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Made a fool of my self tonight and now I feel so low

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passwordrequired · 27/07/2024 22:29

Oh I need to just write this down to calm down. I love on a fairly long street and it's a quiet area all people are lovely.

We have this one guy who lives on the road who is a pain I've had run ins with past. He drives up and down it at 60 miles per hour on a 20 mph road. (School on the road)

My kids I darent let them out on the front to play just incase he's bombing it down the street. He's always got police at his door or arguing.

Last night 3 am and then at 4.30am he's fighting in the front with his dad. I had no sleep because of this.

Then around 8pm tonight he's arguing driving recklessly way above the limit. My little girl got upset because the cars are so loud.

Any way he pulled back up got out of his car and I went over lost my shit. Said it was unbearablle.

He threatened to batter me and I had half the street watching.
My husband is mr nice guy and didn't get involved much. My next door neighbour was sticking up and saying she has young. Children and it's unbearable.

It was resolved in the end he said sorry but I feel so ashamed that I was so hot headed and got angry and all the street were watching,

Some of the ladies on the street said good on me for doing it.

But I just feel like a complete nutter now.

Why did I react like that 😔😔

OP posts:
JohnofWessex · 27/07/2024 22:50

If he's doing 60mph in a residential area then he's a danger to you and your children.

\he deserves the same treatment as a kiddy fiddler

Get onto the Police every time he does it and get a pitchfork

Noseybookworm · 27/07/2024 22:50

You don't sound like you've made a fool of yourself at all. I bet all the neighbours thought you were great 😃 your DH sounds like a bit of a wimp though 😂 hopefully now you've given the neighbour an earful he'll think twice before behaving like a twat. If not, see if you can film him driving and take to police.

HungryLittleCrocodile · 27/07/2024 22:50

Well done on fighting your battle, and you have nothing to be embarrassed about. But I can't get past your husband just sitting back and watching another man abuse his wife. My husband would have knocked the fucker out...

I couldn't stay married to someone like your husband @passwordrequired Letting a man threaten to batter his wife, whilst he just stood there and did nothing. HE should be embarrassed!

Bloody hell. Confused

kiwiane · 27/07/2024 22:52

You should be really proud of yourself!

Crumpleton · 27/07/2024 22:52

TBH every street that has a twat that drives like they're on borrowed time and continually causes trouble with no thought of the dangers or consequences needs a neighbour like you.

Don't feel bad...you've possibly done what a lot of others have wanted to do.

Moveoverdarlin · 27/07/2024 22:55

Next time you suspect he’s drink driving, phone the police with his reg and whereabouts. You need to get this nutcase off the road.

PonyPatter44 · 27/07/2024 22:55

You are a star! You stood up to an antisocial yob, your neighbours backed you up and you got an apology. You are one impressive woman.

I'm not impressed with your DH, though. At what point WOULD he have stepped up to support you?

Screamingabdabz · 27/07/2024 22:58

If this has been going on for over 7 years, I would say that you’ve been exceptionally restrained over that time and if you’ve only blown up today - AND - he’s apologised, then I think you should be very proud of yourself.

More anti-social cunts need putting in their place and publicly shamed. Too many pricks get away with low level shit that makes peoples lives a misery. You were essentially doing community service. Don’t give it (or him) a second thought.

socialdilemmawhattodo · 27/07/2024 23:00

Soonenough · 27/07/2024 22:41

Good for you. Your DH probably stayed out of it because as another man it may have escalated.

Just coming on to say this. You clearly handled it beautifully if the neighbour ended up apologising. I would say you and you DH are probably a good team. Hope things stay calm, x

FairyLightBan · 27/07/2024 23:03

passwordrequired · 27/07/2024 22:47

Thank you all I do feel better for reading the comments. I did say to my children don't react like that 🙈.

I hate it that he just does what he wants when he got close to me he had been drinking so he's drink driving, just an over all scum bag. He gets away with it all time I just lost it

Report the cnut before he kills a child

NachoChip · 27/07/2024 23:04

You were probably speaking for everyone on the street. I doubt this kind of person would have listened to reason and if he ended.up apologising , maybe that was the tack you needed. I suspect everyone who.witnessed it would have been either sympathetic or grateful, they all know what he's been up to and he will be driving them mad too. Sometimes you've got to lose your shit to stay sane. You stood up for yourself good for you

Normalwahatisnormal · 27/07/2024 23:04

Well done! You sound very brave and astoundingly patient! 😊

Echobelly · 27/07/2024 23:04

Hats off to you, you confronted him about his dangerous behaviour and got an apology. And hopefully that's made an impression on him. This wasn't like going off about some trivial thing, he needed to be told and he deserved you being angry.

SussexLass87 · 27/07/2024 23:04

Why are you beating yourself up? Sounds like he deserved it! Glad the neighbours are supporting you 🙌

2chocolateoranges · 27/07/2024 23:04

Good on you, he’s sounds a complete twat!

sometimes when we get to the end of our tether this is the reaction we have. Seems he needs brought down a peg or two and looks like you were the woman to do it!

however if at any point you think he is drink driving then phone the police.

Americano75 · 27/07/2024 23:05

I'd have backed you right up if I'd been there. Mind you, I hollered at an old bastard in the road recently when he hit his dog. Total red mist.

Itsmecathy87 · 27/07/2024 23:07

Sounds like you were in a protective mummy bear mode!
Good for you!
I've been there, used some harsh words at irresponsible dog walker when dog approached my son. I did feel embarrassed afterwards but no regrets.

Mnk711 · 27/07/2024 23:08

Drink driving? Threatened to batter you? Call the police!

You did an absolutely understandable thing. I'd say shame on your husband for not backing you up but the presence of another man seems to escalate conflict sometimes with these kind of nutters.

PaminaMozart · 27/07/2024 23:09

Watchwatchmymysteedsteedgogofarfar · 27/07/2024 22:50

I am so anxious I think in your position id go round to his when he's sober and try and make friends with him/laugh it off so that in future it may be possible to tell him of again and he'll accept it (may be wishful thinking but that's how I've gotten around irritating people in the past. Kill with kindness)

Are you mad? I hope you are getting/planning to get treatment for your anxiety...

sprigatito · 27/07/2024 23:09

passwordrequired · 27/07/2024 22:36

No my husband it the let's be every one's friend I ended up losing my shit with him as well . He's a different problem lol.

Reading your replies I feel better. Very anxious person mixed with hot headed and firey and I lost it lol. Took me every thing not to strangle him lol

When I had my daughter 7 years ago he was doing this and I had no sleep for months and lost my head then so this is how long it's been going on for years.

I would have done the same as you - stood up to him, looked and sounded fierce and assertive - then gone indoors and curled up in a ball with embarrassment and horror 😂

It will pass. Do things that soothe you and restore your sense of normality. You've done nothing wrong Flowers

Buttercupsandpoppys · 27/07/2024 23:11

An aggressive drunk man threatened to batter you and your DP did... Nothing?!

That's unforgivable for me and I wouldn't be able to look at him the same again. It would probably signify the end to be honest.

The last thing I'd be worried about would be looking like an idiot to neighbours and more about the coward I had sleeping in my bed.

He threatened to batter you! Your DP did nothing! It's not being a 'nice guy' it's actually being a selfish coward to the point he'd rather his wife potentially get assaulted than him put himself at potential risk of harm. Hiding behind the guise of being nice.

You can do better!!

PizzaPastaWine · 27/07/2024 23:11

Report the drink driving to CrimeStoppers. They will provide the information to police.

If he's actively drink driving at that moment in time call 999 with his registration number.

Adviceneeeeded · 27/07/2024 23:12

Wish more would stick up for what's right. Well done @passwordrequired

itsmylife7 · 27/07/2024 23:13

You had the "red rage" Well done and feel proud you've stood up to this arsehole.

Take note of his car make and reg number for future use with his drink driving.

Wingedharpy · 27/07/2024 23:16

Well done @passwordrequired .
I think you're awesome and I'd bet good money that most of your neighbours think you are too.