AIBU by people's reactions.

[ZebraGiraffe12]

My family and I have just got back from an amazing 2 weeks in Spain. Whilst there we as a family (including the kids) decided to stop doing Christmas presents minus a small present from me and my husband. We've said we don't want any presents from family and instead we want money to be added to our family holiday fund so we can enjoy a big summer holiday every year. I know some people don't like to give money but for us it makes the most sense.

I've spoken to most people and they've said its a great idea. However, my MIL has refused. She said she is not seeing her grandchildren go without presents and we are selfish to expect them to. AIBU to be angry with her for not listening.

“ But don’t you remember darling , we said we’re going on holiday instead “
said no one to a 4 year old with no presents at Christmas!

I mean - being ‘angry’ about it is ludicrous. You say you understand some people don’t like to give money, and then you’re angry? Make it make sense?

So you want your kids to go without presents to pay for your summer holiday. You need to cut your cloth.

Nope. You need to save if you want to indulge on holiday.
No way would I hand over money if the children are too young to have a say on how it is spent.

The other thing is that I could give a great gift for a one year old for only say £12 but if I was gifting actual cash I’d have to give £20 or more. So I would struggle to stay on budget giving to your kids.

You can't tell people to fund your summer holiday instead buying Christmas presents for children! If you paid for a holiday this year without banking cash from family at Christmas, you'll probably be able to next year too.

Fucking hell £142k in income and you’re pleading poverty, convincing your 1 & 4 year old to give up a few nick naks from loving family members because you don’t want to put your own hand in your pocket and pay for a holiday!

And you’re angry that people don’t want to chip in towards your fortnight away.

MIL wants to buy DGC presents ...... go no contact

No other option!

You're angry because the kids gran would rather buy your 1 and 4 year old a Christmas gift instead of paying towards your family holiday??

Fucking hell. Never heard of anything so entitled.

You're being incredibly unreasonable.

Lol at a 1 and 4 year old deciding to forgo Xmas gifts in exchange for a holiday 🤣🤣

Let me guess, you don't like your MIL.

It gets better, you don’t pay childcare costs because family members, including MIL, do it for free!

A quick AS shows your kids are 1 and 4. And you and your husband earn a huge amount.

Blimey! How much input did your 1 and 4 year old have into this Christmas present decision?!

You sound incredibly entitled and rude

I can't understand why it's only your MIL that's objected to your grabby decision?

You must be surrrounded by equally grabby, self centred people!

Can I please ask for a collective MN cheer for the MIL'

Doesn't happen often on MN.

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Kid's ages missing again 🙄

Can you imagine, the children certainly have no concept of gifts, money , etc at this age so they’ve not made any decision, op and her husband did.
Anyway OP, YABmassivelyU, you can’t demand what people do with their money. If you want to go on holidays, pay for it yourself or go on what you can afford. You can’t expect your children to be paying indirectly for it and really, you can’t expect people to fund it

Your poor children @ZebraGiraffe12

Oh, I missed this! 🤣🤣🤣

I agree, you can suggest but it is very rude to dictate

Four year olds know that Santa brings the pressies at Christmas!

Wow. This is next level entitlement.

Guessing the OP won't have the balls to elaborate though?!

This will seem like a great idea on holiday in the blazing sunshine.

Less of a good idea on a cold wet day in December.

This is CF territory OP

Same here. CF.

What next?

"We as a family (including the children) have decided we'd like a new sofa instead of Christmas presents"?

"Oh and little Timmy is desperate for an air fryer, so forget about his birthday gift".

If you want to go on holiday, you can pay for it. That's probably along their line of thinking, too.