Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

This is such a nothing! And she apologised! OK maybe it was a harsh comment and you were taken aback by it but she already texted to say sorry. So what is the issue?

But seriously, why would you open a can when you didn’t want it? Someone paid for that. Someone could have used the whole thing. It doesn’t matter if it was for a party; it’s still wasteful and just stupid behaviour. Why did you open a new can when you didn’t even want it?

Oh, and are you going to message your friend back to say no apology is needed and you’re sorry for being so wasteful, it was thoughtless etc?

I can imagine after having a party and a few people stay over she was not at her best - in normal circumstances she prob would have thought what she said and not said it. I think most people would have thought what a waste and also bit their tongue. I think it’s interesting your take away is you are annoyed at her - rather than agree with her you were being thoughtless and wasteful.

the rudeness was the opening, taking 1 sip, and then leaving it

ffs - if you cant grasp that then there is no hope for you

Based on your responses you’re coming across as a very rude and entitled person. Do you acknowledge at all that what you did was not great and your friend had a point?

Did you do the following normal things to do op..

Bring something to the bbq. A pudding for example. A bottle of wine too. And a present for the host- some flowers or chocolates?

Then the morning after did you help clean the mess? Again, normal for a friend to do who's stayed over.

Did you thank her profusely upon leaving?

Do you plan to reciprocate?

The above four things would be the basic norm of etiquette. I'm guessing if you've got this long in life without realising it's really fucking rude to open someone's can of drink, take a swig and just leave it; then you might not also know basic etiquette.

Because you WERE rude. You took a can of soda, opened it, took one sip and then discarded it to the side. Obviously, you felt there was nothing wrong with doing that. You got all in a tither because the host called you out on it. My "comparison" stands, even if it isn't what you want to read. Especially when YOU brought up the BBQ/buffet scenario.

You are annoyed because she talked to you like a child? You acted like one, so why are you upset?

I feel bad for your friend apologizing to you when she did nothing wrong.

I probably wouldn't have said anything, but you friend was in the right. You sound rather rude. Yet another OP who finds the majority of posters don't agree with them, but still insists they are in the right. What is the point of this??? Someone paid for that can, you opened it with no intention of drinking more than a sip, and then left it for your friend to dispose of - and you can't see what is wrong with that

If you act like a child expect to be treated like one, and your friend had no need to apologise.

Sorry but it was rude, inconsiderate and entitled. Glad your friend called you out on it to be honest, might teach you a lesson your parents didn't manage to.

so rude of you! I would have thought/said the same. Unless this is a reverse

I'm on your friend's side. It is a waste and I'd have said similar.

So you think that everything left over from a buffet should just be thrown into the bin? Why not open all the left over cans of Coke? And unwrap every After Eight and piss on the leftover sausage rolls? I'm angry and it wasn't even my money you wasted!

I'd expect better of my 8 year old to be honest. I doubt your self-absorbed behaviours on the weekend began with the diet coke.

You are thoughtless and should be feeling sheepish.

What would happen? you would harm a friend? Or just realise there are bigger things in your life to get angry about and forget about it?

Blimey, seriously poor etiquette there, OP. Taking one sip-wasteful, then leaving it for her to clear up? Beyond rude. She’s not your maid.

I think it was weird and rude of you. You opened a can and took a sip. Someone else might have been able to have the whole can but can’t now. Then left the can for someone else to clean up. Your friend actually. Very strange.

A present for the host? No because I don’t wear pearls, live in a cul de sac and live in the 1950s 😂

Well I’m sure of the 10 cans there and the 3 people that stayed over, I’m sure they didn’t go thirsty.

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I also do not wear pearls, live on a cul de sac or in the 1950s.

But if someone invites you to their home, feeds you, houses you for the night and you drink all (or one sip) their drinks, it's good manners to thank them with flowers, chocolates, wine etc.

Your OP and responses suggest you have zero manners though.

As has been demonstrated through the entirety of the thread, you have the manners and finesse of a badly reared barn animal.

Aww I love sheep 🐑