Unbelievable birthright to my couch

[stupidfoolish]

We have a couch in the living room, and my partner likes to sit on a particular side. I also like to sit there, but my partner seems to think he has a right to that spot.

This afternoon, he was sitting there while I was at my desk sorting some things out. He went upstairs and was gone for at least 10 minutes. After finishing my work, I sat in that spot and changed the channel. When he came back down, he said “no, no” and pointed to where I was sitting. I explained that no one was there when I sat down, but he responded, “I only popped upstairs.” He was visibly upset and stormed back upstairs like a sulking toddler.

AIBU to think he is wrong? Is it unreasonable to think that anyone can sit in that spot if it’s vacant, especially if he’s been upstairs for 10-15 minutes?

Is he ND? Can't think of any other reason for his extreme reaction

Oops just spotted spelling error on the bottle

Couch not coach. Sorry

Together for 20 years now 🤣 but he annoys the living day light out of me and I am planning to leave the relationship- I can't stand grown man acting like a toddler

Why do I get the feeling you jumped into his spot to make a point and wind him up?

If he's getting on your nerves this badly you might need to rethink the whole relationship.

He overreacted massively. Is he nd? He sounds like some of my students who are autistic, they can’t cope with change, must use the same cup/sit in the same seat, need to be pre warned of changes. Sulking is not great, tho. I have to say, me and my DH have our own seats in the lounge. Recently, he has been sitting in mine so he’s near the dog who is confined to a playpen due to an issue, but moves should I come in the room. I think it’s fairly normal to have assigned seats.

Did he not contribute when you lived in the house you paid for?

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos

"He has his own things. You don't view things like that as special. You don't sound compatible in this way."

Look I appreciate that there are certain things he likes to use and so do I but I don't make a fuss or start to sulk if that thing is in use or used. I would wash it and use or get another one. That's what normal matures people do.

I came here to say that too ( sorry op)

Three is no talking about sharing it at all- I see that as unnecessary. If it's free, sit there if it's not, sit somewhere else.

I would have moved but because he was claiming the spot as if he's got a God given right to the place and because of the manner in which he sulks over other things.

• he only speaks up in this type of cases but other serious work related or family welfare matter, he is quite and I have to do the talking and advice hard for it but he can protect over cups,spoons and couch 🙄

Oops just spotted spelling error on the bottle

What bottle OP??? 😂

That was what I told him and he didn't leave the spot for just 2 minutes. He was gone for so long, I thought he had gone to bed to have a nap.

There might be a space for an armchair and I will get one if I find one that I like but not because I want to avoid these situations because it could not even cause any problems in the 1st place.
He is just childish about this and a lot of other things and I have had enough of it.

🤣🤣

Exactly

And I am sick and tired of it

Very young? Thanks, I take that as a compliment
But how old do you think I am?

We've only got one sofa and OH likes to lie on it so i go on the floor. Every time she leaves the room I lie on it then she comes back and sits on me until I give up and get back on the floor

But you know that's how he feels about them and still insist on using them. You say you've been together 20 years, so you know these things about him.

So you either accept that about him and accommodate by not using his things when you know it'll upset him, or you accept you're incompatible.

I see from a different post of yours you want to leave anyway because he annoys you too much. Which suggests you're just generally irritated by him and are probably doing these things to irritate him back. Whether you're going to admit that or not.

I suspect OP may indeed have been on the bottle

LTB

Gosh! Not found a single LTB yet! Come on Mumsnet, this is unworthy of you.

I thought everyone had their own spots where they always sit. Me and my husband do, I would find it really weird sitting where he always sits. Isn't it the same as having your own side of the bed where you always sleep?

You were too slow

Yes just spotted the error on the tittle
It's couch not coach

Yes, he like to dig in his heels on pointless things like these

If your favourite item is in use, use another or wash it and use- no need to sulk same goes to the couch spot.

Is even more annoying when you know the same person that gets his knickers twisted over these silly things while he is not serious about more important matters like the welfare of the family (income, food clothing or advocating etc) but know how to lay a silly claim to mugs and spoons and chairs he didn't even buy. 🙄

He or she is sitting in my seat was the biggest cause of fights in my house growing up.

Take the seat cushions

Or put on every piece of clothing he owns and do some lunges.