To think Tattle Life gossiping is necessary?

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Immediately thoughts are that it's not nice to gossip and everyone should "be kind". However, in this day and age of social media influencers etc, everyone acknowledges that people show the best bits of their life, all the ups and rarely the downsides.

We are also told to stop comparing to others on this basis as we never know what's going on behind someone's glamorous life.

Therefore, I put it to you MNers, that the b*tchiness that occurs on Tattle Life (and is IS very much so) is a necessary antidote to the fake lives we can't help comparing ourselves to.

Instead of sitting here wondering how everyone else manages to have such a great time while you're broke hardly able to pay your bills, it's reassuring to see other people cutting through the crap and pointing out the other parts of their life.

I'd argue it's a necessary by product of social media antics and the naturally occurring ying to the social media glamorous yang!

What are your thoughts?

Good lord! 🤣

I think the people who post on there get a deep sense of satisfaction from being utterly horrible bullies. They think it's justified to do it on there because they are "exposing influencers" but actually it's just heir own innate nastiness. It's not helpful to anyone, they're kidding themselves

Exacty this

And to those saying it's just an online forum for gossip, most of us would be rightly too embarrassed to say things to a friend's face such as 'So and so's baby is so ugly it should die' which is the kind of thing I've read on Tattle. There's no justification for such vile comments and most people wouldn't make them IRL and hide behind online personas because they're inadequate bitches. Which I would tell them on Tattle except they're also cowards and so don't let any critics post there

One of the rules on Tattle is not to make horrible comments about children so they should be reported.

It's being justified on here as a necessary evil to out influencers. I suppose people will use any excuse to tear other people down and give them a good kicking. God forbid if you're a successful or attractive woman, you deserve to have everything about you pilloried and scrutinised. And it's not just influencers being torn to shreds on there, there are plenty of celebrities and women in the spotlight.

Absolutely nothing happens when you report them. It’s a rule in name only: they don’t actually enforce it.

I do get the some content creators influencers are dodgy and need to be called out when breaking ad rules etc but ‘they get what’s coming to them’ is just ridiculous.

They aren’t forcing anyone to watch.
They aren’t forcing anyone to buy their tat.
Yes they may promote an unrealistic standard of life.
BUT

That’s an us problem. That’s a problem we have created by dumbing down, not teaching our kids / our selves critical thinking skills.

We are all over exposed to social media - influencers would not be a thing if we were not all scrolling zombies addicted to being nosey and buying shite to make ourselves feel better.

Influencers are making hay whilst the sun shines. Some will be left with no skills and no career once the bubble bursts. The savvy ones will move into digital marketing, lifestyle coaching, writing, presenting etc.

And people on tattle will still be obsessing that someone’s child is ugly or some celeb is a bitch and deserves to be called a slag because they have all the same insecurities and issues they had that drove them to getting validation from bitching to begin with.

And again - I was one of those people. My contributions to that site came about solely because I felt shit about myself and my life but I didn’t feel any better for bitching. I felt better when I realised the only thing that would improve things was getting off my phone and living a life that meant I didn’t need to be obsessed with anyone else’s or kick people to validate my misery.

I only found it when I searched for information about a company that had been liquidated. I actually found out some interesting information about the director which means I will never buy from her 'new' company. Some of it was bitching, but to be honest a lot of it was deserved and much more realistic than the sympathy she was getting on other social media.

I read tattle now and again. I fell into the Charlotte Dawson topic and Jesus! I'm not fan of her whatsoever but those people seem obsessed with her life, they watch her like a hawk and just rip her to pieces over absolutely everything she does. As I said I'm not a fan of hers but fucking hell it's harsh!!!

There is a YouTube family that should have been cancelled a few years ago now, when the Dad was (according to police reports) caught inappropriately messaging a 16yr old girl for a meet up in a hotel in Florida. Young ladies have come forward and said he has slept with them. The wife denies it all, despite police confirming the incident in Florida, and has slated the people that have come forward to out him.

Somehow, they still manage to remain on YouTube, but this has made them very smug, and they have been seen to be doing several things that could put their kids in danger (leaving their baby alone on a beach whilst they were neck-high in the sea, not encouraging their children to wear life jackets when kayaking), and their children are a shell of who they were when they started putting their lives out for the world to see.

Of course, anyone that calls them out on this is a ‘troll’ or ‘jealous’, and these comments are deleted. They have been known to dox people that try to highlight the fact they should be cancelled, so their followers are none the wiser.

I read Tattle for this family, as this is where the work is being done to get this channel off of YouTube. I don’t like the comments regarding their weight etc, as I feel they are unkind and unnecessary (especially about the children’s), but comments about the parents’ behaviour is fair game. It is agreed that the dad is a danger to his young influentials subscribers, especially when he has the ability to privately message them, so they need to be cancelled. On the whole, I don’t give two hoots about people on social media (although I don’t agree with children being on there), but this family is an exception.

The parents of this particular family supposedly don’t need the YouTube money to live on (apparently 😏), as the Dad sees himself as a bit of an ‘entrepreneur’ behind the scenes, so it’s not like they’ll suffer if they lose their channel.

(Sorry for the long post!)

That's how I feel about Charlotte Taylor, the people of her threads seem to be obsessed, perhaps they are jealous? She can't cough before they're all on in there hoards slagging her off. It's actually insane. She makes a video on YouTube and I will watch/ listen to it while I clean or potter about, and sometimes I'll think, I wonder if anyone on tattle has anything nasty to say about that, and of course they do. Not even nasty, vile. It's really sad, you think when you leave school you leave bullies behind but you do not.

Tattle is horrible.
Just unfollow the influencers you no longer like.
I can’t think of anything more toxic than hate-following someone just to slag them off on a gossip site.

They even slagged her off horrendously for how she grieved her Grandad's passing. I mean come on now. Bullying someone for grieving. That's low

The thing with tattle is that as threads go on they get more and more extreme. So someone like Charlotte Dawson will have the very first thread being ‘yes she can be a bit annoying, I hate it when she does X’ - fair enough. By thread 45 or whatever they’re reporting her to SS and calling her children names.

How's the new car

that's insane!

I've seen that here though. There was a thread about a famous actor who had a non binary child and by the end of the thread they were discussing reporting him to social services for child abuse.

Still loving it thanks!

@Beezknees agree with all your points. Perhaps my last paragraph was clumsily worded. Influencers set out to make us believe that they have better lives by sharing only what they want to share. I know that my life is infinitely better that the influencer I know mentioned in so many ways. I’m just sad that she creates an illusion that many people can’t see past. I’m always happy to celebrate peoples good fortunate/hard work/achievements, when they are honest about them.

I don’t comment on Tattle but I loosely follow several threads. Some are quite bitchy and aggressive which I find unnecessary, but others feature some intelligent sounding posters who call out bad behaviour.

For example I follow a thread about a mum influencer and Tattle really opens your eyes to stuff she seems to be doing (based on what her social media shows) which is actually not great. Vulnerable new mums could be following these influencers and thinking that’s good parenting …. So Tattle balances out that one-sided view .

And I strongly disagree with the use of kids on social media to gain interaction (and therefore £££££) and Tattle is really good at calling out people who are using their kids as Cash Cows.

I think it’s fair game to criticise influencers for shitty behaviour (not marking things as ads, sharing their kids online, tone deaf crassness, promoting harmful products or diets etc).

That said most of Tattle is foul and goes well beyond legitimate criticism into outright character assassination. The targets are often totally unworthy as well. I used to follow a lady on Instagram who only had about 50k followers, never monetised her account or promoted anything, and posted benign updates about her love for vintage fashion and living. She ended up deleting her entire account following a vicious tattle thread saying she was constantly showing off her weight loss (she wasn’t - she was just existing in photos in a thinner body), that she was a tradwife, that she was a hypocrite for owning a washing machine, that her kids probably hated her and all kinds of completely uncalled for cruelty.

You know people actively choose and pursue fame though right?
It’s certainly not compulsory.

MN can be nasty. It’s usually to its members though. Usually.

I have never been on it and I can 100% guarantee that I would never have heard of any of the influencers because I do not follow / know / care about any of them.

I enjoy the MN thread on tattle 😂 they're not wrong a lot of the time. The influencer bit I don't read as I have no idea who any of them are

Wasn't it one of the Mods on Tattle who exposed Mother of Daughters for using sock puppets on Tattle? The fall out from that debacle made headlines around the world!