wet towels over her dogs because she thinks they're going to die at 26C indoors. Come on! That's not reasonable in the slightest.

So an adult has to time to the day when he can have food he wishes to eat? I can't imagine being in a relationship where I would have to check the weather forecast to decide if it was safe for me to have a fry up. That's absolutely pathetic.

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If you prioritise dogs getting warm over Husband's eating preferences you are totally unhinged as well as unreasonable.

I know, but I'm double coated. So I can't get too overheated, otherwise this strange angry lady appears out of nowhere and pelts me with frozen towels.

I get extremely foul tempered when Im hot. I hste everyday of August. But luckily I live on my own. Id be pissed off at this sefishness too.
He needs a gas barbeque in the garden.

Proper lolled when I read that

@Bluebirdover Maybe a nice hot beef stew and dumplings, followed by steamed pudding and custard.

26 degrees? So what? That’s hardly sweltering. My house is currently about that temperature and no one has died of heatstroke yet. Including the dog.

You’re being unreasonable, controlling, and ridiculous.

Hahahahaha 😂

My first thought when I read the OP was poor dogs. Just trying to chill out in the house and being whacked with rock hard frozen towels.

So this guy, rather than being able to ever cook in his own kitchen, needs to fire up the BBQ whenever he wants to make a sausage roll?

Absolutely batshit crazy 😆

I think your extremely controlling and frankly it’s not that bloody hot- relax!

Batshit.

it shows where your husband comes in household priorities. He can’t eat what he wants incase the dog gets a bit warm!

Having a salad so that your dogs don’t get too hot in England 😂😂😂 They’re not locked in the car, you sound unhinged.

Naughty husband. Should have had strawberries and cream instead.

So maybe learn a bit about them. Dog fur insulates both from the cold and the hot temperature. Double coated dogs are perfectly fine in hot weather. As above, my Alaskan Malamute is currently sleeping in a conservatory which is too hot for me to work in.

If my DH tried to stop me cooking in my own home when I’m hungry then yes I’d think he was very controlling.
Why are your needs more important than his?

Also, wouldn’t it then be an “Oven Up” ?

Opening windows when outside is warmer than inside make the house warmer.

It’s selfish of you to keep such dogs in this climate. Far more selfish than cooking a few sausages.

I would let the 'controlling' complaint roll off my back. So what? I might be a bit controlling about what goes on in my own home, but requesting someone not to use the oven at the hottest time of a hot day isn't the crime of the century.

For the future, I'd discuss ways to compromise. Needing to eat does not mean needing to heat an oven every time. There are smaller appliances that heat things without frying or using a full-size oven. There are also many things that can be made in advance or don't require baking or frying.

A rare thread on Mumsnet where the woman is in the wrong and you can only feel sorry for the poor fella who married her

Sorry - but YABU. You can't tell your DH when he can and can't cook just because you don't like it to feel hot in the kitchen.