To want my adult niece and nephew to call my Aunty Emma?

[egaley]

AIBU? Am I old fashioned?

I have an adult nephew and niece (28 and 26). They have always called me Aunty Emma.

We were having a big family meal and my cheeky nephew called me just “Emma” when he wanted to say something. I corrected him and asked him why he called me Emma, my name is Aunty Emma!

Wow I'm surprised at the vote.

I've lived in the uk for most of my life and naturalised British but I guess this is one of the things I've subconsciously kept from my original heritage - I'd gasp in shock if I saw a nephew or niece do that.

Don't you still call your grandparents Gran and Grandad (or whatever) as an adult? And your parents Mum and Dad? Why don't the aunts and uncles still keep their titles?

50 in a few days and still use it, it feels right to me.

My adult nephews still use it for me, I don't think it's odd.

And no, I would never say, Granny is ill, without explanation, that is odd.

Hopefully he took it on good spirit and you said it on good humour. I quite like to keep the titles going, but I would refer myself just by my name now to adult neices and nephews and let them do as they wish.

But then I appreciate I'm from a different culture... where I'm originally from we call our parents friends eg Aunty Jane out of respect. If they're the generation above.

I'm British, 32, female. Me and my siblings always call our aunts and uncles 'aunty X' 'uncle Y'. Would never dream of just calling them by their first names.

Always used auntie, uncle, still do 40 yrs later and so does my massive extended family, older and younger.

But I never called them Granny Mary or whatever just Granny. So I think it's different. I'm in my 40s and have never used uncle or aunt Infront of their names.
My nephews and nieces did for a while but certainly not by the time they were at secondary school .
YABU.

I’ve never been called anything except my first name by nephews and nieces ( all by marriage) step children and now sons in law. It’s my name, wouldn’t expect to be called anything else. Dsgc has always used my name too.

I'm in my 70s and my DC and DGC have always just used first names.

I think it is a term of respect but many younger children don't use it anymore.
It signals family and special relationships.
Perhaps he felt it sounded childish.
Hopefully he took the correction well.
I think it's nice.

YABU. They are adults and can call you what they like! It’s infantilising to correct them, I think.

I’ve been thinking about what we do and we always called all of the aunts/uncles of my parents by their title and name, like Aunt Emma. They were actually my great aunts/uncles but we didn’t add the Great to the title. I have only ever referred to my aunts/uncles by their name only but we refer to our siblings as Auntie/Uncle… to our DC. We call them by their first names or a nickname to them though. No idea why we do any of this.

My niece & nephews (DBro’s children) started calling me by just my name in their late teens. My niece & nephews on DH’s side never called me Aunty. I refer to my Aunts & Uncles by title still & I’m in my late 50s. It wouldn’t ever have felt right to call them by name only.

Same here - I'm in my 40s and still refer to my Auntie & Uncle!

My adult kids call me Mum, my adult GCs call me Nan, but I’ve never been into all this Aunt/Uncle stuff.

I am 48 and I have one aunt who insists (in a joking- sort of) way at being called Auntie Anne and another who asked us to drop the Auntie (although my children still call her that).

None of my nephews or niece call me Auntie when talking to me- but would refer to me as Auntie Dimples when I am not there.

My niece sometimes calls DBro by his first name & I don’t like it at all.

I’m in my 60’s and could never have referred to my aunts and uncles without their titles. I think that was of it’s time though.
I have 2 nieces who always say aunt and I have others that just use my name.
I’m happy with both.

Please tell me they actually call you Auntie Dimples! That would be amazing. 😂

I've never done this for my aunts and uncles, and haven't encouraged my kids to do so for theirs.

Why do it?

We don't say Mother Sarah, Father Tom, Sister Emma, Brother Mark, Cousin Joe etc. I don't know why we would do it solely for aunts and uncles.

My nephew calls me Auntie Scarlet but it’s a bit odd as he is now 51 and I’m in my 70s.

I'm.54 and still call my aunt aunt. Would not change to just her first name as I've never addressed her this way. I agree it shows respect. I voted you are not being unreasonable

YOU ARE BEING UTTERLY RIDICULOUS…and Pompous!!

I am 51 and have 8 nephews and nieces aged from 42 to 15. All of them call me aunty when I'm not there, ie in conversation... that happened to my aunty Donna...
the oldest (M) calls me aunty D or D. only 1 niece calls me aunty Donna. she will call or text me using it, and speak to me in person using it, but not always.
Cant say using or not using the aunty prefix bothers me either way tbh.

I dont get why its more "respectful" to say aunty when they are adults...

Do you refer to them as "niece Claire" or "nephew David"? if not, why are they less deserving of respect than you just because you've lived longer- doesnt everyone deserve respect?

Let me blow your mind- my DC never used the "aunt" or "uncle" bit even as little children. We did between ourselves as both uncles have got common names so we used it to distinguish them from other people we know with that name.
I did grow up calling both blood aunts & uncles and close family friends "aunt" and "uncle" but thought it was really odd as some were my aunt or uncle and others weren't.