Made a fool of my self tonight and now I feel so low

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Oh I need to just write this down to calm down. I love on a fairly long street and it's a quiet area all people are lovely.

We have this one guy who lives on the road who is a pain I've had run ins with past. He drives up and down it at 60 miles per hour on a 20 mph road. (School on the road)

My kids I darent let them out on the front to play just incase he's bombing it down the street. He's always got police at his door or arguing.

Last night 3 am and then at 4.30am he's fighting in the front with his dad. I had no sleep because of this.

Then around 8pm tonight he's arguing driving recklessly way above the limit. My little girl got upset because the cars are so loud.

Any way he pulled back up got out of his car and I went over lost my shit. Said it was unbearablle.

He threatened to batter me and I had half the street watching.
My husband is mr nice guy and didn't get involved much. My next door neighbour was sticking up and saying she has young. Children and it's unbearable.

It was resolved in the end he said sorry but I feel so ashamed that I was so hot headed and got angry and all the street were watching,

Some of the ladies on the street said good on me for doing it.

But I just feel like a complete nutter now.

Why did I react like that 😔😔

He might respond by getting all his mates together.
Then it will be the mild mannered people who live in the street versus him and his gang of raucous reckless young men.
Who do you think will come out on top?

Well if not then everyone get onto The Police every day.

He's a threat to your and your childrens safety

Question, is his house owned or rented? If its Council/Housing Assn then get onto them

Good for you
but from your husband point of view it’s alright you Charging mouthing off but it’s your husband who will end up in hospital after a kicking not you

Well done 👏 he sounds awful

Yes I spoke to few this morning. Going forward we are all noting info of any issues. I found out he rents the property so will do it the legal way from now on. Thank you for all your comments.

Totally fine

if the situation is as you described then it’s ok to reach breaking point

you are in a lose lose situation

say nothing & it bothers you

say something & it’s a divide with a neighbour

You def have some leverage there then, with the landlord, so that's good and the best way forwards. I think even if council is the landlord now, they have more welly over ASBO tenants than they used to.

Fabulous OP. Well done.

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Good on you for speaking up, nothing to be embarrassed about at all.

You aren't a fool sometimes people need to be told. I let one loose at a neighbour not long ago and they have left me alone now

Yes I am!! Thank god. I know, it's ridiculous and sad isn't it!

I don’t see the problem. You haven’t done anything wrong.

Good on you for saying it’s not acceptable behaviour!
I’ve done similar in the heat of the moment when a local drug dealer (from the new housing estate that was built behind my house), decided to do a drug deal involving multiple bags of white powder and rolls of cash being handed over through the window of a car outside my house. Cue me (in my slippers no less!) marching outside to have a rant at them both! They did drive off rather fast after denying everything until I pointed out my cctv….when I watched the cctv I almost died of embarrassment at the crazy women in her slippers shaking her fist and ranting….btw police weren’t even vaguely interested! 🙄 Haven’t seen them again though……😂

If I feel like my child would be in danger by somebody else’s carelessness and selfishness I would do the exact same.

The guy saying he’d “batter you” should be the one who’s embarrassed!

Well the guy was threatening to batter her so not sure DH staying tucked away in the house was a great move on his part.

Since this guy is such a douchbag I would imagine everyone on your street wants to shake your hand rn OP.

I am so anxious I think in your position id go round to his when he's sober and try and make friends with him
No. Never make friends with antisocial nutters.

He's lucky I'm not his neighbour coz I'd have been taking a baseball bat to his car years ago you are definitely not being unreasonable and I'm surprised you put up with it for as long as you did and didn't snap sooner

You feel low because you’re having a physical response to the huge spike of adrenalin/cortisol from confronting this bastard. Your body gave you what you needed to do it and now you’re having a come down! You’re drained, that’s all. Hope you felt better in the morning

but you need to call them every time - you suspected drink driving today, that is a police matter.
Write to your council, to your MP and to the newspapers. Make everyone's lives uncomfortable until he stops/is gone.

Just adding my three cheers. Sounds like you were brilliant - unfortunately for some people the hairdryer treatment is the only thing that might get through to them.

Sorry if someone's already suggested this upthread, but could you campaign to get speedbumps, given there is a school on your road? Or a speed camera?

Err, sounds as if you did amazingly!

Well done you! Not many would have the guts to do that. You should report his drink driving if you haven't already, and every time he's doing it. I'd be doing everything in my power to have his car, or preferably licence away from him.