To want my adult niece and nephew to call my Aunty Emma?

[egaley]

AIBU? Am I old fashioned?

I have an adult nephew and niece (28 and 26). They have always called me Aunty Emma.

We were having a big family meal and my cheeky nephew called me just “Emma” when he wanted to say something. I corrected him and asked him why he called me Emma, my name is Aunty Emma!

Good point!!this!

I dropped the prefixes at an older teen, doesn't everyone? My kids still buy a card that says uncle but just use their name to their face

Dropped the auntie/uncle around 20 in my family. It’s adult to adult and sounds silly now those auntie.

That’s interesting. My MIL never got comfortable with my usage of her first name.

But she didn’t want to be called ‘mum’ , nor did I want to call her that.

We struggled on with first names.

It's nice, and very friendly, that he called you by your name without the 'Aunt' prefix. It is also quite normal. Please don't be offended by it, you are still an aunt but there is more to you than that.

I'm in my 40's and still call oolder relatives aunty and uncle, it's respectful. I would also have called them out on it. So for me YANBU

That said, it's probably a conversation to be had with them, maybe.

I have 1 uncle who told me in my 20's that he didn't want me to call him uncle as it made him feel old. I still call him uncle cos his wife thinks it's hilarious 🤣

Yanbu. I waited 30 years to be an auntie and I want to be called Auntie Ellie! My eldest dn is only 12 at the moment but I can't see it changing when they grow up.

My teenage niece just calls me Auntie. I've only heard her say my name about 5 times and I think that's wildly off the mark. Once when my sister was calling me as I'd wandered off in a shop and a little voice was echoing hers. I'm her only Auntie and although it's a name very well worn I think she'll always call me that.

I always called my Aunties and Uncles with their title and name. Some cousins who are quite a bit older than me but not much younger than my parents call them by the first name but the majority still use Auntie and Uncle name.

I'm guessing this is very culture-specific, but I don't think most British and Irish people expect adults to use the aunt and uncle titles. Perhaps different in families with other heritage.

We never used aunt and uncle on the easy side one side of the family growing up, but it was insisted on with the difficult side the other side. Even then it was dropped when we were adults but I suspect that wasn't popular.

That difficult side has many many other opinions and isn't particularly popular.

I'd be wary that if you're correcting grown men and women about this that you're behaving similarly about other stuff too.

I dont have any aunties/uncles left but up until they died I called all of them auntie/uncle.

My cousin who's 68 still calls my my mum auntie (my mum is the last of that generation)

I still call one of my aunties 'Aunty Jean' sometimes but the other one is just 'Mary'. I was closer to the aunty one growing up. I like the title because it denotes a special relationship, distinct from other adults but she asked me to drop it and I try to remember.

OP I understand why you like it but you can't enforce it on adults!

I hate the whole Auntie thing. I refuse to be called it. First name is fine.

I always called my aunty by her first name. In fact, I couldn't pronounce her name as a child so had a shortened version which I and many other family members are still calling her 40 years later. I once referred to her as my aunty when introducing her to someone and she burst out laughing.
I only have one relative I call aunty and that is because her and my granny have the same name so I guess, as a child, I had to differentiate. Although, looking back I am not sure why as I have never called my granny by her name.
If someone in my family insisted on being called a certain title, I'd think them odd. My ex's elderly family member insisted I called her "cousin Mary" and I couldn't do it with a straight face.

You're being too familiar allowing the use of the term 'Aunty'.

You should be instructing these people to use your correct and full title.
e.g. Duchess (I'm assuming you are, based on your post) Worthington (use your own surname here).

What does she want you to call her? 🤨

I'm from a large Caribbean family and I genuinely don't know what would happen if I referred to my aunties by their first names 😅

I continued calling my aunt and uncles with the title and then their name. But - they were around 35-40 years older than me. So it’s a very different relationship.

My nieces were born when I was an older teen, I only got “aunt” when they were joking or trying to be cheeky for a laugh.

Yes. Sorry.

I would always use Auntie and Uncle, even now Donkey's years after they died.

I had no idea you stopped using it at a certain age?

That's bizarre (mid 50's, up North)

My young nephews just call me my first name .
Cant really get worked up about it although i would prefer aunty

personally think that my sil hates me snd would prefer to ignore the fact we are related

Depends - I am part Asian and if I ever called my aunt my or uncle by their first name I would expect a slap 😂 - my children call my siblings aunty and uncle too - I do think it’s more of a European thing to be on a first name basis tho?

I don’t get it either. We only refer to our siblings as Auntie/Uncle X as a name of familiarity and affection.

Me, DH and my sister very much respect my DM but we all call her by nicknames. Sister and I mostly call her mum but sometimes a shortened version of her real name and DH calls her a completely different name that’s comes from a family joke.

As long as the name is intentionally disrespectful, surely it’s fine.

If my niece has children and I'm still alive I wonder what they will call me? Grumpy Great Aunt name maybe 😀

I use Auntie/Uncle when referring to them to my child (i.e. this is my Uncle Bobby) and in their birthday/Christmas cards. But in general they are John, Jennifer etc.

Because I am now an Auntie myself. Some of my Aunts and Uncles have grandchildren (two have great grandchildren).

Its not really an Aunt/Niece relationship anymore. It's adult relatives. Demanding the Auntie title from an adult means you still see them as children, not the adults they've become.

I call my uncles/aunts by their first names now, but my children have only ever called my sisters “auntie” instead of “Auntie Lizzie” etc…

I don’t know why but I find just Auntie so cute and I hope they do it for as long as possible 😂