I would swap with her in an instant

[Cookiecrumblane]

I am a sort of clever woman, financially secure, good at what I do. I have lots of friends and family around me, despite being single.
Today I met a woman through a friend, ten years younger than me. She was upset at losing her job last month, she had tried but made a serious of errors and was eventually sacked.
Even as she cried, she looked beautiful. She told me about her various problems, not being able to pay rent, her debt, her self esteem.
And I thought how much I would love to be that pretty. She was distraught, but even with all that was going on, she was served first and efficiently in the bar. Men held doors and beamed at her. They crossed the street to walk closer to her.
I have never had that. And so what good is education, my job, my success. Because ultimately she'll end up ok. She is more likely to get a job and when she does people will praise what she does much more than they praise people who look like me.
Is that mad? That I would swap with her in an instant, even to be jobless and at risk of losing my flat, just to feel visible?
I'm sure men don't feel this way.

I'm only going to say this once more.

Your experience is not the only experience that can be true.

I can believe that there were multiple women on your degree course, despite that not being my experience at university. I can believe you have no friends, despite knowing men of your age and older who have many.

However, you have called several posters liars because they recounted their lived experiences, purely because they don't match your own.

Try imagining not being you, and what might have looked different for you. I presume you at least know other adult humans, even if you have no friends? Do you genuinely believe that their life experience is identical to yours?

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos However, you have called several posters liars

No I didn't. I suggested they were mistaken.

You've referred to my "lies" in this post.

Try again.

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos That's very clearly and obviously a typo.

Your post said "You clearly know more about our own lives experiences than we do."

To which I responded, "The claims aren't just about your own lives and experiences though." - using the same words you had used.

But unfortunately, the "v" was dropped off.

Of course you'd say that now, but obviously you're too smart to make typos so we all know you're mistaken.

@realityhack It’s so hard, isn’t it?Sometimes when I’m watching TV I get really confused and start to think it’s real.

If only there was a man to ask. I know - Ask Mr Shuggles. He’ll learn ya.

@Cookiecrumblane I hope some of Mr Shuggles posts have reminded you of why male attention isn't the be all and end all in life.

@Cookiecrumblane is now skipping through the streets and shouting for joy.

Wow, then l personally must be another person who’s naive, because l thought this forum, was for, to offer a listening ear, support, or at the very least not to just dismiss what they’re trying to get across.Or expect someone to give examples, memories for validation.Telling people they’re living on another planet, just because you don’t believe what they’ve said, how in any way is this helping.Just because you’ve not experienced this, doesn’t mean, it hasn’t happened.

😂