To think Tattle Life gossiping is necessary?

[bottomsup12]

Immediately thoughts are that it's not nice to gossip and everyone should "be kind". However, in this day and age of social media influencers etc, everyone acknowledges that people show the best bits of their life, all the ups and rarely the downsides.

We are also told to stop comparing to others on this basis as we never know what's going on behind someone's glamorous life.

Therefore, I put it to you MNers, that the b*tchiness that occurs on Tattle Life (and is IS very much so) is a necessary antidote to the fake lives we can't help comparing ourselves to.

Instead of sitting here wondering how everyone else manages to have such a great time while you're broke hardly able to pay your bills, it's reassuring to see other people cutting through the crap and pointing out the other parts of their life.

I'd argue it's a necessary by product of social media antics and the naturally occurring ying to the social media glamorous yang!

What are your thoughts?

I'll put my hands up and say - I love the Mumsnet thread on Tattle - it's very funny.

Some of the threads about some influencers are awful though - I think there is holding to account and then there are some which are just bullying no matter how much they say otherwise

That’s definitely not the parts of tattle I’ve looked at (and would steer clear of). Actually I looked up an ‘influencer’ on there recently because she’s such a lovely person I thought surely Tattle can’t bitch about her. I’m glad to say they all had lovely things to say about her because she really does seem like a genuinely nice and authentic person.

The hatred anyone bigger than a size 8, or who dares to eat a UPF gets here on Mumsnet already makes me team tattle. How on earth can you criticize tattle for picking on the appearances of people when tattle by and large only does that to people who purposefully put themselves in the public eye. Whereas here you'll drag down and kick any poor person who comes for advice who doesn't fit in with your pro-ana beauty standards.

I agree that some places of tattle take things too far. But I honestly don't think Mumsnet is any better.

I'm a funny wonder on Tattle being as I posted on Digital Spy for absolute years. When they closed their discussion and politics forums, folk were debating between joining Tattle and another site.

Ergo I really only frequent the off topic and TV and film forums so have missed all the so called bitchiness.

Folk on those forums have been lovely and funny. Hilarious at times. I like mumsnet because it's so huge and so many topics, but quite honestly I get jumped on quite a lot here for something really quite mundane at times, it's like some people hover waiting to pounce and tear lumps out of you. Not the majority fair enough, but it doesn't happen on Tattle, they may pull celebrities apart but not each other. That's possibly still bitchy but I don't read those sections.

Its funny that threads pop up here all the time looking for codes, which aren't given out, so obviously not everyone on here feels the same.

It's not just threads about influencers, there's all sorts of discussions on there. I particularly like following the real life crime discussions, injustices against women, the gender thread, books etc.

I agree. I occasionally lurk on there and the vitriolic obsession is concerning. They pick apart EVERYTHING. Just glad I am not filled with so much hate and rage. I assume a lot of people on there are not well mentally

MN has it's faults, but anyone on here calling a women a slag,skank,slapper etc would be pulled up on using those words.

If an influencer makes you feel shit about your life that's your problem though. There's always going to be someone doing better than you, people need to learn to deal with it.

Exactly this ☝not a true reflection of anyones lives. Why do people even bother???
Perhaps then the narcissists might get a proper job that adds value to society.

It's absolutely awful the way they talk about people and their children.

Let's all be nice and say hello back to Tattlers. 🙋‍♀️🤣

Hmmm

I agree that the fake portrayals of life on SM by influencers means that people will call it out. It’s all so unreal and unattainable it’s a danger esp to easily influenced teens.

They have a thread slagging MN off, MN has a thread slagging Tattle off. The difference is people from Tattle can join MN and defend it although most are on MN anyway, No one is allowed to go on he Tattle MN thread to call out some of the crap they spout about MN though. And anyone who did, would get deleted for thread policing. So on balance I much prefer the freedom to be allowed to argue my point

On another note has anyone actually witnessed an "influencer" making video in real life? I have in IKEA once it was soo bloody awkward.

She had her camera on a selfie stick and kept screeching "Hi guys, so as you can you see I'm in IKEA today, now these are the storage bins i have at home, they're lovely and so big"

then she'd stop watch it, wasn't good enough so she'd do the entire script again. Wish I knew her name because I'd love to so if I'm in the back ground giving a side eye 🤪🤪🤪

I actually do watch people on YouTube for various reasons but you don't realise how embarrassing it is to film like that in public until you see someone do it, it must take some balls xx

Oh please

There is no excuse for the cesspit that is TattleLife. If you can't work out for yourself that influencers' lives are fake then there is no hope for you.

I don't know.... they barred me as apparently I'm not a real person. Seems my real life is too far-fetched for any one person to be all of the things I am and done all of the things I am...

I do agree, though I dont use Tattle Life myself. If using that forum is this is the alternative to people leaving these type of comments directly on the posts of these celebrities and influencers, then it is far preferable.
Gossiping behind peoples backs isn’t the most positive use of someone’s time, but it’s not abuse in the way that insulting them directly to their face might be. We’re all human - feeling jealous/triggered/annoyed by things we notice about other people and letting off steam about it isn’t particularly noble behaviour, but is pretty normal - we’ve all done it on occasion. Tattle Life just gives an online forum to do that.

Ooh, I know from reading Tattle who you were on there! 😂

Do they ever open up registrations, it's always try next month?

I'm probably safer just being a lurker... though was infuriating to see questions being asked about me and not being able to answer! Happy to share my Instagram handle with anyone who wants to PM me, I've nothing to hide and am happy to prove that I might be a little bit eccentric but I don't lie 😀

(Although I can confirm I have never slept with anyone from Dragon's Den - the dragon reference was to an actor from GoT and I went to college with Duncan Bannatyne's daughter - the two got incredibly confused!)

I think it’s all a problem. I see what you’re saying- curated images are an issue. I was going one step further and saying social media in general is damaging, even the “look at this mess, I’m normal, please don’t feel bad” posts. It’s all unnatural and we’re not built to see so much.

I love Tattle.... no codes at present to give though

PTWM.....really really opened my eyes and loved watching the fallout

They report many influencers for not sticking to 'gifting' rules and regs. But Part Time Working Mummy went a lot further.

Tattle is Mumsnet for stupid people.

I say this as someone who posted on there once. Don't know what I was thinking! It was long before it turned into what it is now.

I go on To read the M&S thread! I find out about all the new items that are in store!
Yes, I have a sad life.