To want my adult niece and nephew to call my Aunty Emma?

[egaley]

AIBU? Am I old fashioned?

I have an adult nephew and niece (28 and 26). They have always called me Aunty Emma.

We were having a big family meal and my cheeky nephew called me just “Emma” when he wanted to say something. I corrected him and asked him why he called me Emma, my name is Aunty Emma!

I come from a large working class London family and none of us have ever used the prefix for our aunts and uncles. We've only ever used their names.

YANBU to tell them, lightheartedly, you are fond of/miss your auntie tag and hope they use it.

YABU to tell adults Emma is not your name and insist on Auntie.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · Today 08:01
"As long as the name is intentionally disrespectful, surely it’s fine."

Yes, always make sure you are intentionally disrespectful! 😉

You can't be serious - you are all adults now. Surely even by teen years the auntie/uncle prefix is dropped. I certainly didn't use it by the time I was an adult - as pp says it's rather hierarchical. I think a grandparent role is different as they are 2 generations above you and you don't tend you use the actual name, it's just Granny, Granddad etc.

I had several great aunts when I was younger and I was expected to use 'Aunt Margot' etc - but they were quite old fashioned and formal, and this was me 18 and her 80 odd.

It's fine if Auntie is your preference but these things happen naturally and I don't think you can enforce it. It's ridiculous to call your nephew cheeky.

I'm speechless at this!

Massive generalisation? Chip on shoulder? And who are these 'ordinary people' you mention? Don't think I've ever met one of those.

Oh if only you were.

I’m Aunty Whothe to my adult Godchildren, my friend’s two under fives and very young nieces and nephews, which I love. I’m Whothe to teen nephews and nieces, which I don’t love, but they call me Aunty Whothe when they’re talking about me.

I wouldn’t dream of calling my remaining aunts and uncles by their first names, even if a few of them have told me it’s fine to. I was taught that it was really rude and I can’t quite shake that off. I don’t think it’s rude for our younger ones to call me by my first name, but I do love being their aunty and having that title, rather than just being some random adult their parents know.

Tell them you’re auntgender, your name is Aunty Emma, and if they call you just Emma again, they’re deadnaming you. 😂

36 and would never drop the auntie or uncle when I addressed my aunts and uncles. It would feel rude.

Oops! 😂🤦‍♀️

Couldn't imagine not calling my uncle Harry "uncle Harry"

Even when I'm referring to
Him I have to say uncle

Yanbu I think it's a respect thing!

I do. It's automatic, it's what they've always been to me, though I see them so rarely now. One uncle did say something about it, but I just find it hard to drop it.

Your 'cheeky nephew' is nearly 30 and you're framing him as an 8 year old pushing boundaries.
We are all entitled to ask to be called by the names we prefer, whether it's married vs maiden names, nicknames vs full names, using Dr vs Miss/Ms/ Mrs but I'd have a think about why you are asking this of two fellow adults.
I love being Auntie PinkArt but can't imagine insisting on this when my niblings are grown up.

I’m fifty and I am absolutely can’t bring myself to drop the aunt/uncle but I certainly can’t imagine insisting my nieces and nephews use it for me when they are older.

I don't think you are unreasonable to expect your nieces and nephews not to change what they have always called you.

I think you make yourself sound a bit daft with I corrected him and asked him why he called me Emma. I wouldn't have said anything. It is up to them really.

However, I am surprised by the balance of votes, and comments.
All my adult nieces and nephews, and also the dc of good friends still call me "AuntyNew", and I call my one remaining blood-related Aunty, and 3 (not really relatives) Uncles and Aunts 'Aunty X' / 'Uncle Y', and I'm retired.

im in my 40’s and one of the youngest of many cousins, we all use aunty & uncle 😂

I do too with my aunts and uncles. We have a more distant relationship though that I have with my nieces and nephews.

its one word. I hint out a great weight on it. It doesn’t convey respect - just habit and family tradition.

I know my nieces and nephews know and love me a lot more than I know and love my aunties and uncles. They just prefer to call me by my first name with no title.

"Cheeky"? A 28yo?

What next? Naughty? Disobedient? Dear me.

Got to ask - what does she want you to call her?!

Yabu

My aunt always writes love from Auntie and Uncle in their Christmas card to me. I am 52! I decided to stop putting auntie and uncle in cards I write to my nieces and nephews when they turn 18.

I always dropped "Auntie" when my nieces, nephews and godchildren got to about 15. Although some of them would forget sometimes, even into their early 20s, which was quite funny.
It doe feel wrong to ask another adult to call me "Auntie", I have to say.

I’m 36 and still use the title auntie and uncle, it’s strange the thought of not calling them it and just using first names.

I'm in my 40s and still say Auntie and Uncle. It would feel so weird just calling them by their first name. And it feels more special.

My adult niece and nephew however have always just called me by my first name (yet my friends kids call me Auntie).

My nieces call me Auntie Red I hope they continue to for a long time. But if they dropped it then I'd respect their choice. My best friends children (24, 27 & 31) all call me Aunt Red. Again if they drop it that's fine.

I've got 2 Aunts & an Uncle - all in their 80s who ill always call Aunt & Uncle.

My Mums grown up nieces & nephews & their families all call her Aunt (first name) too

@Elsvieta

Well this is the thing, she doesn't know. DS1 once asked her what her actual name was and she said, 'Auntie X'. She cannot let children/me know that she's a mere mortal like us! She has to elevate herself above people younger than her.