Yes. When I was younger I had poor boundaries for bad treatment - just didn't recognise it because it was my family dynamic. And I made a friend in the same creative industry as me. She had every advantage and family connection and money, but had coasted on that with little talent. I had bootstrapped myself up from 'umble beginnings and was lucky to get a bit 'discovered'.
But she really resented every little success I had. When she got work out, I would give her immediate support and positive feedback every time. When I got work out, she'd go silent for a week or two, then come back and say she'd seen it, and wouldn't comment, but 'as long as you're happy with it, that's the main thing'... And I didn't have enough confidence to realise that the problem was with her, not my work.
Then I had a bigger success. I couldn't wait to tell my friends and contacts, because I was pretty shy but this seemed a good excuse to reach out. And the moment I told her, she went straight out and told them all before I could. They were sending their congratulations to her to pass onto me, like she was my manager. If you can imagine your SIL telling everyone you're pregnant before you can break the news, such were my feelings.
And I had enough. I knew she'd DARVO me if I confronted her, and I was still a bit feeble in those days, so I ghosted her. And indeed, I got a few mails from her about how I couldn't ghost her, she was vulnerable, she was a special case who needed careful handling and I was really upsetting her, and if I would just tell her what I thought was wrong she could put me right...
I still see her online presence from time to time. She has done nothing over the last decade, living off her private income, but all she does is complain bitterly about everyone else's success, often in a really nasty way, and I realise that was how she'd always felt about me.
I'm a bit older, wiser and more feisty now... 🙂