Have you ever dropped a friend?

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And did it make your life better or have no impact.

Just dropped one of my best friends. Long story but I’ve put up with years of shit. I’m feeling down about it but I’m hoping it’s for the best in the long run.

Edited: did they ever try to make good? Did you ever give them the reason why?

Sorry this was suppose to be in chat

Yes, like a hot potato and I couldn’t care less.

Acquaintances yes. As I got to know people I realised I just didn't like hanging out with them. Life is too short and ai have zero free time for stuff I don't want to do.

Yes in the process of this right now!! Absolutely 100%

Yes I dropped my childhood best friend after I realised it was only me making all the effort. Honestly don't think she's even noticed to be honest, despite it being over 12 years since we last spoke. It felt freeing for me, although I do think about her every now and again.

Yes. Looking back at age 56 I’ve dropped people every decade or two.

In just outgrew them and they were envious and wanted to hold me back.

clear em out and move on.

Yes I ghosted a friend of 25 years, several reasons and I have no regrets, it was very freeing actually

Yep, childhood friend of many years. She was attention seeking and demanding. Feel 100% better without her, don’t wish her any harm but also wouldn’t speak to her if I saw her.

Yes childhood BF when I realised just how bloody awful she was most of the time. It was hard at the time, I did give her a second chance years later but it turns out she's still not a nice person.

Happy to report that I have lots of absolutely lovely friends now

Yes! Some people just drain you emotionally and always have some kind of drama going on. But they are never present for you. I don’t have room in my life for friends like this anymore and I feel so much lighter without them.

Yes and I didn’t look back. Ever.

No, it’s cowardly and childish to ghost people, which is my understanding of dropping people.

Yes someone I had been friends with for years but it became clear she didn't really like me and was always negatively judging me. So freeing to admit something just isn't working.

yes, I regret it. I think both of us were at fault. I miss her.

Yes, she knew why but carried on. So I informed her face to face. She had to find another job.

Zero fucks given.

As I've got older I've become more choosy about who I choose to spend my time with.
I have realised knowing someone since primary school doesn't mean you need to spend time with them or know them forever.
I haven't dropped them, just prioritise other people and rarely stay in touch.
My parents still send Xmas cards with letters to people they "know" but don't like and haven't seen in 40 years which I have never understood.

I am finding it really hard and miss my friend. I realised after years that she never replied when I asked her over but would only get in touch in the end whem she wanted a favour . I let it go for so long as she has a lot on her plate and I genuinely love her but in the end I think I need to protect myself from bro g treated a such a non friend

Yes, she was supposed to be my best friend, I'd always been there for her, and then when I had multiple miscarriages she was so insensitive I couldn't bear to look at her again. The scales feel from my eyes and I realised how selfish she was, I just hadn't really seen it before.

I just stopped speaking to her after she said something really out of order in a text to me, and that was it. She never tried to get in touch so I guess I'd never really meant anything to her except as a prop in her life.

I just wish I hadn't had her as my bridesmaid. I nearly didn't after some behaviour from her but I was persuaded to overlook it. I regret that now.

Honestly it’s been TEN years of talking about her same shit relationship. Where he’s cheated on her and she’s let him come back. He cheated on a lads holiday and she said because it’s abroad it doesn’t count.

And sometimes I wondered am I literally just in your life so you can use me as a sounding board?

Yes same as you long story which I’m not going to bore anyone about but at the time it was very painful even though I knew it was for the best.
emotionally I didn’t want to but logically I knew I had to.

I loved her and didn’t want to it to be this way and even now I don’t wish badly for her but I can’t have her in my life! The feelings of missing her I have realised are not about the reality it about how I wanted our friendship to be and not what it was!

I have to say whilst I would have wanted it to be different my life is better without the friendship!
things are much calmer and there’s less angst im not wasted energy worrying over things with her etc.

in the years since other mutual friends have lowered contact or fallen out with her so I don’t hear much about her anymore and from the little I do nothing has changed, so it shows me it was the right choice.

I dropped a friend many years ago, when I was much younger. She became jealous of literally everything - where I lived, the fact my family were better off than hers, the fact I'm an only child and didn't need to 'share' anything with a sibling, and the fact my boyfriend fancied me and not her, was the final straw. She bad mouthed me, told lies and in the end I stopped all contact. The friendship became toxic, and I didn't like the person she became. I saw her 8 years later, at a concert venue, for a second I thought about going to say hello, but stopped myself. She never saw me, and since then I haven't seen her since. I don't regret it at all.

Yes finally realised I was being done out of money by this friend so stopped making plans. I then messaged her asking for the money she owed me time and time again, took months but her parents paid me back.

Didn't speak for years after, got the occasional text, when I had my son she sent a gift and a card which I gave pleasantries to. Did meet up with her a couple of times after she had her child but was just never the same. Could never trust her as she fiddled a number of her friends out of money also. She seems to have changed since having a child but I just can't go back to being friends with someone like that.

I dropped a 'friend' who I realised was becoming more controlling towards me and actually got angry when didn't get the response they wanted. So ghosted them (though it wasn't a term then) as I did not see the value in getting shouted at and manipulated into seeing it was all my fault. When I realised I was never going to see them again, all I felt was relief, and still do. I protected myself.

Yes. She developed an obsession with my kids and started to try to override my parenting decisions.

Yes. She was considering going back to the man who had abused her son, and she had owed me money for a year with no attempt to pay. These were just two in a long line of actions that made me realize her character sucked.

If you've given her chance after chance and she's still being a shit friend, she isn't going to change.