Unbelievable birthright to my couch

[stupidfoolish]

We have a couch in the living room, and my partner likes to sit on a particular side. I also like to sit there, but my partner seems to think he has a right to that spot.

This afternoon, he was sitting there while I was at my desk sorting some things out. He went upstairs and was gone for at least 10 minutes. After finishing my work, I sat in that spot and changed the channel. When he came back down, he said “no, no” and pointed to where I was sitting. I explained that no one was there when I sat down, but he responded, “I only popped upstairs.” He was visibly upset and stormed back upstairs like a sulking toddler.

AIBU to think he is wrong? Is it unreasonable to think that anyone can sit in that spot if it’s vacant, especially if he’s been upstairs for 10-15 minutes?

May I ask why you’ve put up with him not contributing for so long? Does he have health issues that prevents him earning/contributing?

Me and my DH are a bit funny about which mugs/cutlery we’ll use. I recently bought him 2 new versions of his favourite mug. He was very happy. I wouldn’t dream of using his mugs, but that’s because I’m a bit funny about using someone else’s mug. If someone were to use mine at work, I’d be cross.

I'd be giving him the heave-ho then. Like fuck would I back down to preserve someone else's perceived entitlement to a sacred spot / mug / spoon when I'm paying for everything and they've contributed bugger-all.

You both sound very weird. What's so special about the seat?

How does birth come into this??

Take the cushions. The cushions are the essence of the chair (or sofa in this case)!

Get a recliner if you want, but your problem is too much manchild rather than too few seats.

Special chair, spoon and afternoon naps. Does he also have to use the pink cup? I couldn't live with a man child and I don't think I would find this very attractive for long. Is this new behaviour?

Watch out he might hide your clothes now

Thank you.
That's what I wondered.
😂

Your birth-right. as in, the things you are entitled to by dint of who you were born to.

So if you're a toff, the family pile.

But it's not all toffs. Born in the UK you're entitled to education, the NHS etc. they are your birth-rights.

The OP is using it to say that 'D'P feels somehow like his very birth (ie being on this planet) entitles him to whichever spot on the couch he prefers. She's being sarcastic.

"Well it's not like I went to Spain"

DH and I had battles in the early days about who slept which side of the bed.
I won.

Neuro Diverse....for example ASD where routines and using the same things can be extremely important and changes cause anxiety.

Us too, genuinely thought everyone did!

I make Dh move when he sits in my spot. He’s sat in the same spot for years and has only recently decided he quite likes my spot instead. Nope, off he goes if I come in the lounge to sit down.

DH has his own spot although he freely concedes it for visitors. I go anywhere but if I am sitting somewhere and get up for any reason and one of the teen DCs hop in the spot I turf them out.

The dog and cat don't know the etiquette and often claim DH's spot. He reluctantly sidles in beside them until they move.

Also we have cups that we always use but then a pool of cups that are free for everyone to use 😁.

Birthright is one word.
No hyphen.

And I know what the word means..

Honestly much worse things than this in life to fight about. He was sitting in that spot. He didn't have to shout but Man U would be annoying.

Do you have DC together?

What does he do with his money?

All I'm seeing is 'me' 'my' 'mine'. Is there no 'we' 'our' ours' in this relationship?

There use to be but I have had enough of all the petty rubbish.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

My husband and I have been separated for 7 years and he has his own house and in my house my children still refer to the couches as being Mummy's couch and daddy's couch for similar reasons to yours so think yourself lucky! 🤣

He’ll claim the armchair!