Unbelievable birthright to my couch

[stupidfoolish]

We have a couch in the living room, and my partner likes to sit on a particular side. I also like to sit there, but my partner seems to think he has a right to that spot.

This afternoon, he was sitting there while I was at my desk sorting some things out. He went upstairs and was gone for at least 10 minutes. After finishing my work, I sat in that spot and changed the channel. When he came back down, he said “no, no” and pointed to where I was sitting. I explained that no one was there when I sat down, but he responded, “I only popped upstairs.” He was visibly upset and stormed back upstairs like a sulking toddler.

AIBU to think he is wrong? Is it unreasonable to think that anyone can sit in that spot if it’s vacant, especially if he’s been upstairs for 10-15 minutes?

I don't know if I love him anymore because of a lot of things and this childish behaviour about sulking because someone used his favourite mug or cutlery or because I sat on his spot makes it even making it worse🙄

But then, I said it is my house my couch my cutleries etc because someone asked the question

😂😂 this post has made my day.

I'd get him a single item of each so a spoon, mug, fork, knife, his very own sofa cushion and label them for him. So he can only ever use those.

Considering it seriously- they never do and are useless

What grown man sulks over his favourite mug or cutlery or spot. Especially when you are not serious about more important things in life. Mature grown people use another or sit somewhere else until available again.

What is ND?

You need to get there early and leave your towel on it 😬

Woe betite anyone who sits in my spot, uses my mugs/glass/spoon/bowl etc.

He is generally always getting on my nerves

But honestly didn't intentionally sit on that spot to get a reaction. I needed to sit and watch TV as I had finished at my desk and he had left the spot for a long time I even thought he had gone to bed for a nap..
But his reaction was irritating and annoying very childish

Growing up in the 70's our family had a formal rule that if one got up and wanted to return to their same spot they said 'save my seat'

It was a family law and if you said it you were entitled to your space back upon your return (okay occasionally there was a fight for said seat but the victor was always the one w/legal rights to it) but if you didn't say the magic phrase you heard in unison-'you snooze you lose'

then we grew into adults who didn't have to micro-control every tiny aspect of our environment.

Did he say 'save my seat?' If not he's in the wrong. LTB!

You have been with him for 20 years and this is only annoying you now?

@Cherrysoup

No, he didn't contribute a dime to it at all. I bought the house cash and bought 100% of the content.
He didn't offer to contribute anything and I didn't want him to (but never told him that) he is never serious and messing around when everyone else was building their lives, career) because of this type of behaviour.
Mind you, o do not ever restrict him from using anything freely - but is just the sulking like a child that I find irritating. If your favourite is in use or occupied , not a big deal use something else or sit somewhere else.

He didn't buy anything and he is behaving like this I dread to think of what would have happened if paid for it or contributed- I will probably have to sit on the floor now.

Honestly if DH was sitting in my spot (which he never has because we have an understanding) he would get up and move because I’ve lovingly shaped that bit of the sofa to fit my arse exactly for ten long years.

Ok you sound like he annoys the shit out of you. You aren’t obliged to keep him.

I have not got time for that.

If your spot is taken, sit somewhere else
If your favourite mug spoon is used, take another or wash your favourite. There is no need for sulking and behaving like a child.
Moreover, I am not spending a pound of my money to cater to his needs. This man child needs to grow up (he will never and I am not going to go an inch to please him- I am sick of his shit)

My edit option has disappeared. I obviously mean woe betide.

I don't understand the title.

YANBU. We have sofa spots, but if DH is sitting where I usually would, I just sit somewhere else - if the situation is reversed he does the same. It's not difficult!! DH has a favourite mug but he wouldn't fuss if I used it. I don't blame you for being fed up.

Op, your reply to my post about getting an armchair is a good option. A nice reclining one with a little table next to it for your gin/wine/chocolate etc!

(And the 'coach' typo in your op is fab. One of the best ever on MN! 😆)

I thought this was going to be about a woman having a baby.

And that whoever was their labour coach had made the experience unbelievable.

Thank you very much for your understanding.

But then most of the mugs and cutlery are part of a set, and it is rare for all of them to be in use at the same time. Additionally, there are some individual mugs he can use or wash if his preferred one is in use or dirty. That being said, I hardly ever use his so-called favorite mug; it has only happened twice.

Do you earn a lot more than him? What does he contribute to financially?

Unbelievable, birth-right to my couch.

Dh entitled acting like couch is his birthright? I'm guessing.

🤔🤔Very tempting and appealing, and I shall look into it as soon as possible to find myself a lovely recliner.

However, the problem is that he will likely lay claim to it as soon as I get it—that’s just his way. This time, though, I won’t be allowing it. I’ve had enough.

My dog is in competition with me for my spot.. sometimes I even let him win but your DH is acting like a toddler who has been handed the wrong colour cup!

When I accumulated everything and bought the house, he was earning more than me and never contributed anything. & I never asked because I knew what he is like.

Now he is earning more but hardly contributes anyway.

So it is not a case of I am contributing more hence I am tearing like xyz if that is what you are getting at

🤣🤣🤣 exactly

He is a man child