Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

You were so rude doing that. Who takes one sip out of a can of pop then just leaves it. What a waste.I would have said something to you too and not apologised.
Are you always so entitled and thoughtless.

She was right though. It's a real bugbear of mine (especially when I'm paying) when people open cans and bottles of drink, have a few sips, wander off and forget where they've put them so they go flat or warm, and 20 mins later open another one. My adult kids have a terrible habit of doing this once they are a bit drunk. I think it's disrespectful and very entitled.

Just in case you didn't get the message@coldayscientist, what you did was extremely wasteful & your friend was right to challenge you.

And you were rude to just set it down, expecting her to clean up after you.

And as others have said, I've hosted many barbecues and parties over the years and I frequently grumbled and moaned at the sheer waste and bad manners of it, when I was confronted by numerous half-drunk bottles of beer etc the following morning.

I wouldn’t have apologised if I was your friend.

I absolutely hate waste and what you did would have really annoyed me.

You were in the wrong

Why would you take one sip and waste it?

Couldn't you of drunk some tap water instead?

and THEN you just left it on the side for her to sort out

You are the rude one!

She was a bit direct but she had a point. Please don’t stop a friendship over a can of coke. Life is too short.

Firstly your friend is correct, it does sound wasteful. Have some tap water if you want one mouthful. Secondly, it sounds like it was after a heavy night and she apologised - so you need to let it go.

I agree with her - maybe she was a bit rude but she was right. A family member used to visit us and help herself to cans from the fridge. I pulled her up when l realised she was only drinking half and then opening a fresh one. It’s a waste.

I don't think you did anything wrong in opening the can of drink but to take one sip and then put it down and go? That's just wasteful and bad manners, were you expecting her to clear up after you? Did you offer to help clear up from the night before?

Do you always behave like an entitled brat?

You picked up a can of Diet Coke in someone else’s house, took one mouthful, then just put it back down with no intention of drinking any more? Well, of course it’s a bloody waste! What an arrogant, entitled thing to do. It’s not even that you took the can - if you have a super close relationship with your friend where it’s normal for you to help yourselves to each other’s food and drink without asking, that’s fine. It’s the fact that you took one sip so nobody else could drink it, and then just left the almost full can there for her to bloody throw away for you. Surely you can see how selfish and wasteful that is?! I’m amazed she apologised; she really had no need to.

Greedy and wasteful. Would you have done that if you’d paid for the can yourself? Sounds like you only did it because it was “free”, ie your friend paid for it.

Taking a can of Diet Coke in someone home without being offered or asking, opening it, wasting it by taking just one sip, then putting it down without a word for someone else to empty out and tidy away for you is shoddy behaviour.

You deserve to be talked to like a child who doesn't know any manners yet if you behave like one.

Unopened drinks are not the same as buffet food that needs to be thrown away the next day. Cans can be kept. They aren't going to waste by not consuming them the next day. What you did was wasteful and rude.

No, but I also wouldn't be wasteful by opening a can (different to a bottle where you can pour a glass and drink all or part of the glass but not waste the rest of the beverage by doing so) and only having a sip or one mouthful of the drink either!

Are you usually this wasteful about things that you don't have to or didn't have to pay for yourself?

Oh dear lord can we give it a rest with this... anyone's story could be a reverse couldn't it.

This response is quite defensive. What I find more interesting is that you are so rude and entitled that after you had opened a can, taken a sip, put it down for her to clean up, she asked you if you were taking it with you, you replied, "no, I'm good thanks", totally failing to take the hint about your rude, wasteful behaviour.

In the great scheme of things it's not a big deal but if I'd been so thoughtless and someone had hinted at it I would have been mortified not posting on the internet to get support.

I think you should message her to say you were tired and hung over and you're sorry for such thoughtless behaviour.

I'm already staggered none of you helped clean up before leaving. She was probably a bit annoyed you were all swanning off just leaving her to it, and then you made it worse by creating more for her to empty out, rinse out and recycle when she could otherwise have just popped it back in the bin.

Thoughtless and wasteful I'm afraid. But I guess we're none of us at our most thoughtful after an late night, alcohol and sleepover session.

(Haven't read full thread btw, so apologies if I've missed something about the great post-party clear up.)

Yabu, diet Coke is rotten.

It’s not just the taking one sip and being so wasteful. OP states she “put it down”. Put it down where?

Because I’m guessing she wasn’t pouring the undrunk wasted coke down the sink and putting the can in the recycling/bin. So just leaving it on a table or worktop? Bet the host was pissed off with the mess and lack of tidying.

When I’ve stayed at someone’s house after a party I’ve got up early in the morning and started clearing up and put the dishwasher on.

Had OP helped to clear stuff up? Had anyone?

Seems a bit pointless to open a can have one sip then leave the rest. Was there no bottles of pop you could pour into a glass?

I think you are fluctuating on the wrong thing. It's incredibly rude to open a can, take one sip, and then just leave it. You should be apologising.

*focussing

You were spoken to like a child because you acted like a child

My 7 yr old doesn't even open a can for one sip because she knows it's wasteful

You clearly think YANBU but you definitely ARE BU

I wouldn't have apologised to you though