Not trying to be inflammatory but why do people *need* more than two kids?

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Just that.

If the question is about child benefit and universal credit eligibility, why punish the children because of the decisions of one or more adults. Some larger families may come about because of coercive control of the father and/or a refusal to use certain contraception.

Seriously. Just fuck right off with your stupid, ignorant, judgemental bullshit. Maybe YOU can’t do all those (fairly fucking minimal) things properly, but I assure you my 4 private school and now university educated young adult children are and were perfectly hygienic, got any medical/paramedical care they needed, clean bedding (ffs 🙄), their own bedrooms, and have excellent manners. The only one of your list they “suffered” was wearing hand-me-downs. They seem to have pulled through that without too much damage.

We have 3 kids and both work in professional jobs.

To the OP, we have three as just didn’t feel done after two and wanted another. I feel no guilt for wider society as we receive no benefits and the two who are school age are model pupils.

We’re the sought of family society should be encouraging to have more children but who often doesn’t.

I doubt there will ever come a time when the cap can be lifted, it's here to stay.

The issue is being politicised at the moment, the SNP tabled it because they're running scared of Labour ousting them in the next Scottish elections.

My response was both based on an op which said, simply, ‘just that’ so no mention of the benefits cap when I responded and a pp who asked why people didn’t stop and consider whether they could afford more children after having their first. I’d not have mentioned my own personal circumstances had it not been for that particular post.

Are wealthy posters not welcome? Was there a form I should have filled in detailing our household income before I signed up?

I felt a need to have DCs because I have no other family.

You will find that adults who've been in care have more DCs than the general population.

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Did I touch a nerve?

Benefits never factored into our decision on how many children to have, we don’t claim any. Our 2 child cap was based on my age. Unfortunately in London by the time you’ve bought the big house and have the space and money for lots of children and a nice lifestyle for them time is running against you.

😂 Why do people think this is a clever comeback?? It really really isn’t.

It sounds like there is no way YOU could do that. I’m sure being so incompetent makes you bitter and judgemental toward other families that can.

If you don’t know any families with 3 + that hold good careers and look after their homes and families to high standard, I expect it’s because they choose not to associate with incompetent, judgmental cretins like you.

If you find the form, please DM with it as I can not seem to find it anywhere on here.

I will also just to give proof send MN our accountants tax calculations.

Hope that this helps the posters worries.

My parents kept trying for a boy. I suspect there’s a lot of that.

No I did not touch a nerve.

Just shocked that someone could make themselves look so stupid by writing such bile.

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A thread on a message board for women, berating women and spouting misconceptions and trying to exert control over how a woman exercises the most beautiful, vital, unique and powerful thing that she is capable of..... Just..... ick...

I only have 1, but I celebrate the diversity of experiences that comes from a society that allows different sized families.

I think for some people new relationship = new baby. Regardless of how many they already have. Like it’s not a proper relationship otherwise.

Hehe.
I'll let my 3 adult children ( lawyer, self-employed and economist) and their younger sibling at a selective high school know about that.
They also have fabulous teeth and won't leave the house without showering of a morning.
What else was on your list?
2 have done speech therapy when young
Always new shoes, some hand me down clothes ( didn't know this was terrible)
Super respectful or I don't think they would have the jobs they have.

You seem a bit silly . Where you one of many?

*Were

You’ve certainly taken on a lot

Why does it matter how.many kids someone has? Unless of course they can't look after them properly.

Nobody needs kids - it’s a lifestyle choice.🤷‍♀️

When we had our DC, we weren’t big earners, so we stopped at two. My friend, who was a doctor, married to a doctor, had four. Their income was much higher and more reliable than ours.

There were no top up benefits years ago, it was a case of we lived on what we earned. As @Strawberrycheesecake7 says, larger families are fine for those who can afford to support them, even more so now with the dearth of social housing.