Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

She spoke as she did because you were very rude, such a waste to have a sip from a can and no more!

It's the equivalent of you have a cheese and wine type party, the host laid on lots of nice cheese, and the next day you take an unopened brie, bite off the nose then leave it. That's no longer a full and wrapped brie that can be given to someone or enjoyed by the host another time. It's now part of the 'wastage' of the party and it's not even like anyone actually got to eat and enjoy it.

OP you're not covering yourself in glory here

I don’t think I would have said anything to you but I would have thought you very wasteful and found it quite rude. If you only wanted a sip, could you have at least poured some into a glass so someone else could finish it.

To add I would have had no problem with you having a left over can; it’s the opening to just have one sip and then leave it that is rude.

Do you pick several sandwiches, take a single bite out of each one and then walk off and leave them?

I can see her point.

She spoke to you like a child because frankly you acted like one.
That type of thoughtless wasteful behaviour is very child like. A young child too.

Thanks for elucidating on the type of person you are.

You're still stewing about this after a week? Your behaviour sounds bratty and immature.

I bet you’re a double dipper at the buffet too aren’t you OP

Impressive op. How on earth have you managed to make yourself the offended against one here?

It's a tiny thing, and while I would personally just have been a bit pissed off at you silently, it's an enormous reach for you now to decide your friend has unreasonably "had a go at you" and for you not to just apologise back and let it lie. Like a normal person would do.

Did she snap by chance because you sail through life continually doing these tiny thoughtless things? You'll probably not be able to answer that as it'll not be on your radar. Do you ever get asked back to stay for a second time?

Your friend was in the right

Act like a child, get spoken to like a child 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wouldn't be apologising to you OP it was a really rude thing to do

Maybe the friend was not thirsty at that time. It's a total waste.

She's right. It was a waste.

I agree with your friend, and I'd be surprised if someone actually did that.

I probably wouldn't have said anything though

Was she hungover and cranky?

School holidays is causing so many bored and entitled children to be on Mumsnet. Are you a child OP?

Sounds like the friend is a better friend than you, you mumbled sorry after being rude and yet she’s the one messaging you with an actual apology?!?!

She didn’t speak to you like a child. You acted like a child, first wasting a can that someone else could have had, expecting someone else to dispose of it for you, then why did you mumble ‘sorry’ and take it with you? That makes you seem even more like a scolded child.

The only way you wouldn’t be unreasonable in this situation is if you were the one who bought those cans, then you could do what you like with them. But you’d still be unreasonable expecting someone else to dispose of it after you.

Well it is a waste and I think her response is warranted 😂

She is right.

While it's fine to help yourself at the time of the party, the following day you may as well have opened her cupboards and messed with her food.

Even if in a tired, hungover state you didn't think to check it was ok, surely you can see how rude it would be to just create more rubbish AND to waste her drink?

She’s right though isn’t she? Open a whole can for a sip? That would drive me round the bend.

This is a minor matter, but she was right.