Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

She was right. Having hosted many a pre drinks in my time. The absolute carnage I'd come down to in the morning to clean up was unreal. She's probably pissed off anyway she's got loads of mess to tackle, and then you open a can of pop, take 1 sip and leave it, meaning now it's wasted as you've put your mouth on it. That is a bit crap, just take it with you, don't leave it for her to have to put a way and tidy up

Well it was a small act, but the fact you did it and you’re struggling to understand your friends reaction actually speaks volumes about your sense of entitlement and lack of self awareness.

At least this thread is giving you an insight into the sort of person you are and a sense of what’s said about you when you’re not in the room.

I guess whilst others are laughing and sharing their heads, and least you can use it as a learning experience I guess 😂😂😂😂

She was correct, only because its leftover doesn't mean you can be so wasteful, it's not like she was going to throw the can in the bin unopened.

Can you really not see her point of view?

No, but nor do I take one bite of it and then put it back.

Which is what you did.

This

I have to say I agree with her.

Were you just going to leave the opened almost full can for her to deal with?

Its bad enough, but what she signed up for, that drunk people leave a mess to be cleaned up. But you weren't drunk. And thought nothing of adding to her tidy up by going to leave an almost full can of juice.

Both wasteful and ignorant. I certainly wouldn't have been apologising to you - the apology should have been from you to her.

One sip is very wasteful, your friend was correct.

I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks”

I missed this in your OP the first time I read it, @coldayscientist - and even before I clocked it, I thought your behaviour was pretty thoughtless, UHT this makes it downright rude. Your friend was absolutely correct - opening the can just for ONE sip was wasteful, and she had every right to comment, especially as you then dumped the nearly full can for her to clear up whilst you swanned off home!

I don't see that as her having a go at you and, as many others have said, that is a waste.

Also, she apologised so you definitely move on as you're actually the one who was more in the wrong. I would've responded saying that you hadn't considered the waste at the time, but she was right and then thank her for the apology.

Are you a srot of person that comes up to a buffet, bites into a bitd of food and puts the rest on the counter for others to clean up?

Is this a reverse? You left a random full can of coke out ready to get knocked over? It’s like a toddler taking one bite of a banana and leaving it on the side.

Except a toddler is still learning and has no concept of waste.

How rude to open her can for one sip and then leave it there, wasted. I'd be annoyed too. Just don't waste other people's money in future.

Are you learning anything from this OP?

She spoke to you like a child because you acted like one.

The buffet was over. This was the night before. Simple manners should have let you know to ask. You don’t help yourself to stuff at peoples houses. I assume you offered to help her tidy everything away?

She had been very nice letting everyone stay over. You sound entitled and rude.

You’re either a stroppy teenager or rude and entitled- I can’t imagine any other explanation for your rude surly attitude

How rude of you a) to do that in the first place and b) to leave it for her to clean up?! I agree - empty it and throw it away (wasteful but at least not rude) or take it with you.

This is exactly what I was thinking. Or taking a bite of an apple and putting it back in the fruit bowl.

She wasn't even harsh, just correct.

Really rude, amazed she apologised to you.

It was a waste, I'd have made you drink it all before you left, be glad I'm not your.friend

I think there's been enough comments but ffs I can't resist.

You were wasteful. I hate this too. Entitled. She was right... but possibly I'd have kept it inside rather than have said anything. She didn't as she'd hosted and was probably a bit fed up and tired. She's apologised which is very nice of her (I probably would have done too just to keep the peace but if she'd hadn't I also think it's no huge deal).

You have no right to be offended considering the above. She sounds fine! I do, however, think the whole thing is so trivial it's not worth a post.

Yours, others, and mine bloody post of course. Gotta love MN.

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You don’t get it do you OP ??
If this is true , you are rude and entitled. If invited to a party, the remaining food/ drink is not up for grabs the next day if unopened.

If the host offers you breakfast, you are welcome to have some breakfast items.