Unbelievable birthright to my couch

[stupidfoolish]

We have a couch in the living room, and my partner likes to sit on a particular side. I also like to sit there, but my partner seems to think he has a right to that spot.

This afternoon, he was sitting there while I was at my desk sorting some things out. He went upstairs and was gone for at least 10 minutes. After finishing my work, I sat in that spot and changed the channel. When he came back down, he said “no, no” and pointed to where I was sitting. I explained that no one was there when I sat down, but he responded, “I only popped upstairs.” He was visibly upset and stormed back upstairs like a sulking toddler.

AIBU to think he is wrong? Is it unreasonable to think that anyone can sit in that spot if it’s vacant, especially if he’s been upstairs for 10-15 minutes?

I have a particular mug I like to use for coffee in the morning, a specific mug for tea any time of day and a specific mug for coffee in the afternoon.

If any were dirty or in use I wouldn’t be too bothered and would use another one.

However I’d find it a bit odd that someone I lived with hadn’t noticed my preferences and would assume they’d always try to use a different mug if possible.

Re the sofa - as you both like the same spot you’re going to have to talk about how to share it.

I hate anyone going in my spot. We naturally drift towards those and l feel uncomfortable and out of sorts if l am in a different place..same at the dinner table. Everyone understands this and don't make me feel bad but go along with me.
You would want to see a teacher in the staffroom if someone uses their favourite mug and we all gravitate towards the same spot. There is no sulking but some people just like familiarity. Have you notice if you ever go to church and come back a year later most people are in the same spot. It's one of his quirks ..have a bit of mercy and go along with it.

My German Sheherd misses out the whining and sad eyes bit, and just clambers on me regardless!

The only appropriate response in this situation is: “But you left the chair area.”

That said, I’m really confused. Why do you keep buying new crockery?!

Do you have space for a second couch because that is the way to go. We had two separate comfy settees and now have a corner sofa (didn't realise they were tacky until I read it on MN). The fights to get in the corner bit, early on, were interesting but now we have found our spot DH has resigned himself to getting the worst bit. Anyway op, two sofas if you can. If not it's whoever gets there first so your DH is BU going off to the bog.

Yes, we have our preferred mugs etc. I assume this is pretty commonplace?

DH and I also have our own sofas and preferred spots on each sofa. I try and subtly persuade visitors to sit on ‘his’ sofa so I get to keep mine all to myself. 😂

I clicked, assuming the OP has just seen someone giving birth on a coach! 😂

What a man child! 😅

Yes people have their preferred spot but it should not be a problem if I am sitting in that spot

Same with mugs and cutleries. Yes you like it but if it is not available, use another- not the end of the world there is no need to sulk it's stupid and
silly.

Correction: I am sure he was gone for more than 10 mins Infact I thought he had gone to bed to have a nap.

I thought this was going to be a thread about someone giving birth next to a coach. Very disappointing.

He’s being a bit silly. Next time he could display a reserved sign 😂😂

In my house the variation is "On your feet, lose your seat"

But we do have our own seats.

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OP you sound very young. One of my parents died 3 years ago and I still don't sit in their spot on the sofa at their house!

We have our own spots here and neither DH or I would sit in each others spaces- we do give them up for visitors (it would be rude to make them move)..... Oh and we have cooking utensils (including dessert size and tea spoons) which are kept separately from the eating cutlery. Unless you both learn to compromise or stick to your own sofa spots etc you are hoping to end up arguing over stupid and pointless things which will ruin ir even end your relationship.

Unbelievable birth right to my coach (or couch!!)

OP in your thread title you say 'your' couch. Whose house is it? Whose sofa? If the house is actually yours is he marking his territory? Was it 'your' spot before he moved in or is is a joint thing?

He sounds very dogmatic about his favourites - does he dig his heels in about anything else?

I thought OP had just given birth without knowing she was pregnant, right next to her sports coach. I was ready to be invested!

He's always lived in my house bought by me with my money free of charge for 8 years & everything inside (content) is mine bought by me with my money. We now live in a rented place sourced out by me (although we now share the rent) but the content here is still mine bought by me.

Why all the crockery, though?

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He's always lived in my house bought by me with my money free of charge for 8 years & everything inside (content) is mine bought by me with my money. We now live in a rented place sourced out by me (although we now share the rent) but the content here is still mine bought by me.

Why all the crockery, though?

I love it and I don't like to use a set for more than a couple of years & it's a special treat for me and I hardly have any 🤷🏽‍♀️

I don't see having your own preference for a particular seat in your lounge as any different to having a preferred side of a double bed. In the lounge my DH is always on the 3 seater and I'm always on the 2 seater with the caveat that I also have the footstool.
Now I just need to teach the bloody cats these rules 😅

🤣🤣🤣. Oh I wish I wish I love newborn babies but those days are gone now

OP do you like this man?

These fights and jumping into his spot, and talking about "MY house, MY money, MY sofa, MY mug...", it sounds like you resent him. Sorry.

Dump this twat. He won't get any better. Manchildren never do.

I wouldn't mind moving under normal circumstances but he is always childish and moreover, I thought he had gone up to have a nap because he was gone for long and I equally like to sit there when I am downstairs which is not a lot of the time.
His claim to things are also irritating and very childish