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AIBU?

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To want my adult niece and nephew to call my Aunty Emma?

284 replies

egaley · 27/07/2024 07:05

AIBU? Am I old fashioned?

I have an adult nephew and niece (28 and 26). They have always called me Aunty Emma.

We were having a big family meal and my cheeky nephew called me just “Emma” when he wanted to say something. I corrected him and asked him why he called me Emma, my name is Aunty Emma!

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Bibbitybobbity70 · 28/07/2024 19:16

I'm 54 & still call my aunts & uncles as this, feels odd to do otherwise. My 3DC, teen & adults call all my siblings auntie & uncles still.
Occasionally youngest DB calls our mum by her name just to wind her up

Underlig · 28/07/2024 19:25

i am in my 50s and would call my aunt and uncle Auntie x and Uncle x.

AndyPandyismyhero · 28/07/2024 20:01

JaninaDuszejko · 27/07/2024 09:18

Dropping the titles suggests you see no value in the familial relationship. Using the title is a recognition of the role of that person in your life and if you don't think they are important there's your fragmentation.

Dropping titles for aunts and uncles is a bit like those trendy parents in the 60s and 70s who insisted their children call them by their first names. Or those that laugh at people who call their parents mummy and daddy. It's all trying to imply you are oh so modern and progressive. But you're throwing away the baby with the bathwater. The title is not childish, it's a mark of the importance of your relationship.

I disagree entirely. I am in my 60's and am extremely close to a couple of my aunts. I dropped the titles when I was a teenager, at their suggestion. I see and speak to them often, they are more like older sisters - the oldest is only ten years older than me. In our family, the ones who are called auntie, tend to be the ones we are not close to and don't really stay in touch with. Children in the family do call aunties and uncles by the titles, in fact they call my mum nanny even though she's actually their great grandmother.

BlueBobble · 28/07/2024 20:07

Aunties and Uncles all the way here!

DH and I also call each other's aunts and uncles Auntie Agnes, Uncle David etc.

Sassybooklover · 28/07/2024 20:09

I'm nearly 50, and still refer to my Aunt's and Uncles as 'Auntie 'insert name' and 'Uncle 'insert name'!! It's just something I have always done, and never given it much thought. I don't think any of them would actually be offended if I called them by their first name, and missed off the Aunt or Uncle part. I guess it's just a habit, that I've never stopped!!

TheBirdintheCave · 28/07/2024 22:45

USaYwHatNow · 27/07/2024 07:27

I'm British, 32, female. Me and my siblings always call our aunts and uncles 'aunty X' 'uncle Y'. Would never dream of just calling them by their first names.

Yep same. It would be considered massively disrespectful to drop the titles in my family.

TheBirdintheCave · 28/07/2024 22:50

LongWetSummer · 27/07/2024 07:43

I've never done this for my aunts and uncles, and haven't encouraged my kids to do so for theirs.

Why do it?

We don't say Mother Sarah, Father Tom, Sister Emma, Brother Mark, Cousin Joe etc. I don't know why we would do it solely for aunts and uncles.

We actually do use the Cousin title in my family 😅 I call my mum's cousins Cousin Anne, Cousin Sarah etc.

My three year old son uses it for his cousins too but that sort of happened by accident and wasn't intentional.

blueberryforest · 28/07/2024 22:51

I'm well over 40, and I still use "Aunt" and "Uncle". It would have felt odd to suddenly change that. My 60+ parents still refer to their 80+/90+/deceased aunts and uncles as "Aunt X" or "Uncle Y".

Fgfgfg · 30/07/2024 11:57

I had an uncle in the year below me at school, so no, I never called him Uncle Pete. That would have been really weird.

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