Made a fool of my self tonight and now I feel so low

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Oh I need to just write this down to calm down. I love on a fairly long street and it's a quiet area all people are lovely.

We have this one guy who lives on the road who is a pain I've had run ins with past. He drives up and down it at 60 miles per hour on a 20 mph road. (School on the road)

My kids I darent let them out on the front to play just incase he's bombing it down the street. He's always got police at his door or arguing.

Last night 3 am and then at 4.30am he's fighting in the front with his dad. I had no sleep because of this.

Then around 8pm tonight he's arguing driving recklessly way above the limit. My little girl got upset because the cars are so loud.

Any way he pulled back up got out of his car and I went over lost my shit. Said it was unbearablle.

He threatened to batter me and I had half the street watching.
My husband is mr nice guy and didn't get involved much. My next door neighbour was sticking up and saying she has young. Children and it's unbearable.

It was resolved in the end he said sorry but I feel so ashamed that I was so hot headed and got angry and all the street were watching,

Some of the ladies on the street said good on me for doing it.

But I just feel like a complete nutter now.

Why did I react like that 😔😔

Absolutely !
I’d stick up for my DP. At the very least I’d call the police rather than act Mr Nice Guy to a thug threatening them.

We're just pretending that men aren't typically larger and stronger than women, then?

We all behave differently in these situations. All that adrenaline means we go into flight/ fight or freeze mode. We can’t help how we react.
I think you did a great job OP.

Well done op. Sounds a proper tosser

Unless you ring the Police again and again you haven't tried it

There is also

https://www.avonandsomerset.police.uk/report/asb-case-review/

So after three complaints you dont like the response you can get it looked at

Good on you. It may save a child being hurt or worse and will give him something to think about. You were totally justified in pulling him up

While we’re at it let’s also pretend that men aren’t more likely to go for a woman and more likely to back off when it’s a man telling them off, shall we? So much pretending, how fun!

This is very true and very relevant.
Thank you for saying this @LearnerEarner

I would have thought good on her
Stop being so hard on yourself
I'm not being dramatic but the fact that you gave him a dressing down may have just saved someone's life if it makes him think twice before he next goes to bomb down the road.**

He said he would batter you huh? That is a threat, you have witnesses. He knew he had better apologise, he is the one that made a fool of himself.

The world needs both fight and flight people when there’s a conflict situation. I bet you’re also the kind of person who would stand up for someone being bullied or come to someone’s aid if they had an accident. Absolutely don’t apologise for being you and loosing your shit.

You were amazing and I bet everyone wanted to have a go at him, I'd be annoyed that dh didn't back you up though! If uts been going on 7+ years I'm assuming you've reported to council and police and everything?

That took some b**ls well done it needed to be said OP. Try not to let it get to you now.

I wish I could buy you a big box of chocolates and pat you on the back. You did great girl!

You definitely didn't make a fool of yourself and I think I probably would have lost it more if some little scrote told me he was gonna batter me lol I'm not saying I'm a hard nut but nothing pisses me off more than a man who thinks he can say that to a woman and she will scurry off like a scared mouse. It probably would be advisable to walk away though because statistically any man would be able to seriously hurt a woman so I am absolutely not advising any woman to square up to an angry bloke lol. My ex husband ran into the house once while I was left outside face to face with a bloke that wanted to kick his head in and tbh looking back I should have let him do it lol god it sounds like I'm always on the street fighting haha I'm really not but fuck any bloke who thinks he can intimidate me just because I'm a woman

This. He's insane.

If you have video evidence of him driving at 60 mph in a 20 mph zone, the police have to take action against that. That's because if he runs over a pedestrian and it transpires that the police never took action against him, they will be in trouble.

Get a CCTV camera and have all of this on record.

He deserved to be told! Well done, you were definitely angry but with very justifiable reason.
Hopefully he'll be more respectful.
You did him a favour not trying to get him evicted or arrested! You've done a good deed to the community.

My husband is the biggest pacifist I've ever met. I genuinely don't think he's ever had a fight in his life, not even at school and he's 57 years old.

But there is absolutely NO WAY he would stand by and listen to a man (or a woman) threatening to batter me...no way in the world, even if he was the one who ended up getting battered.

We've been together almost 25 years and during that time, we've both had occasions where we've needed to stick up for each other, even when it was really scary.

Because that's what you do in a marriage. As a partnership/team, you look after each other and have one another's backs. You make each other feel safe.

I genuinely couldn't look at my husband the same way if I was in the OP's position.

Contact the police if he's been drink driving!

Otherwise, go you! Well done!

You absolutely did NOT make a fool of yourself! This has been a long time coming! Surely the police would have to come out if he was drink driving?

@FuzzyWuzzyWuzABear My husband is the biggest pacifist I've ever met. I genuinely don't think he's ever had a fight in his life, not even at school and he's 57 years old.

That's normal. The overwhelming majority of normal people do everything to avoid fights. Men who get into fights are thugs.

You’ll be the talk of the street for all the right reasons. Hopefully he won’t be such an inconsiderate rude idiot now.

He is an arsehole and you are married to a wimp.

Well done. Let's hope the neighbourhood women can unite to get the neighbour dealt with.

Either all your neighbours will already know that you're a bit feisty or else they will be stunned that you have acted so out of character. If you are normally quiet your rage will have been even more effective. I'm sure your neighbours were cheering you on.