Unbelievable birthright to my couch

[stupidfoolish]

We have a couch in the living room, and my partner likes to sit on a particular side. I also like to sit there, but my partner seems to think he has a right to that spot.

This afternoon, he was sitting there while I was at my desk sorting some things out. He went upstairs and was gone for at least 10 minutes. After finishing my work, I sat in that spot and changed the channel. When he came back down, he said “no, no” and pointed to where I was sitting. I explained that no one was there when I sat down, but he responded, “I only popped upstairs.” He was visibly upset and stormed back upstairs like a sulking toddler.

AIBU to think he is wrong? Is it unreasonable to think that anyone can sit in that spot if it’s vacant, especially if he’s been upstairs for 10-15 minutes?

Do you live with Sheldon Cooper?

😂😂

Even toddlers know they don't "own" a particular spot on the sofa.

Have you considered a sofa rota?

Check the seat number on his ticket.

I think you should check someone is done before appropriating their seat while it is still warm. He coukd have just gone upstairs to use the loo.

We all have spots. Much easier.

My and DH have our own spots .. we don’t sit in somones else’s spot .. lol

Anyone can sit in any chair, but if you sit in mine you have to move when I want it.

He's definitely overreacted and is being a bit of a drama queen by shouting no, instead of just asking if he would have his seat back but equally, if I knew my partner has a fave spot and there was another seat to sit in, I wouldn't mind and would just move over. We are an ND household though and it would make a weird sort of sense.

I think if someone had been sat somewhere for a prolonged period and popped elsewhere for 10 mins or so, then there is a reasonable assumption that they will be returning. I suppose it depends how petty you want to be and how much you want to sit somewhere.

But how do you decide if both of you prefer the same spot?
The OPs partner doesn't have any more right to the spot they both like than she does.

can someone explain the thread title please. confused.

Coach should be couch. My DH is a little like this about the best spot on the couch too, but he wouldn’t sulk off. He’s been known to evict the kids but he wouldn’t dare do it to me as he’d get short shrift! YANBU to hold firm!

Its an unspoken understanding that my partner has a spot, its near the plug socket as he usually needs to charge his phone, I equally wouldn't jump into his seat nor he mine if we popped somewhere.

However if I was sat there he would sit elsewhere and wouldn't complain

Find your feet, lose your seat!

Wouldn't that be absolutely insane? I see him as an idiot who thinks like a child and still wants to act like one.

For example, I love dining sets (plates, cutlery, etc.) and frequently buy new ones, often changing the ones we use every day. I have a mix of about three sets in the cutlery drawer, with my one set I like using & I tend to use daily. One day, I was cooking and grabbed a spoon from the drawer. Later, he flipped out because I had used his favorite spoon while cooking. I suggested he could use another spoon or quickly wash the one he preferred if it wasn't available. He was not happy, and I just ignored it, but now I am very conscious when choosing cutlery. Isn't it insane that I have to carefully think before grabbing a spoon?

Recently, I bought a set of mugs, plates, and bowls. When I brought them home, he protested, saying we didn't need them (even though I bought them with my own money). He has his favorite mug, but he started using one of the new mugs without me even noticing. One day, I used the mug to make myself a drink, and he was unhappy, claiming it was his mug and that I didn't even like it. I reminded him that I bought the mug and wouldn't buy something I don't like, and that he initially disapproved of the purchase. I told him we're not in kindergarten and that if his favorite mug is used, he can wash it or use another one. I can't stand this nonsense anymore.

Am I being unreasonable to think his behavior is childish and that anyone can use available items without such drama?

My Ddog does this if I’m in his spot and he’s somewhere else, he’ll sit on the floor in front of me and whine until I let him have his spot back.

I have the same problem but with a Labrador.

Move your feet lose your seat.

But he left the chair area

I really can’t see this as a relationship that is going to last.

DH has the recliner and I have the three seater sofa, always have. When we have guests we sit where there is space and don’t say anything.

Does he also sulk if you put his bedtime milk in the wrong colour sippy cup?! Oh sorry I've just seen you are talking about a grown arse adult not your young toddler!

The couch thing I kinda get as I also like a certain spot but if someone else is sitting there it doesn't even enter my head to ask them to move, the cup/spoon thing though would give me the ICK

He has his own things. You don't view things like that as special. You don't sound compatible in this way.

We have our own "spots" on the sofa, but if one is taken we just sit elsewhere. We also have favourite mugs, but again if it's used and not washed we'll use something else.

You sound like you're not willing to budge on how you feel about this, not is he. One of you needs to or you need to consider if this is the relationship for both of you.

I’d sit there all the more. 😁